“I Had No Idea I Was Loved So Deeply”: 50 Phone Finds That Changed Relationships

Not his phone, but my late husband's tablet. A year after he died, I was clearing his tablet of stuff, and saw he had a Twitter account. I was reading through his posts, and hit one that had me in tears for the rest of the day. He had responded to some thread about keeping women in their place, or some such garbage. Husband had posted a long rant about how bring married for 35 years to a woman who never tired of learning, who never let things stop her, sho stayed interested in new things, was the best thing in his life, and that a smart, thinking woman kept his life interesting and exciting.

I always knew he felt this way, but seeing him say this to a total internet stranger, in a forum he thought I would never see, was just kind of overwhelming for a few days. We were friends for 45 years, best friends for 43 years, married for 37 years. He died 3 1/2 years ago, and the hole in my life is just as big as the day he died. I'm not languishing, or yearning to follow him anytime soon, but I miss him, tremendously.

His messenger chats with my mom. He jokes with my mom a lot and would always ask about me, what I was like as a kid, why am I so full of energy and how to take care of me. My mom had cancer and passed away last 2023 but their last messages to each other was him assuring her he'd take care of me the way she wants to.

P**n, featuring women with my body type. I little pudgy, with a set of heavy naturals. Frankly, it helped me let go of some insecurities, and feel more comfortable during intimacy. I finally accepted that when he says he likes me the way I am, he means he likes me the way I am. And I’m here for that.

This was before phones, but my girlfriend at the time had her email left open on her desktop. Saw an email to her best friend about me while she was in shower. Didn’t mean to click on.

I tried really hard not to be nosey, but I saw my name so I read the email as I was really insecure due to past trauma. I’m glad my instinct to check was right. Some of friends had warned me this girl was “too pretty” for me (coming from a place of genuine concern).

What I read shocked me.

This girl (now my ex-girlfriend) was gushing to her friend about how she felt in love for the first time…blah blah blah .She went on and on how I was perfect for her and she’d never felt so safe and understood and I was the “one”.

But she said I lacked confidence (I knew she had dated a model before dating slightly above average me) but she was going to deal with that fear she expounded on to her friend.

Long story short, she’s my ex- fiancé and now wife of 21 years.

Never told her I saw that email , but man that and her actions have made me the most confident husband and happy person.

Notes app with a list of stuff about me - favourite movies, flowers I'd like to get, shoe size, anything and everything. There were subdivisions like potential gifts to buy, what to do if im angry at him, stuff about my seasonal depression and what helps. It was almost 3 pages long and titled "My love".

I fell in love more. It showed hes serious about me and willing to put in effort.

He handed me his phone when he was driving so I could text his mom for him. When I unlocked his phone it opened to a note that was just a list of everything I've ever mentioned that I liked and it was titled "gift ideas". Like one of the items in the list was something I had seen in the window of a shop and mentioned that I thought it was cute then we just kept walking. It made me feel so loved to know that he paid attention to every tiny thing. We're married now lol

I was using his phone when mine had died and I have a habit of closing apps (he had a million open and it was driving me nuts) and his Reddit was open.

He doesn’t post most much, just follows and likes a bunch of wood working and bush crafting subreddits, but the few posts he commented on were about *me*.

It made my heart feel so happy I wanted to vomit lol. My favorite comment was about someone planning Valentine’s Day for their partner and he said something like “one Valentine’s Day my wife surprised me with a giant blanket fort. She had her parents watch our daughter, bought all my favorite snacks and sushi for dinner, had lord of the rings ready to play and made a pillow nest on the floor inside the fort. Best. Wife. Ever.”

He doesn’t have social media and isn’t one for writing letters or cards, doesn’t make a big show of his affections for me, so to see him gushing about me online was so 😭😭

I love that goose.

