Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?

As a hetero looking at the abuse you guys receive...... The ignorance of the "conservatives" or the Christian Right, preaching love whilst condemning and insulting all.

Obvs not all Christians, and not all Conservatives, but you guys know who I mean.

As trans ftm, i think it's misgendering for purpouse. It hurts.

As a heteroromantic asexual...I'm often too straight to be LGBTQ+, too queer to be NOT LGBTQ+.

The casual homophobia EVERYWHERE. People just tossing out ‘gay’ or the f-slur without even thinking about it, in normal conversation.

Also, the dismissal. I’m ace and most of the people I tell are like, oh everyone has a phase like that you’ll meet the right person someday, even my aggressively liberal, accepting mother.

Having to do thorough research before you go on holiday: “How safe is X for gay people?”

Straight people go wherever they want. But there are entire countries and near continents that we have to rule out because of prejudice, intolerance and persecution.

My friends are astonished when we say that but it’s the truth. They look at the hotel decor, local amenities and cultural sites. I check those, plus the likelihood of being arrested or killed.

Telling people my pronouns.

We have this LGBTQIAP+ kid at my school. They're pretty nice, except for the fact that they won't stop talking about their identity and sexuality. In every conversation where they had a chance to bring up their identity, pronouns, or sexuality they would. And frankly, many people got annoyed and stopped talking to them. Multiple people tried to convey their feelings, but it didn't work. I don't want to seem like I'm constantly telling everyone to use they/them pronouns, to the point of not telling anyone.

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For my personal journey it was thinking I was broken. Once I knew the terms that fit me, it was this strange mix of... Overly supportive, but incorrect. Oh demi sexual isn't a thing, so "you must secretly be gay, you can tell us, we love you!" Due to medical stuff I don't have boobs (cisf) and it's very obvious when I dress tomboyish but colorful, someone goes, "excuse me," long pause and stare directly at no-boobs, "sir." Someone grins and talks about how he's progressive for people like me, calling me he, while I cringe bc it feels dumb to have any opinions when people are literally being murdered for what I'm getting. Tldr I don't have it hard and it still sucks somehow lol.

1. Casual homophobia (or any other LGBTQ-phobia: biphobia, aphobia, transphobia, etc.) that's so subtle cishet people act like you're crazy when you pick up on it and say something. Just because you don't get it doesn't mean it isn't happening.

2. How much homophobia do I put up with, and how much do I call out? This may seem pretty black and white at first, but I've come to see it's a spectrum. I know someone who's generally accepting with the occasional bit of homophobia through ignorance; someone who isn't accepting but doesn't say hurtful things except, again, through ignorance; and somebody who is just blatantly homophobic. It gets even harder when you factor in who you're out to and if saying something will out you. And besides, maybe I don't have the energy for it today, maybe it'll turn into an argument, maybe it's just not my job to educate people.

1.having omniphobia even in LGBTQ my sexuality IS real and it does NOT invalidate any other sexualities!
2 people acting differently to me once they learn I'm apart of the lgbtqia+ community.

The blatant disregard for us.
some pretty straight woman is hurt? everyone in the news freaks out and the culprit is charged with all this stuff
trans youth is hate crimed/killed? police dont bat an eye

casual dropping of slurs and just general abuse suck too

Never feeling like you can show affection to your other half - my husband - in public, for fear of being “caught”. Chances are that no one would care. But you’d still get the odd look, maybe abuse. But to spend your life touching one another’s hand discreetly and stealing a kiss when no one is looking always reminds you that the world isn’t as accepting as it claims to be.

Abrosexual demigirl:

I’ve been told by members of the LGBT community that abrosexual isn’t real. Yes it fooooooking is!

And also constantly being deadnamed. It hurts.

And finally, my family won’t let me go to a specialized therapy for my PTSD because the therapist uses pronouns so she’s automatically woke. We don’t have much choices here due to insurance, and I’m actively struggling.

Among all the bullying, killings and other slag we deal with, one i personally find the most exhausting is when people who are uneducated on the topic scream about how bad we are.

Like, there are people out there who actually think that being a part of the LGBTQ+ means that you are a pedophile and the whole community is a ploy to get their kids (wtf). People who think that being transgender is a choice or that the parents of trans kids somehow failed. People who think being gay is some new trend and that it is unnatural. People who somehow cannot accept the fact that gender is a social construct and that intersex people very much exist.

It is annoying to constantly correct them on things they could learn by using Google...or maybe just paying attention in high school biology classes.

Not being able to tell my parents because im afraid of how they will react.

being barked at by kids at my school who apparently can't tell the difference between queer people and animals gets annoying

"you'll turn the children gay!!" well ur turning them straight, so....

"that goes against my religion" No👏one 👏cares. also worry about ur self u do u and ill do me.

also why is being gay, lesbian, bi etc. automatically sexually? like ur son having a crush on a girl is cute but on another boy? its because "there unsheltered and r going to be stripers and blah blah blah. "

well 1million other things but i got to go.... love u alll , stay safe and we are here for a safe community so f off trolls

Queer Christian here- one of the biggest issues I've seen is people not realizing they can disagree but shouldn't harm. Just because you disagree doesn't mean your right, and it gives you NO right to hurt others who disagree with you.
I think it's ok to disagree with the LGBTQ+ community. But even though it says you shouldn't be queer in the bible( it's funny, actually, all it says is no gay marriages or intercourse, so technically I can still have a boyfriend lol), a lot of people do things that the bible goes against. Physical harm? Child abuse? Hating others because of their opinion? All of these things, and more, are wrong in the bible, yet, it seems like we've seen that somewhere... hmm... Also let me tell you, it says "no gay" like twice in all 2,000 so pages, and it talks a LOT about treating others with kindness and respect.
I truly believe prophets then saw our time, and that's why they keep repeating it over and over again. It's also why the 2nd greatest commandment, only behind "love thy god", is "love thy neighbor". That includes, and definitely isn't limited to: queer people, atheists, people of other religions, people of other skin colors, people of all ages, people of other political views, and so, so much more.
If Jesus Christ, our Lord and savior, came down today, he would treat everyone with respect- Even us queer people. There is nothing we can do to change that.
It is kinda ironic that there are some queer atheists who have a better chance of getting to heaven that some devoted christians lol

There's a group of dumb kids who try to look cool in my PE class. They would always be like "Ewwwww that's so gay!" as something bad or gross. Like, they look genuinely disgusted.
I even remember when I was in elementary school 5th graders even PATROLS would insult each other by calling each other gay.
They would say to each other: "EW, BRO, are you gay?"
"I'm not gay, gross!"
What's wrong with being gay? Even if you are not, let's try to be acceptable to all sexualities, races, gender, culture, etc. Why is "that's gay" being used as an insult? Some rude people always think gay is some kind of cooty or germ.

People assume being LGBTQ is your whole personality. Oh, and people view you differently. And people think it's just a phase.

jerkwads (my own mother called them a******s) misgendering and deadnaming me, as well as calling me slurs. like, STFU. to quoth taylor swift, "You need to calm down, You're being too loud"