Children really do not have a filter because, well, why would they? They are often learning and seeing new things every single day. In general, much of the “shame” or “shock” parents feel is just second-hand embarrassment. Realistically, if you met a person who was truly offended that a four year old said something blunt, you should probably just disregard their opinion.
After all, children simply do not know any better and just learning to state their opinion or just ask pretty direct questions is all part of growing up. These also provide the learning moments that help them grow into functioning adults in the long run.
Importantly, as these examples show, it’s not even all “bad!” Kids don’t have the strange shame of being open about their emotions so they are just as capable of saying cute and wholesome things. After all, most of us did grow up at least liking our parents, setting aside things like chores and bedtimes.
Actually communicating their feelings is a pretty important part of growing up. Think about it, how many grown ups have we all met who have the “emotional range of a toddler,” although this list would show that not all toddlers are the same, some are perfectly capable of being cute and loving, in their own way.
So it’s perfectly fine to put up with some strange questions or blunt statements, because it’s really the best time for it. There is no other time in their lives where they can as freely just say whatever is on their mind without some potential consequences. Plus, as a parent, it’s probably pretty nice to actually hear your kid say something cute unprompted.
