Hey Pandas, Have You Ever Been In A Toxic Friendship? (Closed)

She was my roommate at the time. Long story short, she eventually killed my 3 months old kitty.

She would always make fun of me; calling me a simple person for not believing in God, apparantly I was also less because at that time I had never been in a ''third world country'' and overall she was almost never nice to me. Yet when she hit a rough patch in her life I was always there for her, meeting up at parking lots because she was too afraid to leave her car. I would listen to her for hours trying to be a good friend and comfort her. Even went to the hospital with her once to hold her hand because she was scared. Then one time we both went to a camp together which was a first for me so I was incredibly nervous which she knew. After telling her she scolded me for being the most negative person she knew and she was done with it, and the worst thing was that there was another girl in the car with us too. I started crying but she just didn't care. As soon as I arrived home I never spoke to her again. Fun fact is that we were also collegues but she resigned about 2 weeks after the incident.

Its finally mine time!! OK so I lived with my boyfriend for a very long time we can call him Jeff. Anyway I had a day job working at a diner and him being lazy never had one. So bacisly i mad all the money for us. Which he spent all the time, I barely ever had me time. He was so toxic as well he would say "why are you eating again, your so fat, pig, disgusting etc. And it really weighed me down But i never left him because i thought maybe he would change. After awhile of dealing with hes bullSh*t i finally had enough so when i got home around 5 o clock (which was early cause normally i would get of at 8) Jeff was in bed with some other chick. I stared in horror for a couple of second and they weren't even aware that i was in the room or home at all. I left got in the living room and texted him say hey i am 2 mins away from home. i could here him in the other room say sh*t and tell her to leave. And i just sat on the couch waiting. he walked out of the room with this chick and then finally saw me. He then went on with "oh its not what it looks like etc" but i was done i told him to grab his stuff and leave. the girl left as well most likely embarrassed that she realized she was a part of a afire. He now still texts me and says he is sorry but i am now over him and with a new person that makes me feel great and at peace!

I don't know if this counts, but here it is:

I was really, really sick for about a year - I ended up hospitalized a couple of times - and a woman I knew but didn't really like stepped up to the plate when no one else could (or would, I don't know). She brought me groceries (I always paid her back - I didn't want to take advantage of her), looked after my cats when I was in the hospital, and was just wonderful.
After I was well enough to be on my own again, I admitted that I hadn't really liked her very much before, but she really changed my mind about here, and I was very grateful.
She said, "Oh, I still don't like you. I just wanted to prove that I'm a good Christian."
And I never saw her again.

I'm trying to end one right now. She lies about stuff so she can sound cooler compared to anyone she talking to, when we hang out she ignores me, she only talks to me when shes talking about herself, she's in D&D with me and she doesn't help us and ignores the rules, and whenever I try to talk about my mental heath she like "You have not idea what it's really like because when years ago before you knew me, my dog died, i was robbed, and I got bullied, almost all of my friends killed themselves, and I have depression. She never says stuff like that around her mom because it's fake, she's not even a good liar. Like girl shut up . I HATE her but her mom drives us to school so I don't know what to do.

In this story I was the one being toxic and I’m sorry to my friend for
That, anyways I had a very good friendship and I was being a little toxic to her
I was saying don’t do his or don’t do that and saying why not to do it in my head, like there was this one time when she was holding books and I told her that if she holds them like that then the other books would fall out of her hands
But I didn’t say that to her and soon I said to her that I wanted a break from playing with her on the playground (this was when we were in fourth grade) so she said ok then the next day I said it again and then she had a meltdown then the next day I just avoided her and I regret that. Then soon enough she moved and I never saw her again and if my friend is seeing this I just want you to know I’m sorry. Feel free to downvote

I didn’t have any male friends so when I met him it was amazing...then we started fighting. I always thought it was my fault when we had a fight and the passive aggressive messages he sent made me begin to doubt myself. He twisted everything so that he would look like the good guy and turned some of my other friends against me. After three years it was obvious things were not healthy between us but it was so difficult to detangle him from my life and now even years later I still feel vulnerable and distrusting towards some males due to his influence over me that still lingers.

This one's long but please read until the end! Thanks x

I'm a teen and in secondary school so me and my 'friend' and i were walking to lunch I go in my bag as normal and my lunch box is missing. I have anxiety and autism so naturally I'm scared as s***, I am in floods of tears at this point and as the campus is large I don't know where to begin. She says I can have something from her lunch so I decide to chill and calm out she says she needs the toilet so I just wait. Our lunch is 30 mins who knows why it's that long but yeah so when 25 mins pass I get really upset and fractious, the bell goes and I'm so upset and hungry I don't know what to do, my minds gone blank and I don't know what lesson I have next so I'm freakin out like CrAzY so the teacher comes over and is like wassupp r u OK and I'm like no what the hell do you think I'm in floods of tears. So we wander around campus and we fins my lunchbox in a toilet 🚽 yes covered in (pardon my language) s**t and piss so yeah. That goes in the bin and I get a school lunch. My friend who I wonder past on the way back doesn't know I'm there and said 'yeha that was good one let's put her lunchbox in the bin next' to I'm like putting padlocks on my bag and that so yeah long story short shes and idiot and was expelled after she did that with multiple of my belongings. FYI she does use bored panda, obvs not gonna give her username but yeah if you read this you know who you are, why?!?! Post cheese in the comments and upvote of you got this far, :)

not a friendship but a relationship. But we started as friends so I think that counts. We knew eachother since 1st grade and got together 2018. Its started out fine but he was pretty possesive and always tried to change me into a "Yes saying family person", just because he was mummy's boy. His family always tried to talk me into changing my life to fit theirs. His version of future happines looked completely diffrent than mine. He wanted to start a familiy and live in a small village, with me staying home. But I wanna live in different citys all over the world, become succsessfull and most importantly I don't wanna have kids - ever.

