“Just Had Their Baby Shower”: 35 Times “Just A Friend” Was Actually A Lot More Than That

He got a marriage license with his “sister”. He said sister, but it was his ex wife’s sister. I asked if she was his sister, half sister, or sister in law. He said sister every time 🤢 some people are just completely disgusting and can’t be trusted.

My best friend of 10 years since the start of high school got together after a several "events" brought us much closer together than what we already were (such as loosing a good mutual friend and helping her with what I discoverd to be her abusive ex-bf). I have always struggled with life and being alone but after we got together for the first time in my life things seemed to be getting better and for once I looked forward to tommorow.

Over the corse of the time we were together I was still struggling but did not want her to know, I lost several people who were close to me and I was incredebly stressed from university but I was somewhat managing and I tried the best I could. She was also struggling but I helped her by introducing her to a makers-space which she then joined and met a 40-ish year old amatour engeneer (about twice her age), and she started getting close to him (texting, seeing eachother every few days, etc).

I honesly thought nothing of it because being the only woman on a computer science and engineering course she also significantly struggled to make friends, I was just happy she was happy, plus there was nobody I trusted more. (You can see where this is going)

Well one day after she seemed slightly distant for a few weeks it happened, I did not fully comprehend what was happening but after it set in I realized I had lost everything that ever matterd to me.

Since then for various reasons I lost the last of my friends, my coach passed away (which as an athlete put and end to it), as well as family (which also resulted in loss of transportation), I lost my job (I have since found another minimum wage dead end job), and I am currently failing university after having already gotten so far. I had a good well paying career lined up but have since lost the opportunity. I then was in an "accident" that left me with scars and pain in my leg, I was supposed to graduate one year ago but with all that was going on I just couldn't and the uni gave me some extra time, dispite that its very unlikely I will make it.

After she left, I lost everything and everyone, a part of me died. I had never met anyone like her, even just as a friend, and ever day is a nightmare (just incase I didn't already get them).


Beleve it or not the detailed version gets worse but I don't think anyone wants to read all that.

All in the span of like 4 months. My marriage to this a*****e was barely holding together.

1. “I met a new friend Lexi”
2. “She’s just a friend, don’t worry”
3. “She’s like the sister I always wanted. We’re so connected”
4. “Lexi and I have this soul connection, you can’t understand”
5. “Lexi told me she has feelings for me and wants to be with me. I also have feelings for her. She talked to her boyfriend and he likes me too so we’re gonna all be together.”
6. “You need therapy so you can join us and it’ll make our marriage stronger”
7. Divorce.

She was f*****g the new underage volunteer at the firehouse. I had nothing to worry about because, "He's just a kid".

My ex boyfriend had girls on Instagram that were" just friends".
I ended up finding out they were all his ex's and still sleeping together.
There were like 3 of them,I knew better than that which is how I eventually found out .just sucks that I had to do my own investigating because he was a liar from the beginning.

He broke up with this girl like a year or something before we dated, she was in his friend group and she was his “best friend”. She was a total b***h to me during our entire relationship, and he always took her side. I don’t think he ever actually cheated on me with her, but that was almost as bad.

My first serious girlfriend. Loved her dearly and thought I’d actually marry her. Every love is different and I’m happy with my current relationship, but it is different. This was a very special thing, or it was to me at least.

There was a guy in our friend group that she admitted to me she had feelings for around the same time she realized she had feelings for me. Didn’t love that information, but I felt comfortable in our relationship and I wasn’t going to give her some weird ultimatum to end that friendship (she had known him for years from school.)

Turns out, that guys roommate also had feelings for her (another guy I knew through friends) and told her and her mom about it. This infuriated me as this guy that I was acquainted with didn’t respect my relationship at all and was professing his “love”to my girlfriend. And now there’s a dude who wants my girlfriend and a guy that my girlfriend admitted to having feelings for in the past living together and wanting to host friend gatherings. Drove a wedge for sure and eventually her and I split up just from growing apart and poor communication. Not two weeks after breaking up was she f*****g the guy that she admitted to having previous feelings for. Made me wonder how long she had been mentally checked out for.

