Hey Pandas, Do You Have Any Tips For Coming Out?

make sure you have a safe place to go if your parents are less than happy. practice what you want to say as well.

Don't tell your parents if you're not sure they will support you. This suggestion is sad, but it's true. Some parents we're raised to acknowledge LGBTQ people. Tell your friends who are likely more open-minded.

Make sure you tell people you absolutely trust and make sure you have an ally if needed. If your parents aren’t happy about it, keep in a safe place and get backup.

Have an idea of how you want to do it, but try not to overthink it- I know how easy it is to get overwhelmed and start getting shaky and talking too fast, so keep it simple :)

Also, make sure you're able to come out safely. As much as I hate telling people they need to stay closeted, don't come out if you think it might put you in legitimate danger.

Good luck!

As someone who identifies as bisexual and has a gay son, I just feel like the whole concept of 'coming out' is utterly redundant. No straight person goes to their parents/ friends and tells them that they would like to have relationships with someone of the opposite sex... why should that be any different for someone who is gay? It's no one else's business but your own and if people don't love you for who you are... in your entirety... then they aren't worth your concern.

Make sure that you have friends that support you. My parents weren't that happy about me being bi, and my friends helped me get through it.

Don't. just proceed like every hetero couple and say, "this is my b/gf".

Depends on the country you are from.. if its USA, don't come out in a GOP led state..

Well I'd start by openly watching gay things in front of the person you want to come out to, and see their reaction if they seem okay with than I'd assume it'd be safe to come out and if you can't do it with words write it out in a letter and hand it to the person I find that easier than speaking sometimes.

I wrote a letter to the person I wanted to come out to (my parent). This allowed me to put down everything I wanted to say whilst giving them space to process it and to think about things before responding.
Whilst I was confident my parent would be 100% supportive, I wanted to give them the space and time to have their own reaction, whatever that reaction was. It had taken me into my thirties to figure things out and I believed they were allowed some room to think too. They would have had some of their own ideas about how things were and what a future might hold, things that now would not be a reality. They were allowed to have a reaction to that change, irrespective of what they felt for me and their love for me.
Allowing people time to think doesn't mean you don't have confidence in their love but it does mean they can reflect and approach you in turn with the best of their reactions and resolutions.
So, don't feel like you have to do it a certain way. Do it however you feel comfortable and in the way that works for you and the person you are telling.

I literally just came out to my mom like 3 minutes ago :D (she gave me a hug) I just told her who I had a crush on, cause idk my sexuality so I couldn’t really be specific. Honestly I just randomly made myself do it, because I knew if I thought about it too much I would back out. But definitely be careful and try to read the situation at least a tiny but first :)

Do it on April 1st so that if it's poorly received you can say it's a joke.

Just don't do what I did with my mom. She acted accepting until I came out....she yelled at me and took my phone away and made me break up with my then girlfriend she then prayed the gay away for 3 months. It's safe to say I'm so far in the closet I'm sitting on Christmas! But my advice: have 2 backup plans and DO NOT come out if your afraid they may not support. And happy pride my fellow queers!

Make sure that you tell people you know that will understand, and slowly go from there and expand the amount of people that are aware, make sure you don't listen to anyone that tells you they don't want to know you or be close to you anymore as they don't deserve you anyway.

Well just tell the person you’re coming out to an identity/orientation you came across recently and ask them how they feel about it. If they have a positive reaction (they are accepting it) it’s safe to come out. If it’s a negative reaction (they turn out to be homophobic/transphobic) don’t come out to that person and try to distance yourself from them as much as possible

Absolutely do not come out to anybody unless you are 100% certain that they will accept you. If you are underage especially do not tell your parents unless you either know that they will accept you or that you have a safe place to go and are ok with the legal issues that would arise with leaving home early.

Do your research, take your time. Do nothing you are not certain of, because it could go very very wrong for you very very fast.

Don't ever feel like you owe it others to come out. It's your decision. Everything about coming out is your choice... who you tell, how you tell them, when you tell them... it's all your choice. Also, remember there is a community out there that will support you.

Tell someone you trust. Be aware that even they may have issues with what you tell them so even if the seem to back off a bit, understand they’re mentally getting used to the new you as well. And even better, they may just not care. It does get easier and easier as you go, and with every person you come out to be sure you don’t forget how strong you are and love that part of you, because coming out can be heavy stuff. also, everyone reacts differently when you come out, people you think will never talk to you again might not care at all, while unfortunately people you think might be cool turn out not to be. Just stay stay true to you.

You don’t have to if the people you feel like you need to come out to are unsupportive

Don't make such a big deal out of it. If you're telling friends then try to make light of it by saying something like "Lines are straight, but I'm not" Making a joke out of it can help lighten the stress. I, personally, say "You're gayer than I am, and that's saying something" Because it takes their mind off of the coming out portion and more on the 'personal attack', so the knowledge is in their brains but it's not such a 'what do I say' moment.