Many of us at least partially let go of our initial plans of leading unblemished lives by adopting a somewhat more realistic and adventurous learning-by-doing approach. On the other hand, by sharing the experience with others, we may save one another a great deal of time and effort, especially when it comes to some tricky things to look out for, and these people are sharing exactly this kind of wisdom, answering one Redditor’s question: “People who are 25 Y.O. and above, what’s the harshest life lesson you’ve learned”?
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#1
That life can take a loved one at any time so cherish those you love, make time for family and friends, and tell people you love them often
121points
#3
If your employer is doing something illegal or unethical and you decide to confront them about it, for f***s sake, do it in a way that all communication will leave a paper trail.
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112points
#4
My grandfather told me when I was younger, "some people are just born evil and sometimes it's impossible to see them coming." He was right.
105points
#5
You can't make someone love you by giving them more of what they already don't appreciate.
…still chewing on this one.
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103points
#6
Many people in "leadership" positions are anything but leaders.
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102points
#7
It *looks* like other people are blessed with motivation and self-discipline and make stuff happen. If you sit and around long enough, the angel of self-discipline will float to you and bless you with the desire to do healthy, productive stuff that will benefit you in the short, mid, long term.
False.
You have to get off your couch and do what you don't feel like doing right now. That's the lesson I had to learn.
85points
#8
No one is going to save you. You have to save yourself
77points
#11
You can have a loving family, great friends, and financial security but still feel isolated and empty.
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72points
#12
There are some truly f****d up people that live and breathe to f**k over other people.
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69points
#13
Don't drive when you are sleepy.
I feel asleep driving after working night shift.
I was in a coma for two weeks and partially paralyzed.
After four months in the hospital I was medically retired from the US Army.
Before the accident, I was in great shape and I was running about ten miles per day training for a race.
I have not been able to run since the accident.
Lesson: Don't drive when you are sleepy, you could die or hurt someone else.
68points
#15
You're going to have regrets. Things you didn't do as well as you could have. Things you didn't earn. Things you did that you didn't mean to do. Things you didn't do that you wanted to do.
Don't waste the present dwelling on the past. Use the regrets as lessons to change your decisions.
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60points
#16
Take care of your f*****g teeth. Nobody told me that fillings eventually have to be replaced and you’ll be paying for that cavity again in 10 years, and then again after another 10 years, and so on.
Edit: this is not the harshest life lesson I’ve ever learned but it is potentially the most expensive.
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57points
#17
This is for the people pleasers like myself.
You can bend over backwards for everyone, be a doormat, make it your life goal to avoid confrontation, and you're still going to end up being the super villain in someone's story by the time you hit 30.
You're writing your own story. Set your boundaries and realize no girlguy, vice, or amount of money is worth compromising them.
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54points
#18
You have to speak up for yourself. No one else will
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50points
#19
You generally have to first make a mistake in order to avoid making it in the future.
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49points
#20
Your friends from highschool or college will disappear if you dont make the effort to stay in touch
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48points