Definitely NTA
I distanced from my mom because she was taking advantage of my finances instead of getting herself a job. My dad already paid her more than enough in alimony.
That plus she ran off every guy I ever liked and built the house my dad paid for and gave her in the divorce as a “kangaroo “ house so I could stay at home and take care of her without ever having a life of my own.
Point is: If your mom and stepdad expect more or less the impossible from you I’d decide that I have more chances in Phoenix than going over to their place. I find it even more selfish of them that you’ve gone out of your way to help your mom but she won’t do sh*t to better your current situation. It’s your choice what you do with her but as far as I can see it I’d say “goodbye “ and live your own best life. I know I did…..
I distanced from my mom because she was taking advantage of my finances instead of getting herself a job. My dad already paid her more than enough in alimony.
That plus she ran off every guy I ever liked and built the house my dad paid for and gave her in the divorce as a “kangaroo “ house so I could stay at home and take care of her without ever having a life of my own.
Point is: If your mom and stepdad expect more or less the impossible from you I’d decide that I have more chances in Phoenix than going over to their place. I find it even more selfish of them that you’ve gone out of your way to help your mom but she won’t do sh*t to better your current situation. It’s your choice what you do with her but as far as I can see it I’d say “goodbye “ and live your own best life. I know I did…..