Hey Pandas, Do You Have Any New Year's Resolutions, And What Are They? (Closed)

Go on more walks with my dogs.

My resolution is to stand up for myself. I'm about to turn 40, have had some ROUGH years and have lived most of my life afraid of what others think of me. An in-law treated me terribly over the holidays, and I've decided to cut them out of my life. I'm pursuing an adhd diagnosis for myself and my child, as well as looking into autism. I'm going to try to stop letting other's opinions, real or imagined, stand in the way of things I want to accomplish. I'm going to try to allow myself to do things I enjoy, without feeling bad about them being "childish" or unproductive. It'll be hard, but I'm going to try, because I'm turning effing 40 and I'm effing tired.

Be a better listener!

Keeping it simple:
1) don't put it down, put it away; reduces clutter and will be less energy than cleaning up a larger mess later.
2) fix one "stupid" thing a week; less pressure to complete task and may help reduce silly fights with my partner.
3) follow up with something/someone only once; will reduce my anxiety and increase self-esteem.

To spend at least 25 minutes with my pet rabbit

To love myself more and worry less about what others think of my appearance.

My New Year's Resolution is doing next year without resolutions

To react to my wonderful husband as well as I react to my cats.

Some context here. I get angry really easily. I grew up in an abusive home, and many of my romantic relationships were also very abusive. And I never reacted to anything. I always held everything inside. I guess it was my survival strategy. Until I was about 39 or 40, and started seeing a really good therapist.. . . . I met my current husband when I was 47, and we've been married for almost 11 years now. The problem is that I have a very short fuse. Any little thing that is unexpected or not according to plan makes me flip out. Fortunately, my blow ups are over fast and I apologize 15 minutes later. And my husband is so understanding and forgiving most of the time.

But I wish I could just head it off at the pass. You know? When the cats pee or throw up somewhere, I never yell at them. I just take it in stride and clear it up and move on. I don't know why I can't react that way all the time with the little things that my husband does or doesn't do. But that is my big goal to work towards this year.

Less anger, more equanimity. More love and happiness all around.

I’m 81 years old, making it to 82! That isn’t easy when you have lived like me.

To try to be the best version of myself

I have 3.
1. Start being more open about my gender and sexuality
2. Improve my grades (I’m trying to apply to new schools)
3. Smile more

I want to come out to my mom as bi and try to find a BF. Unfortunately, the guy I’m into is straight. :(
I also want to work on my anger management and see if I really do have ADHD. (I exhibit symptoms but I’d rather not self diagnose.)

to continue to stay sober. that's it.

I do but I couldn’t possibly share them. I’m sure they’re all crimes.

No not next year. I am just happy if I get away healthy and covid free.

For over a decade, I buy a new book on NYE and spend all day/night reading it.

I want to get serious with making one small change each month in order to better my physical, mental, and spiritual health.

I made a NY resolution years ago to not make NY resolutions. One of the few I actually followed through on :)

Stop chewing my nails.

Make a little more time for my family. My priorities have been in the wrong places for a while.