These examples given by experts only scratch the surface of cat behavior. There are many other behaviors that set them apart from other pets that first-time cat owners might not be aware of.
"I would say one of the biggest surprises for first-time cat parents is the importance of scent and territory. Unlike other domesticated pets (the dog's bond primarily comes through social hierarchy and obedience), the cat's bond to their environment comes through scent marking (rubbing, scratching)," Schulte explains.
"They also require clearly defined and structured territories. The cat's primary stress signal often isn't loud vocalization (like a dog might bark or whine), but a subtle change in routine, hiding, or even house soiling (this behavior is often mistaken for defiance or spite). Cats are also the absolute masters of masking illness and stress, which is a key to survival but often surprises and frustrates new homes."
Caron additionally mentions that for most cats, safety and stability are the foundation of their behavior. "Understanding this helps first-time cat owners better support their pets and build a strong, trusting relationship."
Van de Kieft adds that first-time cat owners might be surprised by how much enrichment they need. "I don't mean to say they are difficult, but first-time cat guardians are often surprised by how much stimulation they need, particularly if you adopt a young, active cat."
To keep cats happy and healthy, experts gladly agreed to share their top tips, which we summarized in the bullet points below:
- Play with your cat every day and provide additional stimulation such as puzzles, games, and maybe even training.
- Your cat wants a job—make them work for their food or their treats, using puzzle feeders, or even just hiding kibble around the house.
- Feed a diet that is high in animal protein and moisture, appropriate for their species.
- If you notice signs of stress or changes in behavior, don’t ignore them.
- Never punish your cat, as that can be harmful. Try to understand the motivation for unwanted behaviors.