Left her laptop open and i saw a folder called “secret stuff”. Momentary panic followed and i couldn’t help myself. It was literally just thousands of pictures of our dogs 😂😂

After a year of remaining moderately stoic, I confided in her about some emotional torment I was experiencing and broke down and cried in front of her. I found texts to her friend a few hours later of how psycho and emotional I was. That was the last time I ever showed any feeling and broke up with her 6 months later.

I went through my partner's phone after he passed away from cancer last year. I had to find contact numbers for a few friends not on the funeral list we made.

In his notes app, I found phrases he used in his letters to me, as we often wrote to each other when he was in hospital and visiting times were short. English was not his first language and I hadn't realised how hard he had practised in order to say what he wanted to say. I sent myself a copy of those notes and look at them often.

Me and my fiancé have a really chill relationship. We respect that phones are private so we don’t snoop but use each others phones all the time for stuff like a torch etc when we grab whatever’s nearest or to google a number.

I was asking about something and he said look it up and passed his phone. I went to google and it opened his last tab … he was looking at engagement rings. I clicked on another tab and searched on that instead to try to hide that I’d seen it. I never confessed I’d seen it but Christ.

I knew pretty early on I wanted to spend my life with him and we’d had casual conversations but I’m a natural sceptic. To see that just really solidified in my little worried brain that he wasn’t lying when he said he loved me.

Notes app with a title 'MUST READ'. It is a long list of things he should do when we have an argument as if talking to himself, and it's always followed by a compliment about me. Like one is "Ask her for a couple minutes to compose and calm down because you might say bad things you don't mean out of frustration. She's very sweet, understanding, caring, your baby doesn't deserve to cry"

It might be bare minimum to others but he has always been mentally struggling with dealing with negative emotions, altho we're adults, we're each other's firsts.. so it's a constant learning, and he's improving a lot, but sometimes he beats himself up for it. Writing this just makes me cry, but I'm so proud of him for going beyond his limits and comfort zone

I saw a message to her sister saying that I was the most important person in her life and had saved her from a life of a*******n and abuse. When I saw the message we'd only been dating about 4 months and It's now been 21 years since I saw that message and I've never let her go 🖤 and I never will

There was a photo album of nothing but pictures of me and our son titled, "My Perfect Men." There were pictures in there I didn't even know about -- him helping me wash my car, us laying on the couch, him teaching me Minecraft, me helping him ride a bike, etc.

I was a mess for a while. Ugly crying. Happy tears, but ugly crying. I had no idea I was loved so deeply by her.

My wife is quiet, introverted and didn't grow up in an environment that was outwardly loving. I wasn't snooping at all, but asked her to share some recent pictures of our son after a sports day at his school. I saw her in a different light after that. Our already good marriage hit a level I didn't even know was possible.

A few years ago, I was adding some items to the Notes app grocery list on my wife's phone. The app opened to the most recent list, which was a copy of her wedding vows with the promises she made to me (things like supporting my dreams, being my partner in crazy adventures).

Besides each one was a list of ideas to match - including some things we had done recently. We were going through a rough patch at the time and seeing that list doubled my resolve to work through it. 

I saw my wife keeps an app for reminders for everyone’s birthday and significant dates of our relationship. She also has a bunch of photo montages she created of us together. I never question her love and devotion of me.

My husband changed his phone password to my name within 3 months of us dating. He didn’t tell me he had - I only realised one day when I needed to unlock his phone and asked. I had trust issues going into our relationship, so it was a shock that someone would use my name for anything.

We’ve now been together for 7 years, and I’m still his password.

A folder with pictures of me, but not pictures on dates or anything, mostly pictures of me making silly faces or sleeping or eating. It showed me that he values me being comfortable and just existing a lot more than being dolled up and perfect constantly.

Proof that she was cheating. Took a video with my own phone of all the proof.

Then confronted her that I knew she was cheating but didn't tell her how. She confessed to cheating with an entirely different person than what I had proof of. Wild times lol.

Photos of her talking with her ex about the amazing s*x they were having. Talking about how it’s perfect because she will divorce me soon and take everything.

She took nothing! Divorced that c*nt!

I’m not bitter 😉