No matter how long a couple has been together, jealousy can always make an appearance in their relationship. It’s never fun to see your partner interact with an ex or to watch a stranger flirt with them while they’re on the clock.
But if you trust them, you'll know that they’ll always prioritize you. And if you can’t trust them, well, your relationship might be doomed anyway. One woman’s worst fears came true when her boyfriend’s former crush came back into town. Below, you’ll find the full story that she shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left her.
This woman was always worried about the relationship that her boyfriend had with a close friend
And her worst fears came true when the friend came back into town
Readers were brutally honest with the author and gave her a reality check
Later, the author shared an update on her relationship status
It's perfectly natural to experience some jealousy in a relationship
Relationships are complicated. In the beginning, it can be difficult to determine whether the two of you are even interested in one another, and once the honeymoon phase ends, you have to decide yet again if you want to continue seeing each other.
For a relationship to work, both parties have to choose every day to commit, and they also have to be able to ignore outside noise and distractions. One of the most challenging aspects of dating that can be difficult to ignore is jealousy.
According to The Couples Center, it’s perfectly normal to experience some jealousy in a relationship. Jealousy shows that you truly care about your partner and that you don’t want to lose them. If you weren’t invested in the relationship, you wouldn’t care if anyone else flirted with your partner or showed interest in them.
It is natural to feel a pang of jealousy if your partner gives someone else attention, succeeds at something that you’re also working towards, shares a special moment with someone else, or unintentionally makes you feel excluded.
But it’s how we react to this uncomfortable feeling that’s important. The best thing to do is simply acknowledge the jealousy and address it. Don’t try to bottle it up, as that will likely only make it worse.
Talk openly and honestly about it with your partner, so they have the opportunity to give you reassurance. Plus, if you can understand where your jealousy is coming from and take responsibility for it, you might be able to eliminate it completely.
Meanwhile, if you let unhealthy jealousy simmer, it might take a huge toll on your relationship. It can lead to a loss of trust, defensiveness, increased arguments, worry and anxiety, and a decrease in intimacy.
Everyone deserves to find a partner who will always put them first
As far as where jealousy can come from in a relationship, Verywell Mind notes that it often stems from feeling insecure or having a poor self-image. It might also come from a fear of abandonment or betrayal. Or it may be caused by an intense possessiveness or unhealthy desire for control.
The majority of the time, this jealousy is probably unfounded. However, as the author of this story found out, she had a reason to be worried about her partner’s relationship with his close friend.
Unfortunately, not every relationship is meant to last forever. In fact, very few actually are. But if your partner is willing to leave you to be with someone else, you probably don’t want to be with them in the first place.
Everyone deserves to be with a partner who loves, prioritizes, and chooses them. It can be devastating when one person decides to end a relationship to be with someone else, but in the end, both parties will be better off if they can each find someone who truly loves them.
It’s never going to be easy to see your ex with someone new, especially if you weren’t ready to end the relationship. But licensed psychologist Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, says that with self-awareness, mindfulness, and thought shifting, anyone can get through it.
You may be tempted to obsess over the situation, especially in the beginning, but once you process it, you’ll realize that it was actually for the best. There’s no shame in seeking out professional help to assist you in making sense of all of it and moving on from it. And eventually, you will find someone who would never make you feel second-best.
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Many readers left supportive messages and assured the author that she'll find someone even better
