Hey Pandas, What Are Some Red Flags That People Ignore?

If they gossip about other people, they're gonna gossip about you too.

Not liking or abusing animals

If your partner is agressive with others or jealous way too easily.

When a friend makes mean jokes about you aka bullies you and passes it off as their sense of humor. I don´t mean playful teasing either- I mean when they basically try to make you feel awful about yourself for fun

Regarding work; ask the boss about employees during your interview - how long have they worked there for example. If people quit after a short time - it should tell you something.

they constantly tear you down, say sorry, then go right back to doing it. this is also a family issue , if someone does this, try to get help :(

If your partner doesn't stop something you specifically told them to

When they put the guilt for a problem they created on you and/or blame their bad actions / decisions on what you did to them to act that way.

Either they want you to feel guilty or push you in a defensive postition to cut off criticism aimed at them

Racism

"There are only two things I can't stand in this world: People who are intolerant of other people's cultures and the Dutch." Nigel Powers.

Going through your phone, it's a complete invasion of privacy

People who talk smack about someone and then immediately go hang out with them. High chance that they're doing that to you as well.

When that glass of wine becomes two, then more than two, then you start finding empty bottles in the morning...and they say pass it off as "you had some too" when you know you didn't.

People seem to equate that time passed = being forgiven for being a shitty person. For example people who keep demanding you to lend them money every now and then but don't pay it back.

"He only hit me once/she only hit me once/they only hit me once"

People who are mean or rude to service staff. Weather it’s retail workers or Waiters or waitresses. How someone interacts with others really reveals their true character and how they may eventually treat you.

Red flag on medical personnel: If they don't examine you while paying attention to *your words only*. If they're on a phone or talking to your partner, bail. B/c they're not caring about you.

Dating Red Flag: If the person speaks of their Ex and NEVER says a single nice thing about them.

Be wary of roommates, partners and friends who want to put bills and/or charges in your name and will 'give you the cash' or pay you back. Whether it's utilities or a phone, it's usually a sign they have bad credit if they can't get it themselves. It seems like common sense but it's the #1 thing that people go to court over and it's shocking how many people I know who buy their boyfriends phones or let them borrow some money with the intention of paying it back but never get anything in writing. Make sure you have something in writing. If they refuse to sign it or make a big deal out of it, it's a huge red flag. Same with major business that will only accept cash, like car dealerships. They may be trying to scam you. Make sure money doesn't leave your hand until a receipt is given and make sure that receipt is detailed with exactly what is paid for and how much is left to pay, or paid in full is written on it with the date. A generic piece of paper won't hold up in court. Make sure it's signed and/or has the business letterhead.

If you have a fight and instead of trying to talk it out and resolve the problem, they throw insults and say mean things just to hurt you. Then when it's over they say "oh, baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean those things I said!" Nah, don't believe it, get out while you can.

If they arn't there when you need them, you don't need to be there when they need you.