Hey Pandas, What Are Some Green Flags You've Seen On Dates Where You Knew They Were The One?

Mine wasn’t even a date. My car needed a new catalytic converter and I was really worried about the cost. I didn’t even think to ask my bf at the time as we’d only been seeing each other a couple of months at most. He showed up from out of town, traded cars with me, and took my car to his mechanic a couple hours away. And he paid for it. It was amazing to me because I’d never had anyone take care of me like that. We’ve been married for 11 years now.

He didn't speak ill of his ex when we discussed prior relationships.

We aren't together anymore but still close friends.
The very first thing he said after I told him that I wanted to break up but still wanted to be friends was if I was okay. Not why, not trying to market himself or argue with me, but asked me if I was okay. And when I said no, he didn't pry or push to know why I wasn't (I eventually told him later and he understood). I still admire him for it.

A green flag from my relationship was (still is) listening. I know it sounds like this should be a basic thing in all relationships, but a little bit of background. I am an extreme optimist and can see good in both scenarios... if that makes sense. I am able to talk to my partner and share my deep thoughts about something and get an "okay I understand, but what I think..." we can have conversations about ANYTHING and never turn into an argument of either of us feeling like the other made us feel dumb about having the opinion.

First date, he opened the car door for me. A gentleman, thought I. We've been together for 21 years, married for nearly 19 of those years. He is still a gentleman (with a tendency to make extremely bad puns)

Started a new job and my coworker and I had a long drive. I remember how nice it was that the lapses in conversation seemed natural, not awkward. He saw me all sweaty and covered with mud and I never felt that he cared if I didn't look perfect all the time. I've never been more comfortable just being myself with anyone. Married for fifteen years and three kids later, were still happily having adventures together.

My (now wife) didn't try to fundamentally change who I am as a person. Accepted me for who I am.

When I told him about my struggles with my mental health on Roblox, he said that he went through the same thing that I’m going through, and we just sat and talked for a while, and I felt a spark between us. He’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met, and now we’re boyfriends and we’re dating.

We met in college and from the beginning, he spoke so highly of his family, showing respect and care for his parents and siblings. It showed me how much he valued family. Forty-plus years later, my suspicions are confirmed. He is a good partner, a good dad to our two grown children and is still close with his siblings and with my sister, too.

I hadn't dated in years but on a first date with my (now) wife, she put up with me stroking her hand and saying "I can't believe this is happening!" like some utter simple-minded lovesick idiot, and didn't dump my a*s straight afterwards like she should've! 23 years we've been together and she still loves to bring up how cringe-making that was!

Before we were even dating, he walked up behind me and put his arms around me. I didn't have the urge to do an elbow jab and backwards face punch like I usually wanted to when people did that to me (long story) so I thought about my non-reaction and asked him out on a date. That was over 30 years ago.

On our first date in 2004, I had gotten ready 30 minutes before he was supposed to show up but he was 15-20 minutes late. I figured I had been stood up since it had happened a few times before we even met. I had washed my face and got into my pajamas when I heard him knocking frantically. He had taken a wrong turn away from my apartment. He apologized by saying "I lefted when I should've righted!" I thought he was adorable looking and acting. I got ready again and we had a great time together. We have been together ever since then and got married in 2009. He has shown me numerous times he does not give up at anything.

This isn't mine, it belongs to @lauralett50
They put it in the generally comments and I figured no one scrolls that far down, so I thought I would put it in

"Even though we are half a world apart,we care deeply for each other . It's hard to be so far apart, but we are making it work . We talk ,share time, laugh ,cry . Just spend time together. Share our day with each other. It crazy to think that only 4 months have gone by, he is my soulmate. Something just clicked, between us. It's hard to explain this to you. Green flags from the start"

We laughed and talked for over 2 hours at a Tim Hortons on our first date (we met online). We have been together ever since and we still laugh and talk all the time 16 years later! He is my best friend and we make each other laugh every day.

I went to Saudi Arabia on 2014, 4 , 30 and I saw one nice ,big and green flag.

I told a guy on our first date, I fart a lot. He laughed so hard and today he still laughs every time I fart... and my respond... i told you in advance!!! I have very sensitive gut.

Theres more to it but when you meet the green flag guy... your gut just knows ;). PS: He's a good farter too. i met my match!

On my first date with my now husband, he "met" some of my family and handled it like a pro. He already knew my parents and a couple of my brothers way before I came into the picture. When he came to pick me up one of my younger brothers (19 at the time) shook his hand and wouldn't let go until he told him if he broke my heart he'd have to answer to him. I had gotten out of an abusive relationship a couple of months prior and baby bro wasn't going to let that happen again! His response was "NEVER!" (My brother was about 6" inches taller, 10 yrs younger and muscular) But the best part was when we got to his car he of course opened the door and had a stuffed animal and a flower for me, he found out my birthday was the day before. We just celebrated 30+yrs together. I'm almost certain that if that were me, I would have headed for the hills!

We were hanging out at his place watching a horror movie, when he mentioned to me 'yeah, I watched this one beforehand to make sure there wasn't any needles so you didn't get super freaked out' (I have a major fear of needles it's almost debilitating. So having someone care enough to do that for me made me know he was the one)

He didn't have to try to make me laugh

Just when I resigned myself to being alone for the rest of my life after a bad breakup with the man I THOUGHT I would be spending the rest of my life with, I was at a mutual friend's party when I was chatting with a guy that is just as shy in groups as me.
He (my now husband) got my phone number from someone at the party and called me the next week. I didn't remember him,....at first. We dated and I was upfront about not being good at keeping a spotless home. He didn't run away screaming. Almost 20 years later, and we've been married for close to 18 years of that.