Hey Pandas, I Wanted To Ask Why Have You Decided Not To Have Children? (Closed)

I would be a terrible parent. Neither I nor my child would be happy and i don't want to inflict that on either of us. I need my silence and solitude and me-time, i could not deal with a child all the time.

I want to make the world a better place and I think I could do that better if I didn’t have to raise a child. I just don’t think having more children is a responsible thing to do when the world is collapsing around us and I think nature conservation or helping wild animals or something would make the world better

Because I don't.

I don’t like kids, and I would hate to be responsible for one for the rest of its life.

So very many things. I don't like babies, the sound of a crying baby makes me want to jam an oyster fork in my ear. I keep the tv remote at the ready like a gunslinger to mute it if it comes on. I don't even like the smell of the baby aisle in the supermarket.

I don't want to wreck my body, I don't want to get woken up all night long, I don't want a baby/toddler clinging to me for years. I don't want to host or go to kids' birthday parties.
The thought of mommy groups and play dates makes me shudder.

I don't want to deal with tantrums and driving them to a million places. I don't want my car to smell like curdled milk and vomit. I don't want to change a sh*tty diaper. Ever.

I have no patience and would make a terrible mother. The world is a horrible place and I wouldn't want to subject another person to it when there are already so many unwanted kids. I read horror stories about awful kids all the time, what if I went through all that effort and that's what I ended up with? What if I dedicated my body, love, time, money and soul to them and they just ended up blaming me for everything wrong in their life and hating me? I see a lot of those stories, too. No, thanks.

And what if I had a disabled child? Am I willing to give up my entire life in perpetuity to care for them 24/7? Absolutely not. I don't want anyone making demands on my time. I am simply not mother material. Everything about it repulses me. I recognize it and I'm fine with that. My life is peaceful and secure, just how I like it.

tl;dr: So very many reasons

I've known I never want to have kids since I was a kid myself. I think it began when I saw an animated documentary about babies and it clearly showed that the mother is in pain when giving birth, so when watching I decided that I'm never going to have a baby because I don't like pain.
When growing up I realized that I really don't like kids. I don't even find human babies cute at all. Now I'm 31 and still don't want kids. I love the silence and cleanness in my home, and I need time for my hobbies. I'm lucky because all my relatives are very open-minded and supportive for my decision.
I'm also aroace, I don't desire a relationship with anyone and I'm very probably sex-repulsed, so...

I don't want kids and don't need kids to make my life complete.

I am a really maternal person and I do genuinely believe I could, some day be a good mom... but I am a good enough mom at this point to know that I am not ready to be one. My friends are all having kids and that's good for them.
My nephew is just over a year and is the sweetest and I absolutely am in that phase where I actively need to remind myself of all the reasons I'm not going to be a mum right now.

I had a plan and things didn't go according to it and that is grand scheme fine but I am mature enough to know that in my current position, I would not be able to ensure the best opportunity for a child. My husband and I don't own a house, we have a roommate to save money. I do freelance so my income is not guaranteed but is something I am building experience by doing. I do not have a career 'started' ie. Nowhere to return back to post munchkin. It's important to me that we have stability and a safe environment. My MIL is pushing about it since she wants her grand kids to grow up as close as her sons were as kids. My FIL (they are divorced) also keeps asking... however my SIL and BIL were together 10yrs, married for 4 before the wee lad. I've been with DH for 5yrs, married 2yrs and am 4yrs younger than my SIL.

They were established in their careers and had money to quickly buy a house. I want a house, dog and baby in that order. Luckily, my husband agrees. I don't want to be rushed by others. Both my husband and I want 2-4kids and realistically, we don't want large gaps while we figure things out, that's why it is so important to us that we get as many ducks in a row as possible first. The other reason is because fostering and adoption is very important to me (we only want 1 bio baby). Until we have a proper stable environment we won't be able to be vetted for either.

Two reasons: one is that I keep seeing kids I adored becoming stupid grown ups and that scares me; two - and I never told anyone that - I convinced myself I didn't want kids because my cycle is messed up and I'm afraid (baselessly) I can't have them

I don't feel the need to. (That's reason enough)(Besides enviromental and money issues)

It's too expensive to have a kid for me. I'm barely scraping by as it is and don't even have my own place. In addition to that, I happen to be a gay man. The amount of paperwork and screening processes that it would take for me to adopt a kid would be near impossible for me and my partner even if we wanted a child. Safe to say, even though I want a kid one day its irresponsible for me to have one and I won't endanger others by doing so and not being prepared for all that entails.

Because I have a number of interacting disabilities, and my own support needs are unmet - adding a child to the mix just wouldn't be fair to them.

I knew I didn't want kids in high school. Being pregnant for nine months, morning sickness, cant eat/ drink certain things, then the painful birth....nope, not for me! Plus, newborns are so fragile, with that head on a string, I'd be afraid of doing something wrong! All behind me now, 56 years old and no regrets!

Though I knew at 15 that I would never marry or have kids, it was only in the last few years that I worked out why. At 15, I looked around at the other kids going all googy-eyed and silly over their crushes - and just couldn't develop the same feelings - not for males or females. It seemed to me that "falling in love" meant being wilfully blind to other people's shortcomings, being stupid, in fact about relationships. I just couldn't feel it (whatever "it" was). As time went by, I looked around at marriages and partnerships, and saw how few were mutually beneficial and loving. It's not like I couldn't l feel love because I have always felt love - friends, family, animals, places - but not romantic love or sexual attraction. Also I like kids but only other people's. I can relate so long before I need to go off and be quiet. I would have made a terrible mother, but I do make a reasonable aunt and teacher. Only in the last few years have I realised that I'm an asexual aromantic plus probably also with ADHD and/or autism. I'm high functioning but not parent material. Kudos to all effective parents! You're legends.

the reason why i decided to not have children is because. one i I could die giving birth. Two i want to help the world and kids will only slow me down. There are twelve cats outside my house. they are my children

Have you read a newspaper? The world continues to go from bad to worse. I cannot figure out why anyone willingly brings innocents into it.

i would hate to pass on my mental and physical issues to a child. i can't handle that big of a long term responsibility, and it will allow me to focus on my life and take care of myself.

My parents came to the conclusion years ago that they only way they were getting grandkids out of me is if they came out with four feet, fur and whiskers!

My theory was… If I gave birth to a litter of kittens I would make world news and I would probably be set for life with the rights to my story.

Plus… if MY kids got pregnant, I could sell the grandkids!

I had an incredibly unhappy childhood. My parents had severe mental health issues, which they took out on me. Therefore, I would have no idea how to be a proper parent.

Because I have a genetic disease that I’m very likely to pass on in a more severe form to my child. I love my life, pain and all, but I won’t knowingly put someone on this world who may be in much more pain than me but not be as optimistic as I am. A pregnancy would be a huge strain on my own body as well, and my health will likely decline permanently because of it.
Also I’m asexual, so knowing what I need to do before I can even get pregnant - no thanks 😇