Hey Pandas, How Has A Negative Comment Online Affected You? (Closed)

Expressing an unpopular opinion on Bored Panda and being downvoted. Seems unfair when opposing points of views offend me but I don't downvote them. I believe in freedom of speech; some people here not so much.

Well, not really a negative comment from someone else( though I've had those) but thanks to autism and the related social anxiety, I regularly just inadvertently sabotage any chance at making a connection with anyone. It's like no matter how hard I try to focus, the crazy seeps through..... I'll look at a reply I've made or something I've posted and will just sink into a massive pit of self loathing for weeks.... It's like nothing any one else could say to me could be worse than what I say to myself.... ( and now I'm anxious about posting something about being anxious!!! LOL)

Being ridiculed for sharing my personal belief towards dating (called worse than a pig, that I deserve to be alone etc). That belief: saving my virginity for marriage, and in doing so can only date someone doing the same.

On the AITA reddit thread a guy asked if he was being controlling by saying his GF wasn't allowed to hang out with his friends without him. I said he was (controlling), and the guy lost it, loudly. He went on a rant calling me a neckbeard and a loser and how I knew nothing about women and yadda yadda. Thing is, I'm actually a woman and my username is clearly female. But he reacted the same way to everyone else who said he was controlling. The whole interaction just left me feeling attacked and kind of scared. Blocked the guy, which helped some.

Someone was asking for name suggestions for a pair of rats and I recommended Fish and Chips and got called the R slur (not by the person with the rats, but someone else)

One directed at me managed to trigger my PTSD beautifully, so I was a shaky half-dissociated mess the rest of that day. Does that count?

This isn’t quite a ‘negative comment’, but the fact that we can’t say the words ‘k**l’, ‘sui**de’, or even ‘d*e’ is ridiculous. If you are a person who spirals into anxiety after seeing one of those words: don’t go on social media. End of story.

One time somebody said that my younger (new) friend looked hot. KEEP IN MIND THAT SHE IS 12!
that is just weird, please don’t do that stuff, it’s disgusting and made me feel unpleasant for a while, and so did my friend :(

I stumbled across my brothers reddit page which he used the same username he used for everything including linkedin. It was some of the most devastating and hateful stuff I have ever seen in my life. It was not only directed towards me, but my family and my very small children, my career, my lifestyle everything and it was personal. I found he twisted conversations we had were I thought we were joking (not even about each other just funny ideas about random topics) and called me dangerously delusional... He routinely complained about various scenarios where he wasn't the center of attention and fawned over (upset our parents gave their only grandkids presents for Christmas/Birthdays, demanding to take over family tvs at get togethers to play video games etc) One of the posts was requesting advice on how to get me legally committed. I knew he struggled with his mental health, addiction, self esteem and that our family always thought he was an "A*****e" and a pathological liar. The thing is I never thought he viewed me so negatively and of all the stuff I've been threw in my life his hate filled words destroyed me. When I brought it up to discuss it he accused me of killing our father who died of health complications hundreds of miles from where I lived because our fathers last words about me was that he was so ashamed of me and wishing that I never should have been born then he ghosted me. I told him if he ever wants to discuss what he wrote he needs to be sober and we need to do it in a family therapy setting. That was 2 years ago. Now he currently 30 years old living in our mother's basement (whom I've had to drastically restrict contact with) oh and he was recently caught falsifying a last will and testament for a recently deceased family member.

I try really hard to remember that he is sick and that the social media posts/ comments are just words.

I was defending my religion(Islam) on Reddit when a lot of people started insulting me and saying hurtful things. :(
Why can’t people just be nice.

I once commented on how swearing at the telephone robot can sometimes get you to a human operator. Someone misunderstood me and chewed on me for advocating swearing at the human operator. It hurt, but I re-read my comment and it wasn't clear. So I apologized and clarified my point. Very Canadian of me, I know, but isn't that how these things are supposed to work?

Someone important to me once sent me a video that dropped a comment I found offensive, and my brain spent days wondering if the person who sent it thinks the same.

I posted once trying to find information on a dog owner whose dog bit my two year old daughter.

I expected some sort of sympathy or concern for my daughter but instead the comments all focus on me calling the dog owner an a-hole for having an aggressive dog in public without a muzzle.

I no longer comment on a-hole dog owners.

Not a comment to me actually. But this nasty woman kept posting c**p about a person who was not even a member of the community. Mean girl tore a girl to shreds. Girl didn’t even know, let alone have the ability to defend herself. I called mean girl out for the piece of s**t she is, and gotten kicked out. I had been part of this community for at least 15 years. Met many of the friends there in person. You know, I still feel sour about it occasionally, but mostly don’t think about it. I will always stand up to bullies.

Someone said get over myself and just eat.

…not how you treat a f*****g eating disorder

Sometimes I wake up to random users telling me that:

I cook up stories.
Fake maturity.
Am slurty bitchy in real life.
Cause to waste away my reader's time.
Ask questions to answer them myself.
Am here just cause I'm a girl with a DP.
Always play the gender card.
Am shameless cause I talk about menstruation and pads.
There are more, but let's just stop here.

Normally I just choose to laugh it off, thinking these are by people who didn't have anything better to do rather than harass a random stranger online.

On the other days it affects me.

You ask why?

Cause I'm a human.

A human who has emotions and doubts herself.

But then I think about those I've talked to here who love me for what I'm and what I write.

And remind myself that for every hater I've got, I also have a far bigger number of admirers.

And this sets me rolling! ❤

So folks!

Whenever someone hates you, both online as well as in person, understand that 9 out of 10 times,

IT'S NOT YOU. IT'S THEM.

Something must be troubling them.

They must be having a shitty day.

Their boss might've yelled at them.

They might've had an altercation with their family members or spouse.

So just chill out and don't blame yourself and overthink.

Breath and smile and get back to what you were doing. 🥰🤭💓

Not so much a negative comment as being downvoted for very little reason until I was banned from commenting on Bored Panda! I never dissed anyone or tried to sell anything - but there it is. No reprieve.

Every single comment rudely against hijab really annoys me. I’m not indoctrinated, forced, or oppressed. I know exactly what I’m doing and why. I’m not a damsel in distress, chained by religion, who needs to be freed.

I don't remember any particular negative comments towards me, but I had enough that I started changing that common saying. 'Sticks and stones will break my bones and words will always hurt me.'

I was called a pedo here on BP ! ME ... a 55 yo woman ffs. All I wanted was to try and help this person (became homeless) but knowing she had kids I couldn't take them in bc those kids needed to go to the same school for some stability in their lives and being near friends. Sheesh