Hey Pandas, Share What Family Secrets You Have Found Out (Closed)

I had a twin sister who died after a few days of our birth. No one in my family (extended included) mentions her. I recently turned seventeen when my dad mentioned her for the first time to me and my younger brother. He also told us not to tell our mom that we now know about her. When he mentioned her, he was really sad and looked in so much pain, I didn't have the guts to ask anything.

my mom and dads first bf and gf were siblings and that’s how they met, BUT my mom’s bf proposed to her, she said no, he got mad and broke up with her. my dad went to her house (cause they knew each other from the peeps they dated) and was like “do you want me to beat his a*s?” she said no, and then my dads gf came, thought they were *AHEM* doing things, broke up with him and my dad was like “hey *moms name* wanna date?” and that’s how they started dating i guess.

My mother he was very religious, always seeking God, never seeming to find him. When she died, I was executor of her estate. I was going through her personal documents when I saw a written exercise she was doing for a religious study: what sins she felt she needed forgiveness for. One of them was that she felt guilty and unworthy of God because she was molested by her uncle and cousin when she was in grade school and her entire family blamed her for "tempting" them. She went to her grave believing she was responsible for a crime committed against her. Broke my heart to learn that. She never told any of us.

My surname is a lie.... It was just the pseudonym used by my grandfather to gain his British citizenship in 1908.....

Took a DNA test via one of the genealogy groups. I don't have a large extended family, and know all my cousins, etc., or so I thought. Nothing unusual showed up until last year, when a seemingly impossibly close match turned up. It turned out to be a half-uncle none were aware of. When I started looking into our genealogy, my dad said he didn't want to know anything that turned up. My father, now in his 90s, had a half brother all his life that he never knew about... and still doesn't. The DNA caught my grandfather fooling around - 90+ years after the fact.

My father and his siblings have an older, mentally disabled sister living in a care home that nobody except my grandparents know about. I only found out because when my father died her legal carertaker messaged me about information about the inheritance.

Still a secret, since nobody talks to me anyways ¯_(ツ)_/¯

My dad:
1. Had seggs with a random lady he met while he was married to my mum
2. Lied to me about it for 5 years
3. Is getting married to this person in march
4. Is inviting someone who sexually abused me to said wedding.

Life sucks :)

In 1916 my 16 year old maternal grandmother hopped a train from New Jersey to California and married a dying veteran. It was planned by him to have someone to leave his pension to. Then grandma and a girlfriend went to visit South Dakota where she met my Canadian grandfather and married him in 1920. The 1st husband died in 1923.

My paternal German great grandmother never married but had 10 children with a german soldier. She told my grandfather he should go to America because things were getting sketchy in Germany. He came to America in 1911 (when you had to have a sponsor) met and married my Swiss grandmother.

My dad was in love with a girl but she died in a car crash. I dont think they were a couple but im not sure. This was before he dated my mother. Heard it from my aunt.
Also, my younger sister had a crush on a high school teacher, an old and balding man. She wrote him a note confessing her crush, he turned her down (ofcourse!). I know from a cousin.
When my other sister was pregnant, her hb confessed he had a child from a previous relationship but he has no contact with the kid. My sister told me and our mother. We never told any of our siblings. Her hb - now ex - was also in debts and charged for other s**t we found out later.
For lots of reasons I have no contact with these sisters anymore and for the better, it was a lot of drama.

Not really a secret but I was told about it quite late, when my granddad died. Appearently my mother didn't had a good upbringing and my granddad wasnt a good dad or husband.
He was in the army, identified very much with that thing, but also felt like him, as the only man in the Home, should be boss.
Discussions with him werent possible without fighting because his opinion would be the only correct opinion.
He could be pretty aggressive too, with language, sometimes my mom and her sisters got hit too. Also by my grandmother, I should add.
Theres a story about my granddad coming home drunk and was shouting nonsense and saluting with his gun in the hallway so my nine year old mum hided in the closet because she was (obviously) scared...
All in all a pretty bad atmosphere to raise your kids.

He also said some pretty rough things about my mentally disabled brother too.

I understand that he also had his own trauma that could explain his behaviours to a point. Hes been through the second world war, escaped from Pomerania to Germany (where we live today) when he was 13 years old, was forced to watch his own cousin getting raped.

Still, Im so sorry for my mum that she had to had a childhood like this.

my grandma's brother is married to his cousin. also my cousins are best friends with the jonas brothers.

I found out not long ago from a family member that after they went through several rounds of invitro that finally resulted in success, apparently with triplets, one fetus had to be aborted to save the other two. I don't think anyone else in my family knows and I'm not about to say anything.

My great-grandparents came here from Ireland about the time of the second potato famine. My grandmother was orphaned at an early age, and she and her brother grew up in an orphanage. At some point, they were sent west on an "Orphan Train" and lived with a family in Missouri. After a while, she came back east, married some guy at age 16, then said she didn't want to live with him. She got divorced and went back to the orphanage. A few years later she married my grandfather.
My cousin did some excellent research, for which I will always be grateful. We don't think anyone in the family ever knew any of this, including my dad and his siblings.

my great grandmother, who was the sweetest person on this earth, had a first husband that not a lot of people knew about. he was super abusive and an alcoholic so she left him and her first two children are his. one of those first two kids took from his dad and over dosed before i was born.

On vacation with my divorced parents, 15 years old, not sure why they signed up for the same trip. Anyway, my inebriated dad shares with me that I have a 1/2 sister born to my mom 2 years before me and put up for adoption #instantsiblingjustaddrum

that my grandfather wasn't my biological one.my uncle said it in passing. never even asked mom

Learned about a kid my father had between me(39) and bro(41). There are more, so the story goes

My dog is gay.

We only learnt about it after my Grandma passed away.. her sister was actually her mother.
At a young age her sister fell pregnant after being r*ped. It was all hidden and her mother took the baby on as her own.. apparently no one questioned why her and a sibling were 6months apart in age.

I've recently connected with my birth family. Found out I have a slightly younger brother in Japan. My father refuses to give my sister and I any information on him. I'm hoping someday he'll show up on my list of relatives on Ancestry.com.