I had many red flags with this girl but we still were very close friends for a couple of years. It ended like this -
It was a year we graduated from school and had our exams for entering the university. She failed her exams despite of hard preparation and as the result she was losing a year for university. She was miserable and declined to go for a holiday to the sea with our friends that we planned for half a year. We were ok with that as she needed time to recover, but her parents wanted to cheer her up and asked me to convince her to go. As the result I got 2 weeks of blaming and shaming me for the thing that I got to the uni and she didn't. And that is the reason why I am a awful friend! Still can't understand that. The most stupid end of friendship ever.

Yes I was in a toxic friendship once. All of my friends have been in a different class in third grade and I wanted to make friends with this one girl and she decided to have a change everything about myself so she’d like me like I had to like fashion and Disney shows eventually I just told myself that I was not going to hang out with us grow anymore and over two years of not being friends and I am better than ever

So many toxic relationships... I'm pretty sure I am an easy target. I will bend over backwards to try to move mountains for people, and then they take advantage... I attribute it to when I was bullied in 2nd grade and did anything to try to fit in.
High school (2001) - I had a car, others didn't. If I were running someone else around like a taxi, I asked for a little money towards gas. Not much - just a buck or two here and there. Someone I thought was one of my best friends got a job on the west side of town. She lived on the furthest east part of town (literally on Lake Michigan). After of some while of driving her and her sister to and from school, and getting her to and from work I finally asked her for money now that she had a paycheck. We weren't friends after that.
College (2003) - I thought I was friends with 3 girls I signed a lease with. Boy was I wrong... ended up living with my boyfriend and just paying for my part of the lease.
5 years ago - Met a friend through work. Hung out a lot, but always on his terms. Floated him a loan (I did take his smartwatch as collateral) so he could pay his rent one month. Picked him up on the side of the road during a snow storm when his car broke down, drove him home from work, etc. I was there when he needed and none of his guy friends would help. When I went through a rough time he wasn't there.
So many toxic relationships, and you'd think I would have learned by now!
TL;DR - I'm a magnet for them.

I had a friend who would constant borrow / steal things and I had to hound him or even steal them back. When he stole my moms identity and got a phone for his girlfriend and attached it to my moms account it was the last straw. I cut off all contact with him. He somehow got my new number years later and kept calling and texting me. Finally I told him if I ever saw him again Id do something which i wont say here but would probably end with me in jail for a long time. I haven't heard from him since but I did see him once I think as was turning around and the ran in the opposite direction.

Had an old friend who started ignoring me in favor of her other friends; I tried going along with it, but it got to the point in which she became friends with someone who openly claimed to be a Nazi.

Yeah, that was over quickly.

Yeah. Junior high and high school. Two girls I knew separately. J and C. Well they each seemed nice to me. But once they met they tormented me. Sending pizzas to my house. Prank calls. Etc. I really didn’t have many friends so I would try to see each alone. But randomly the other would show up an it was war on me for no reason. I just ghosted (that wasn’t a term then in the 80s) and left them alone. Just wasn’t worth the drama to me I concluded.

Yeah, my friends would tease me a lot. They thought it was fun to steal my lunchbox, but it was super annoying. You guys probably read this in another post but once they put cheeto dust in my hair (which is very dark). Just before quarantine started, I would go to the orchestra room instead if rec cause I knew they would be at rec. I would go in the bathroom when they were in the hallway to lunch and at lunch I would sit in the hallway seats with some other people.

These stories are really sad. So much low self esteem and no self confidence. I think this country is in big trouble unless we make mental health a big priority.

Yeah this girl who used to live a few blocks away would always invite me over and we’d hang out but I’d have to do her chores and I pretty much just entertained her but if I did something she didn’t like I was yelled at like literally yelled at as if I was some stray mutt. She got a new poor soul wrapped around her chubby little finger and I stopped talking to her.

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I'm a teen and in secondary school so me and my 'friend' and i were walking to lunch I go in my bag as normal and my lunch box is missing. I have anxiety and autism so naturally I'm scared as s***, I am in floods of tears at this point and as the campus is large I don't know where to begin. She says I can have something from her lunch so I decide to chill and calm out she says she needs the toilet so I just wait. Our lunch is 30 mins who knows why it's that long but yeah so when 25 mins pass I get really upset and fractious, the bell goes and I'm so upset and hungry I don't know what

So I had this friend back in primary school who was really nice and brought me presents and stuff but then she would get really mad when I would hang out with other people. I remember one time when I was hanging out with another friend and she came over and somehow the topic got onto who was the better friend and she shoved me really hard so I fell then caught me right before I hit the ground and then said something like "see! If I was the worse friend she wouldn't trust me to catch her like this!" My mum didn't like her and told me that I should be careful around her and when I told her I didn't want to be friends she shook the rope thing I was on until I took it back and left a massive mark on my back for weeks! Luckily she moved away soon after and I lost contact with her.

This might not be that bad but I think even something like this is toxic so yeah