One of the best acts of revenge I have ever done is "living well". Let me explain.
Growing up, I was the victim of horrendous abuse at the hands of a cruel and vicious stepmother. She was relentless about destroying my self confidence, my self worth and my relationship with my father who as his only child and very much loved, she was jealous of. Over the years, I developed a lot of trauma and as many people do, I turned to rebellious means. I also developed an addiction to substances. She had a daughter from her first marriage and together, they had my half sister. Both of them could do no wrong in life.. (I am the oldest daughter in this blended family.)
Over the years, I'd heard anything from me being a "pi**e of sh*t" to never amounting to anything in my life. These mantras stuck with me and I carried this with me for decades. It became my identity.
Now, fast forward to the present and cue revenge: the daughter of my step mother has had 10 kids and my parents were forced to take care of and raise them because her and her deadbeat husband were so neglectful and lazy that the kids were living in squalor and filth. My husband and I shelled out $5,000 to help them with getting everything the kids needed in 2008 when my parents took custody of them. My younger sister had to stay living at my parents house to assist with caring for so many kids and it caused her and her husband to split up and her son wanted to live with his Dad instead of having to share his life with a bunch of kids. (I love my nieces and nephews but they're a handful since they are all autistic and have special needs.)
I did end up spending time in the correctional services in my home state but today, I have graduated college with a 3.9GPA, I have a successful career in behavioral health and my own side business. (The stepdaughter never graduated from high school and the other one did). My husband and I own not one but two Harleys and we bought a sailboat in 2021 and are planning to move to the ocean in 6mos.
Meanwhile, the stepsister is living in a tiny converted shed on my parents property because they would be homeless due to wrecking their lives all the way around and my youngest sister is still living at home.
Growing up, I was the victim of horrendous abuse at the hands of a cruel and vicious stepmother. She was relentless about destroying my self confidence, my self worth and my relationship with my father who as his only child and very much loved, she was jealous of. Over the years, I developed a lot of trauma and as many people do, I turned to rebellious means. I also developed an addiction to substances. She had a daughter from her first marriage and together, they had my half sister. Both of them could do no wrong in life.. (I am the oldest daughter in this blended family.)
Over the years, I'd heard anything from me being a "pi**e of sh*t" to never amounting to anything in my life. These mantras stuck with me and I carried this with me for decades. It became my identity.
Now, fast forward to the present and cue revenge: the daughter of my step mother has had 10 kids and my parents were forced to take care of and raise them because her and her deadbeat husband were so neglectful and lazy that the kids were living in squalor and filth. My husband and I shelled out $5,000 to help them with getting everything the kids needed in 2008 when my parents took custody of them. My younger sister had to stay living at my parents house to assist with caring for so many kids and it caused her and her husband to split up and her son wanted to live with his Dad instead of having to share his life with a bunch of kids. (I love my nieces and nephews but they're a handful since they are all autistic and have special needs.)
I did end up spending time in the correctional services in my home state but today, I have graduated college with a 3.9GPA, I have a successful career in behavioral health and my own side business. (The stepdaughter never graduated from high school and the other one did). My husband and I own not one but two Harleys and we bought a sailboat in 2021 and are planning to move to the ocean in 6mos.
Meanwhile, the stepsister is living in a tiny converted shed on my parents property because they would be homeless due to wrecking their lives all the way around and my youngest sister is still living at home.
Basically, I am the only one of the daughters who has done anything successful in life. I've been married for 23 years now to the most amazing Man who believes in my success and never gave up on me. I've got really great relationships with my children and I am over 5yrs clean from substance use. I've overcome the trauma and now help others do the same thing for a career!
Anyone who might relate to being told that they are never going to amount to anything and they will never succeed, I am living proof that it can happen, just believe in your own abilities and "live well"...
Anyone who might relate to being told that they are never going to amount to anything and they will never succeed, I am living proof that it can happen, just believe in your own abilities and "live well"...