Becoming a parent is truly a blessing but let’s not pretend it’s all lullabies and sunshine. While some moms and dads make it look effortless, the truth is, it takes a whole lot of patience, emotional stamina, and a sense of humor to raise a child. From sleepless nights to temper tantrums, it’s anything but a cakewalk.
To get an honest take on this chaos, we spoke with Pankaj Kothari, owner of PKIN, a one-stop luxury destination for men's clothing, shoes, and accessories. When he’s not helping clients look sharp, he’s a full-time dad navigating the parenting roller coaster. And he didn’t sugarcoat it one bit. “It’s not easy,” he said, laughing. “I read all the parenting books, but they don’t really prepare you. Not for the curveballs kids throw at you daily.”
A father of two, Pankaj chuckles at the idea of being ‘ready’ for the second child. “You’d think having one kid would prepare you for the next but nope!” he said. “They’re totally different. My daughter was calm and gentle, but my son is mischievous and keeps me on my toes.” It’s the kind of dynamic that keeps parents guessing, and sometimes hiding in the bathroom for peace. You adjust, you learn, and you embrace the unpredictability. Because what else can you do?
“As a dad, I find my bond with each child is different,” he adds. “With my daughter, I feel this protective instinct, but with my son, I can afford to be a little tougher.” That balance isn’t always easy to strike, but it’s essential. He believes in being involved and present, rather than passive. “Discipline is important, but so is play,” he says. “They need to see both sides.” And if that means joining a game of tag in a suit, so be it.
Pankaj believes in teaching by example. “I’m an active person, so I introduced my kids to sports early on,” he shares. “It’s not just about physical health, it’s about learning discipline, teamwork, and bouncing back from failure.” Whether it’s cricket or skating, it’s less about the game and more about the experience. “Kids learn so much when they see their parents doing things with them.” It's not always picture-perfect, but the effort counts more than perfection.
And while discipline matters, Pankaj is a big advocate for communication. “Understand your kids, talk to them,” he says. “Don’t just assume you know what they’re going through.” He encourages parents to create a space where kids feel safe expressing themselves. And when mistakes happen, as they will, handle it with compassion. “Don’t be too harsh,” he says. “Let them have their own experiences and learn from them.” After all, growth doesn’t happen in fear, it happens in trust.
