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46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With

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Everybody's problems are different, and they all deserve to be heard, so feminist writer Carina North, who blogs about trauma and recovery, has recently asked women on Threads to list what they believe to be the worst parts of womanhood.
In just a few days, she has received hundreds of honest accounts on rigid social structures, tense interpersonal relationships, and challenging body changes.
As AI slop floods the media, this discussion stood out as an increasingly rare example of genuine reflection and meaningful dialogue. To spare you the hassle of scrolling through everything yourself, we've gathered some of the top insights and invite you to join the conversation.
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#1

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
Being alone and peaceful is far greater than settling or forcing myself to make something work with someone that isn't my person.
64points

#2

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That doctors will disregard our concerns and pain tolerance, even if they are a female.
60points

Of course, the situation might look different depending on which part of the world you analyze, but at least in the United States, two of the top three concerns for women are inflation and the economy.

A collaboration between the Barbara Lee Family Foundation and the Women & Politics Institute at American University has resulted in a survey that revealed 56% of the country's women feel their financial situations worsened in recent years.

67% of respondents cut back on going out to restaurants, 48% reduced the amount they spend on groceries, and 18% delayed or canceled preventive health screenings.

Nearly 40% of younger women can make ends meet each month but struggle to pay or save for unexpected expenses, while 20% of young women admit they struggle to make ends meet each month and sometimes come up short.

#3

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That other women can be misogynistic.
54points

#4

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That it doesn't matter what I do or accomplish, only how attractive people find me.
48points

#5

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That my own parents are upset that I don’t want kids. I am 24 and they keep saying “you’ll change your mind” no I won’t. It’s so annoying. Like I am grown and can make my own decisions about MY OWN body.
47points

60% say they are pessimistic about the economy, and nearly half (47%) say they are anxious or worried about how things are going in the U.S.  

As a result, the majority (60%) feel they're more burned out than usual.

Only 20% of those surveyed say they're hopeful.

#6

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
My mum had to get a man to speak to businesses over the phone to get respect when she was dealing with them. She was a single parent and worked so hard but was never heard.
45points

#7

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That for a lot of men, once you reach a certain age as a woman, you’re invisible. I sit with many elderly women in hospice, they have stories for days. But only I seem to hear them. I work with women in their late 50s and early 60s, and the lives they have lived are truly, AMAZING. Is this our fate? To only exist to men, during the maiden/ mother phase of life? Half the population ignores women 45+💔
41points

#8

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That my body is weaker than a man's and that therefore I will never feel safe. That 40 years of periods and 500+ cycles is somehow not enough.
41points

#9

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
OH another one— instead of listening to the literal billions of women who TELL them what women want, they will always throw that away and take a man’s advice on what women want.
cuz of course, we’re lying and they know better.
39points

Heather Rose Artushin, LISW-CP, agrees that workplace norms, gendered societal expectations, and relationship dynamics can hold women back.

"Many women desire a balance between career, family, and a fulfilling personal life, but achieving this balance is often not so easy," she says. "Societal expectations, like taking on the majority of housework and childcare tasks even when working full-time, and workplace biases, like lower pay and inflexible work hours, leave women feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and burned out."

#10

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That nobody cares about our health as much as we do. Including doctors. Every symptom I have is an uphill battle to not be labelled as 'anxious'. Sometimes I feel like we're still in the 1800s and I'll be sent to an asylum before my symptoms are taken seriously :,). Not listening to health care professionals has saved my life and that terrifies me.
38points

#11

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
I will always be judged based on my body and looks, and it's the first thing men attack when they realise how strong my character is.
37points

#12

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
No matter how much we succeed, most men will think they're superior by default
36points

But while workplace norms and gendered societal expectations stand in the way of women having it all, relationships can also play a role.

"It isn't uncommon for female spouses to give their male partners time to work late at the office or travel for business, taking on the extra burden at home, but what would it be like for men to give women the same time to invest in their careers without having to worry about making dinner, packing lunches, or facilitating the bedtime routine with the kids?" the therapist asks.

Hopefully, we'll see more couples sharing the load so both partners can thrive at work and at home.

#13

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
Misogyny, internalized misogyny and medical misogyny. To say some.
36points

#14

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
You can say something very relevant, honest and well thought, but nobody will truly listen until a man repeats it.
35points

#15

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That I likely will not outlive patriarchy.
34points

#16

While 60 countries have had female leaders already, the US still refuses to vote for a female President. Twice now, qualified women were willing to serve their country and instead...well, you know the rest.
34points

#17

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That it always will be my fault. because I should have tidied up after them, I should have checked they're OK, I should have known what everyone liked, I shouldn't have spoken out.
31points

#18

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That because I didnt have children, im somehow inferior.
30points

#19

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
Lots of men will never see us as people. Men can pursue and even marry us and tick the boxes of treating us ok (like you do a pet or appliance) - it doesn’t mean he sees you as a person or is interested in you as a person. Those men are also creating products and making laws and leading institutions while ignoring the needs of half the population - not noticing when we’re not in the room, and happier when we’re not as it’s uncomfortable when not-people speak up.
28points

#20

46 Hard Truths Women Realize At Some Point In Their Lives And Have To Accept And Live With
That most other women underestimate their capabilities. I can’t even recall how many times I have had women in my neighborhood asked me where I take my car in for service and when I tell them that I do it myself they’re completely flabbergasted. I always invite them over to watch and learn how to do with themselves and see how easy it is. Only the really easy stuff: oil changes, brakes, belts, hoses, spark plugs… If I can learn to bake a cake they can learn to change their own oil.
28points
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