Ariane noted that people who are on the fence about having children ought to honestly ask themselves if they want them.
"I truly believe that's essential to being a good parent. If you don't love the thought of being a mum or dad, you're likely to resent having to put your children first. Secondly, that love for them is what powers you through the difficult times—and there will be difficult times. So do it because you know your life wouldn't be complete if you don't,” she said.
She highlighted the fact that nobody should have kids just to “tick a box” due to societal pressure. "Plenty of people are very happy and fulfilled without being parents. It just so happens that I wouldn't have been one of them, but that doesn't mean it's not a perfectly valid life choice,” Ariane told Bored Panda.
Being a parent means constantly adapting to a growing and changing child. What might have been a very difficult phase for a couple of years can suddenly shift and you might find yourself with more freedom (though the reverse can happen, too).
"Your kid will probably grow out of whatever behavior they're displaying now. The first four years are the most difficult. But at age 4, they go to school, and then you get your life back a bit, for at least six hours a day. See if you can get some help each week, whether that's grandparents doing a bit of childcare or paying a childminder. Use the extra time to exercise self-care and pamper yourself, whether that means having a massage or just a soak in the bath—do things you wouldn't be able to do while looking after your child,” the mom suggested how we can all deal with exhaustion.
Having an open chat with your partner when you’re feeling overwhelmed or exhausted can work wonders, too. You can also reach out to your family, friends, as well as a counselor if need be. You have to have some sort of outlet for your emotions because things will be tough.
"You might not feel as though you're doing a great job, but is your kid fed, clothed, warm, safe, happy, and loved? Then you're doing brilliantly—cut yourself some slack.”
