Hey Pandas, What Advice Would You Give Someone Going Through A Rough Patch In Life? (Closed)

The best advice I ever got came from my grandma, she used to say to me, "If it's meant to be it will" and she was right whenever something blew up in my face, she'd remind me, "it wasn't meant to be, don't worry something better will come along" and it always did. Even now if something happens, I just remember, it wasn't meant to be and something better is coming. And it always does. Divorce? it wasn't meant to be, something better is coming. Didn't get that "dream job?" It wasn't meant to be, something better is coming. That dream house / apt fell through? "wasn't meant to be, something better is coming." Just remember that.

Realizing that everything passes and changes helps me personally.

If no one will listen - I will.
If no one will hold you - I will.
If no one will love you - I will.
If you cannot see the light I will guide you.
I will see the beauty in you until you can see it for yourself.
I will see the strong, capable person you are.
And some day soon when the storm settles in your mind, you will love yourself as I do.

Be kind, understanding, and supportive as possible. Offer to listen if they can talk about and if they can’t yet, for whatever reason, let them know you are available when they can talk. Be present for people if you notice something is wrong or they act strangely, even if they act like everything is okay or that they don't need your help, they might be struggling a lot. Sometimes just knowing that there is someone waiting for you helps a lot.

“Who’s going to chop your arm off?” Whenever I was dealing with something and breaking down over stress my mom would ask, “who’s going to chop your arm off over this?” It was her way of putting things into perspective. My assignment is going to be late? Sure, I’ll lose some points, maybe be reprimanded, maybe not do as well in the class, but I can deal with all those things. No one is actually going to chop my arm off over it. Got into a car accident? Yep, have to pay the deductible, rates go up, feel foolish, but nobody was going to come at me with an axe. It sounds so morbid and awful but it really helped me get out of my own head and get to the business of dealing with the problem at hand.

If you are diagnosed with Depression, severe or otherwise, follow your care provider's instructions to a "t." Don't stop taking your meds because you "feel better." You "feel better" BECAUSE you're taking your meds. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. People will understand and support you MUCH more than you think. Also, take care of yourself. FORCE yourself to go for a walk- even if it's just to the sidewalk and back. Just keep moving even if it seems impossible. Some days you won't do anything and that's fine. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just try again the next day. Whatever you do, do NOT give up! NEVER surrender to it.

the best advice i have ever gotten came from tumblr (lol). it goes something like "the grass is not greener on the other side. it's greener where you water it. so take control of your life and start making your grass greener. because then cows will come. everyone loves cows ;)"

Keep your chin up, eye's forward, no one gets out alive anyways. Show them how strong you are by keeping a brave face.

Talk to someone or 2 or 3 people who you can trust. It's better to get an outsider's view on what you're going through as by yourself, it's really easy to convince yourself that you're no good.
Remember that life always changes and things won't always be like they are now. Try to identify what the issues are that you have, make a list and try to address them one at a time, starting with the easiest. It's often hard to get things done even if they're basic things, so get into a habit of forcing yourself to completing small tasks. It should become a habit to do things then, which will help you feel better about yourself.
There can be an answer, but don't keep it to yourself as it will be a lot harder.
All the best.

My Godsister once said, "if you are going through some tough times, you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other until you get to the other side" It might take a while, but I hope whatever it is, you triumph over adversity, and know that you do have a community behind you.

My depression felt (Still feels like it sometimes) like storm clouds in my head blocking any light from getting in.

The clouds will clear, maybe not today, but they will and the light will come in.

Obviously, I have no idea what you or anyone else who has posted has gone through. But having lived with Bipolar for 45 years, in a family where depression runs rampant, having been through nearly countless medications and counselors, I speak from experience. The only thing that has helped me for more than a few weeks at a time, is prayer.

This is going to sound cliche but, don't give up.

Hello beautiful! I used to despise myself to be insecure and depressed, looking at the floor everytime I was in front of a mirror. My husband would hug me right in front of it and would tickle and kiss me until I looked at myself. He would say: look at those eyes!! Deep and fierce. Look at that raven hair! Look at that beautiful nose! You are such a beauty!! A sexy perfect godess!! We are still and will always be together and I assure that someday, sooner or later without even looking for it, you will find someone, that will be there by your side, a family member, a friend, your true love or whomever. All I can tell you by now is: It's okay to cry, to shout to fall into despair at times but think about the most beautiful things that make life worth living. Think that today someone, somewhere is marrying their true love. Think that today is the best day of someone's life. Think of every satisfying thing that you have noticed or any mindblowing happy coincidence you have known about. Think that every single day there are wonderful people, doing unexpected acts of kindness. Think that there are so many people that actually love you and you don't even notice how much they care. Cherish the good companions

My Grandmother said, "You gotta use your faith. God walks with you always. So keep putting one foot in front of the other". TRUTH.

When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on! (think I read that in Reader's Digest long, long ago)

Suicide is never a question.

Just keep swimming, just keep swimming. :)

Depression is normal, especially during these times! Know that you're not alone in your feelings. You're a good, normal person who is going through a difficult time, like so many others. Spend some time contemplating the good in your life and the world. If you have some changes you would like to make, list them. Then, although it's hard to work up the gumption to do them, make a list of small things that you are sure you can accomplish. When you accomplish them, be sure to pat yourself on the back. We feel best when we are putting forth positive and treating ourselves well.

This too, shall pass.

I use that as motivation. Everything that is thrown our way, we all push through together but always go back and see if there's any way we can help others struggling as well. That's why I went into the music therapy field. It may sound cheesy, but you gotta keep swimmin'. However, if you're feeling down, indeed, you should for sure talk to a trusted individual about it, be it an adult, teacher, friend, family member, etc.

Wishing you the best, mate!