The sad reality is that many women have to deal with bizarre, disrespectful, and scary comments and ‘flirting’ attempts very often. When you get a genuine compliment, it can make your day and boost your confidence, but there is a time and a place for these sorts of comments. What, how, and when you say something is the difference between a person thanking you and them actually being weirded out. It can make someone feel genuinely scared for their life.
Redditor u/shmashleyshmith sparked an intense discussion on the r/AskWomenOver30 online community after asking them to share the grossest ‘compliments’ men have ever given them. They are incredibly creepy and would make absolutely anyone feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Scroll down to read them, and if you’ve been in similar situations, share your experiences in the comments.
Bored Panda reached out to redditor u/shmashleyshmith, who sparked the important online discussion, for her thoughts on how to respond to creepy 'compliments,' as well as why men behave this way. You'll find the practical insights she shared with us below, including how to stay safe when you go out in public.
#21
A guy who I did NOT know in college (my friend bought w**d from him/hooked up with him) called me “the one who got away” because I was “always sexual” (again, I did not know this man). He told me he could “unhinge his jaw and make it vibrate” which was apparently his great oral s*x move. I am still scarred and have so many questions. What a creepy thing to say and a horrible mental image!
44points
Some other common sense things to avoid doing (remember, common sense isn’t common) include not staring at women and not following them. You also should never assume that someone will like you romantically just because you’re being respectful and ‘nice.’
Being respectful is a fundamental part of interactions with other people, it’s not something special. You are not ‘owed’ romantic attraction because you treat someone like a decent human being, Everyday Feminist writes.
#22
I have heard... May I use your thighs as earmuffs? As a ''pickup line" from a stranger from a dating app on first conversation.
Another guy in the first conversation said.. I want to kiss your vertical lips. Instantly unmatched.
My gay/ asexual ex husband used to say.. I can spend the rest of my life with just your head. I don't need a body.
That explained a lot after I married him. Happily divorced. 😂.
Another guy in the first conversation said.. I want to kiss your vertical lips. Instantly unmatched.
My gay/ asexual ex husband used to say.. I can spend the rest of my life with just your head. I don't need a body.
That explained a lot after I married him. Happily divorced. 😂.
42points
#23
You have 9/10 of the physical attributes I want in a woman. Just grow your hair out and you will be my 10/10.
Crusty a*s.
Crusty a*s.
41points
#24
My aunt once went on a date with a guy who told her “ you have the most beautiful eye color, it reminds me of diarrhea.” (Her eyes are a green hazel color).
40points
#25
I was a waitress. A customer said “You are gorgeous. I could go to jail just for looking at you. Are you even old enough to work here?” Me doing my job laughing and telling him that I was 21. Him: “wow! I thought you were 15”. So disgusting!
39points
#26
When I was in college, a guy sidled up to me in the dining hall line and said, 'I’ve always liked blondes. Maybe it’s because my mother is blonde.'
39points
#27
I was talking to a man I’d just met in Alaska. It was pleasant and he seemed interesting. I mentioned I was thinking about going to welding school and he got this glazed look on his face, looked off into the distance and said wistfully, “Motherhood is so beautiful.”
It was just so weird! I’ve never forgotten about it.
It was just so weird! I’ve never forgotten about it.
38points
#28
A married man at work was trying to come on to me. He asked if I wanted to see the spreadsheet he made that compared pros and cons between me and his wife.
37points
#29
Not me, but I saw this guy on TikTok using the demure trend saying “look how I wife up my little immigrant before her visa expires”. I checked his profile and he’s referred to her as “his little immigrant” multiple times. This is actually highly offensive, you can tell he’s probably racist, and I’m more surprised that the comments find this “cute” instead of alarming. I wouldn’t be surprised if he ended up abusive.
For reference: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGe3aKFy3/.
For reference: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGe3aKFy3/.
34points
#30
That my hair looks like a dead squirrel he saw in the forest, he meant it as a compliment 😵.
22points