In hindsight it’s also wild how many dudes in that friend group wanted to f**k my girlfriend.

Together for seven years. Through my cancer diagnosis and recovery. Love of my life. She had “just a friend” in the UK she’d talk to daily. Never made a big deal about it even though it did feel weird in my gut.

She left me with no explanation.

Then come to find out she basically left the USA to the UK to go be with him.

You think you know someone. Still tears my heart apart each and every day. Listen to your gut.

My wife had a long time friend I never met, knew him for over 15years.

I thought, it's nice she had her own friend and let her do whatever. Problem, It was a group of friends, that never saw me, so they didn't think much of me and pushed my wife into the arms of their buddy...

She was of course at fault too. She cheated, took a long time I therapy to understand the hurt she brought me.

So huh, I've never wanted to be jealous, like so many guys that hound their girlfriends, but huh, I should have been a bit more cautious.

We had 12 years together. And a kid.

Life sucks sometimes.

Look, I ain’t the jealous type, because, if you want to cheat, no matter what I do you will find a way…

So, my son’s father had all the freedom in this world with me, wanna grab a drink after work ? No problem, wanna go see a film I have no interest in with your female colleague ? Don’t care…

But that B, came to see my baby when he was born, did eat at my table, gave gifts to my son… and she had a crush on him before I was even in the picture but I didn’t know

That MF lied to my face multiple times, and is still lying (really bad liar btw) because I didn’t tell him that I know about her….

We were Peace Corps volunteers together, but she was from an earlier class so she left country before I did. I was worried about her reintegration and having support from someone who “gets it” so I convinced her and a fellow volunteer to room together. He and I lived close together and I liked and trusted him, and they had served together for two years and nothing romantic had ever happened.

Found out a few months after we broke up that she had been cheating with him from about the time they moved together. I don’t regret convincing them, and I sometimes think that their getting together was the ultimate proof that I was right and she did need someone nearby who “got it”. I think I did the right thing as someone who loved her and the wrong thing for me and our relationship. Wouldn’t take it back.

We were married less than a year, got divorced due to lack of trust regarding his close girl friend (among other things). They had a child together a few months after our divorce was finalized and are now married.

I was with my ex for about 2 and a half years and she became friends with a male coworker. He was “just a friend” and I had nothing to worry about.

We bought a house together and 1 month before we were able to move in she went on an overnight work trip. She came to me the next day saying they slept in the same bed together fully clothed but nothing happened outside that.

I was pissed but didn’t know what to do about the house situation. I said I was gonna tell the coworkers girlfriend of 9 years what he did, the coworker called me up threatening me if I told his girlfriend. He blamed everyone else but himself for his actions. A true narcissist.

My ex blocked him and I focused on trying to repair what she broke. Less than a week later I find out she never blocked him and they met up and had s*x. She broke up with me to be with him, he supposedly left his girlfriend of 9 years for my ex but never really did. I moved into my house alone and spent the next 6 months trying to sell it.

I only spoke to my ex about finances and the house but we eventually sold the property. She called me up one night to apologize for what she did. I guess in those 6 months he was cheating on her, being verbally abusive, made her work life hell, they broke up and got back together to repeat the cycle of abuse. Got so bad I guess he was stalking her and tried to break into her apartment, she had to call the cops on him twice.

So she blew up her reputation with friends, family and coworkers, had to leave her job, lost a lot of money, lost a house, and lost a boyfriend that loved her more than anything.

I miss the person I thought she was, I loved her dearly. But the person she turned into can go f**k herself, it’s still has me f****d up 1.5 years later.

We were together for seven and a half years. She was a friend we played games with in discord almost every night.

We played ffxiv and I accidentally stumbled upon them cuddling in gridania. I was told it was nothing.

He broke up with me, a week later he went across the country to meet her and a week later he moved her across the country to be with him.

It’s been 8 months and I log in to keep my house but still can’t play the game….

Partner had a "just a friend" ex, ok, whatever, it had been a number of years since they were together and seemed nice enough when we'd met. Cheated on me while I was out of town, now they're married. Ended up happy for all of us, relationship didn't have staying power even without the cheating.