Hey Pandas, How Did You Find Out You Were LGBTQ+?

When i went through my teenage years and nothing really happened, everyone else got crushes or girlfriends/boyfriends and I never experienced attraction to anyone. I think i googled it and discovered its called aroace. Im now in my mid 20s and have realised im gay but still ace, I would like to find another autistic ace gay goth gremlin to scamper through the woods with looking for cool bugs 😅

It was a what in the weird news story about a Japanese chef who had himself emasculated and then cooked and fed his genitals to people in 2012 because he was asexual which enabled me to find out it was even a posibillity and subsequently I also learned about aegosexuality and I was able to finally reconcile myself earlier this year at the age of 41.

Found out from having queer friends in college that I have no sexual attraction at all. Found out from a 2010 article about a new pride flag with asexual colours that there is such a thing as being asexual and it’s not because you’re traumatised or shy or frigid or whatever! Found out after being happily single for 18 years and reading this list that I’m most likely aromantic as well.

I was watching Dukes of Hazzard and realized that Daisy Duke's shorts were definitely NOT what was catching my eye.

I fall under the "+" Part of LGBTQIA+
That is to say that I am cisgender. I discovered this during puberty. I became more interested in girls than I was previously. Now that I am a grown man, I am interested in pretty much only my wife.
And if someone of my gender type can't be accepted in the LGBTQIA+ community, then you are all haters that can't be inclusive. This is the way I was born and I have Pride in my sexuality.

I originally started dating boys, then a new girl ( this gorgeous Asian beauty) moved onto my street. I was positive I had a crush on her. I told my boyfriend about it, and he got mad at me and we broke up. Somehow Lillian (my crush) knew that I was upset, and we kind of became friends and I realized she was gay. I now know that I am bisexual and I am so much more comfortable with myself.
Also, Happy Pride Month! # 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈♥️🧡💛💚💙💜🩷🩶

i remember really liking a girl in my class when i was in yr 4
also i remember not feeling like either/or binary gender. i just didn't have the words but after self discovery i can say i'm transmasc, nonbinary, uranic and biromantic :)

Growing up, I only had crushes on male celebs and cartoon/anime characters. So, that's kinda how I found out

i never "didn't know" i just didn't accept it? around 4th grade i told my friends (now ex friends more acquittances) that "if i ever HAD to date someone it would be a girl" and then i told my mum that too and she was like "so you're gay" and I SAID "nooo, i wont date anyone but if i did it would be a girl" i think the reason i was so on the ideology (idk if that's the right word) is because im demi romantic, all i know is im gay

sorry if that was hard to read

I guess I'd always known, ever since I was young. I preferred playing around with other boys, before I knew what the concept of gay was. As I got older I worked out I was gay, but bullying and social pressures ensured that I ended up firmly in the closet. Being called a dirty queer does that to you. Only got into accepting my sexuality in my late teens (tried to pretend I was bi for a while), mainly when I moved to London for University. Queer as Folk was probably the biggest eye-opener for me. Came out to my close friends and family in 2000 at the ripe old age of 21

The song Heart Attack is basically the lesbian anthem of K-pop. I had just barely dipped my toes into the waters of lesbian fanfiction when I saw mentions of the song everywhere in the Wattpad comments for the fanfics I had been reading. Watching the music video for Heart Attack basically solidified my growing belief that I was, in fact, attracted to girls.
I highly recommend Heart Attack (by Chuu) for all those looking for a gxg storyline, or just looking for tooth-rotting fluff.

i found out because i realized that i didn't like she/her pronouns but like they/them and plus i always hated anything too girly like i absolutely despise skirts. it also doesn't help that i have long hair and my face looks very feminine but im getting through with my body dysphoria and im gonna probably trim my hair shorter to the way i like it. also it helps that half my friend group is part of the community so they helped me identify who i am. :3

HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE

love,
non binary hooman 💛🤍💜🖤

so for me, i started out being a christian funny enough, i met my bff when i was 6 and then after 6 years of believing in the christian belief, i started to realise that i fell in love with my guy bff (i'm agender, then i was identifying as a guy) but when he moved away i thought i was bisexual and non-binary, then at 14 i didn't like anyone sexually

long story short i am a demisexual agender who as you can tell is a femboy

First time I was confused about it I was about 10 and watching the older girls in my ballet class giving a demonstration. One of them was so beautiful - I couldn't take my eyes off her. If I noticed attractive people in the street they were usually girls or women and I would think about them for ages afterwards. I had a crush on a girl I went to primary school with but didn't view it as a crush. A while later, in secondary school I met the girl who would become my first girlfriend when we were 14 and it all fell into place.

I didn't really find out as such, I just sort of knew I was attracted to both boys and girls when I hit puberty. Both my parents, even my dad who was in the Royal Navy, were very open minded, they had several gay and lesbian friends and my mum's gay best friend was at her wedding with his boyfriend, which was not that common in the 70's UK so I always new what gay and lesbian relationships were. I didn't have to tell my parents I was bisexual/pansexual they kind of guessed I was when I hit puberty and the posters of the male and female celebs I fancied appeared on my bedroom wall. Because I was never really in the closet, I never truly "came out". Although I became aware of my sexuality at around puberty, I never had a boyfriend or girlfriend until I was 16 and at college. (In the UK, college is between senior school and University, so 16-18 years old).

I have always known and accepted I'm bi - I kissed my best friend in elementary school because she had never kissed a boy (duh, we were 11 years old) but I had, so without blinking an eye, I taught her what French kissing was and that felt amazing. Then, one day in college, I fell in love with a girl, but I was already involved with her (male) house mate. Unfortunately, I've always been too shy to chat up girls, and my crushes on girls have therefor always been in secret.

About 3 years ago, I realised being polyamorous is a thing. A real, actual, existing thing. That really hit me. It also dawned on me that a very special relationship I had in my twenties was, in fact, a polyamorous relationship. It was the most natural thing for me back then, it just *was* and I never questioned the way in which we were seeing each other, in a respectful but non-exclusive way. According to standard norms however, I've always cheated on boyfriends. I never felt a lot of remorse doing so, although I obviously realised I wasn't supposed to be seeing other people because my partners would be deeply hurt. I believed I was a horrible person. I so wish I had known 20 years ago being poly is a thing. That would have saved me and a few guys a lot of heartbreak.

Mostly the internet.... also I had a HUGE crush on my best friend when I was ten, I didn't know it at the time though.

In the '70s, when I was around 8 or 9, my best friend's mom let us look at his dad's girlie magazines. I got bored rather quickly and asked her if she had any magazines with naked men...
I didn't identify as gay, as I didn't know what gay was. From the mouth of babes?

Looking at the mens and woman’s anatomy, I quickly learned that the man’s was more *ahem* interesting. And now I’m gay.

In high school, to have "something different" about me, I started saying I was bi to my boyfriend. I didn't really like the girls around me or on TV this much. I figured, even if I'm not really sexually attracted to women, I'll just never put myself in a position where I'd need to "prove" it. And then the one openly masculine lesbian in school flirted with me, and, well, I did not just pretend to be bisexual anymore.
I discovered I was non-binary a loooot later, following a seminar given by a non-binary coworker for diversity training. Coming from a very sheltered traditional background, it was the first time anyone told me I had other options than "woman" and "man", or explained the difference between gender and sex. I knew I had always been feeling off and awkward around having to be a lady, and do the lady stuff, and be called and perceived as a woman. I fought this off by being the girliest girl around, and still miserable. Seeing this colleague comfortable in all her femininity and happy to be perceived as such, combined with the content of the seminar she gave, just broke it all up. Now I'm a happy little transmasculine gremlin of a person :)