56 Secrets People In Long-Term Relationships Are Keeping From Their Partners

I genuinely don’t believe in keeping secrets from my husband. However, his mom passed away at home on Mother’s Day in 2017. We knew she was end-stage cancer, and she had refused hospice completely. His dad got up at 6:30 a.m. that morning and she was still alive. She wanted some water so he gave her some. The problem was, her throat was already weakened and she was not able to swallow anymore. It may have been the neurological situation stopping it, too. Neurological shut down and muscle relaxation and failure are both completely common in end stage active dying.

Ultimately, the cancer is what the official cause that was listed on coroner report. But because of the “suspicious circumstances” it had to be treated a little more carefully. I was told directly from the coroner that it most likely suffocation from the water that was stuck in her throat, cutting off airflow so she was no longer able to breathe. Suffocation, rather than an actual cease of breathing or heartbeat.

My father-in-law hadn’t known that could be a thing, he’d give her a sip of water to help her be comfortable because she asked for it. Then he had walked away to go make coffee and go to the bathroom, and when he came back she was gone, so it makes absolute sense. Fortunately, after a conversation with me, the coroner did not feel like it needed police investigation.

I have never told any of them that conversation ever took place, and I never will. That’s just not something that needs to be said. It doesn’t change the fact that their mother/wife/grandmother had terminal cancer.

I will never tell her that her absolute favorite meal, the signature dish she has been cooking for us for years, is actually pretty bland and ordinary. She gets so genuinely excited to cook it for me, and seeing the joy on her face while she serves sit is honestly the best part of my week. The food itself might be a five out of ten, but the love behind it makes it a masterpiece.

That I found out (by accident) he buys a lot of my favorite chocolates, hides them (all on the same spot lol) and gives them to me one by one as a surprise out of nowhere when we're at home chilling.

My wife and daughter both think that I’m not aware that they’re stealing Hershey kisses out of my candy stash… I don’t even eat the chocolate, it’s just for them when it’s that time of the month. I will keep buying a new Hershey kisses for as long as it takes to keep them happy.

This is kind of a silly one but I went on a day trip out of state and accidentally locked my keys in the trunk of my car. Called my husband and he called aaa for me and then I waited for about an hour for them to get to me. AAA guy shows up, and starts pulling handles to the doors before attempting to use his tools. My back passenger door was never locked 🤣 I apologized over and over and the guy told me it actually happens all the time, that's why he always tried the doors first. It's been about a year since then and I'm sure my husband would think it's hilarious but I'd never be able to live it down so I'm taking it to my grave haha.

Her grandpa passed away and she still thinks she saw him last as he told her he loved her. Her whole family believes it. In reality I was the last one seeing him alive and hearing him talk as her mother forgot her purse in the room and I grabbed it for her. She will never know that his last words were never “ I love you” to her but a “take care” to me. I will take that to my grave.

When my husband asked me for examples of engagement rings I like, I also sent him a picture of a style that I do NOT like. He misread my text and designed a ring that exactly matches what I said I didn’t like. I’ll never say a word. I love it anyway 🥰.

That when he released his mother's ashes into a stream some of them stuck to his legs and ended up on the towel he dried off with. I had to scrub the towel and rinse the last remnants of his mother down the bathroom sink.

When his mother passes away, I will act upset.

I will not be.

She's done unforgivable things to him his entire life. He has turned the other cheek and doesn't believe in grudges.

I do.

Horrid woman.

My son lost my husband's Switch cartridge for Metroid prime. He was so upset he couldn't find it-not like it was a rare item, it just bugged the hell out of him and he was mad at my son for being careless. I bought a new copy in secret, and put the cartridge in an "unusual place for a cartridge but easy to spot" location so my husband and son could find it and he could rest easy. It isn't a huge thing but it's probably the only deception in our entire marriage and i know for those little things can bug you forever-it's worth 60 bucks or whatever for him to not stew about it at night hehe

Im in a Long distance relationship & on the days when i don't have time to make coffee at home or stop for coffee on my way to work (i'm a nurse) he will doordash coffee to me at work. the first time he did this, he asked me what kind of coffee i wanted (iced americano w/ cream and syrup) but it got delivered as a plain americano. it was so sweet and thoughtful and he asked me how my coffee was so i told him it was perfect .. since then he just repeats the same coffee order via door dash and its always a plain coffee but i will never tell him. i keep a thing of coffee creamer at work now just for these coffees.

I will never tell her how terribly she loads the dishwasher. it's the most chaotic thing I've ever seen.

My husband installed a fan in our bathroom a few years ago and then we developed a mold problem. When the contractors came to fix the mold issue, they told me whoever installed the fan had done it backwards somehow so it was blowing air back into the bathroom, not sucking it out. I know he would beat himself up sooo badly over it so I’ll take it to my grave.

That I miss being single sometimes .

That I’m not always SO FULL when I insist you have the rest of something that we both agree is amazing. I want you to have it.

I know you mean some type of juicy secret, but I will never tell my husband anything unkind. I am his safe space and he is mine. We never make jokes about each other or say mean things to each other, like some couples do. It’s a choice we’ve made and have never broken.

Chronic pain sufferer. I never tell him how much pain I'm really in all of the time. We've been together 17 years now, and Tues is our 8th wedding anniversary.

I'm always conscious of not putting to much on him, he loves to do things all the time, and sometimes i just need to sit.

When I first moved in with him, I found a bunch of his ex-gf clothes and shoes in the closet. I put everything in a plastic bag, along with the stupidest shirt of a half naked woman holding a beer, and took it to goodwill. This was the 90’s. Never told him. Years later, we saw someone wearing that same shirt and he said he used to have one but his ex threw it away because she hated it. Edited: they’d broken up 2 years before.

That i sometimes have a crush on someone. No need to tell him because I never act upon it and just wait until it's over. Secretly enjoy feeling butterflies in my stomach without endangering a 30 year relationship.

For 30+ years I have never liked my wife’s music. When a song comes on and she starts to sing I will let it play just to hear her singing no matter how much I dislike the song. Sometimes I turn on her music to simply listen to her singing. God I love that woman.