Breaking up with a romantic partner hurts, but friendship breakups? Some say they cut even deeper. There's a unique kind of pain in losing someone who once knew all your secrets, your habits, your heart.
To better understand why these emotional rifts happen, we’ve compiled real stories from people who had to walk away from their best friends. These confessions are raw, honest, and sometimes downright shocking, ranging from betrayal and jealousy to simply growing apart. If you've ever ended a friendship, this might just offer the comfort or closure you've been searching for.
#1
I had this friend that I considered a sister. We were friends since we were 13. I was there when her grandfather died and helped to shave him. To. shave. a. dead. person. If that’s not friendship, then I don’t know what it is.
Years forward, I graduated from university first, got a job first, bought a car first and she started to make comments here and there putting me down. I used to call her to share an accomplishment like we always used to do and she acted as it was nothing. I noticed the change in her attitude. However, my attitude towards her never changed.
Among the two, she was always the hot one, or at least she considered herself as such. But I got engaged first to a wonderful, handsome man. Was she happy for me? no. She didn’t have a boyfriend or any prospect of marriage at that time. She gets to know this guy because my fiancé introduced them, he’s not good-looking at all, bless his heart, but a very decent nice guy. He proposed and she accepted.
Then it began devaluating not only me, my wedding but also my now husband. She used to do these passive-aggressive comparisons between my now husband and hers where hers was always the best and it was not the case. She told me one day, she heard nobody liked my husband and people thought he was a l***r professionally speaking. That’s not even the case since my now husband had a higher rank than hers professionally and people like him. Anyway, if you attack my husband, you are dead to me. Never spoke to her again. She pretended she didn’t know me and it was fine by me.
Years forward, I graduated from university first, got a job first, bought a car first and she started to make comments here and there putting me down. I used to call her to share an accomplishment like we always used to do and she acted as it was nothing. I noticed the change in her attitude. However, my attitude towards her never changed.
Among the two, she was always the hot one, or at least she considered herself as such. But I got engaged first to a wonderful, handsome man. Was she happy for me? no. She didn’t have a boyfriend or any prospect of marriage at that time. She gets to know this guy because my fiancé introduced them, he’s not good-looking at all, bless his heart, but a very decent nice guy. He proposed and she accepted.
Then it began devaluating not only me, my wedding but also my now husband. She used to do these passive-aggressive comparisons between my now husband and hers where hers was always the best and it was not the case. She told me one day, she heard nobody liked my husband and people thought he was a l***r professionally speaking. That’s not even the case since my now husband had a higher rank than hers professionally and people like him. Anyway, if you attack my husband, you are dead to me. Never spoke to her again. She pretended she didn’t know me and it was fine by me.
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#2
I had a very good friend for many years, he was a neighbor of mine, and we were in the same age bracket and shared many interests in hiking, travel, live music, and really good food. We hiked together through Switzerland and climbed one of the Alps together. He started dating someone and began spending more time at home, becoming more of a ‘homebody’, so gradually we started seeing less of each other as friends. I got a text message from him apologizing for being out of touch, and asking if I knew anyone with connections to Ricky Martin, so that he could get a couple tickets to a sold out concert. Turns out, I did have someone in Martin’s circle who owed me a favor. So I called it. Face value of the tickets was only about $500 each, so not a lot of money. But asking for the tickets did burn my favor. I give my buddy the tickets and thought nothing about it. I text him the Monday after the show and ask if he had a good time. He replied, “nah we didn’t feel like going. we just stayed inside and watched tv”.
I felt completely betrayed. Used. Unappreciated. I cut off all contact with my friend, and maybe this was an overreaction, but I was just so angry.
I felt completely betrayed. Used. Unappreciated. I cut off all contact with my friend, and maybe this was an overreaction, but I was just so angry.
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39points
#3
I had a friend for years when I was in my 30s and single, her name was Peg. We had fun “Girls Nites”. She lived almost next door so we hung out a lot at her house or mine. She was almost overly cheerful most of the time so pleasant enough to hang out with and I really enjoyed her company.
At some point she began dating a really nice guy, Harry. They seemed really happy. He was a recent widower who’s wife had died from cancer. He had a young daughter, Heather, who was about 5 years old who was really still fresh from losing her mom. Needless to say, the kid was kind of a mess, but Peg and Harry seemed to be handling things okay. Peg had never had any kids of her own, but she was a physical therapyst who dealt with kids all day long and she really seemed ok to jump into a “sort-of” mom roll with Heather. Peg married Harry and everyone seemed pretty happy. I still saw her regularly, but I noticed she was not very tolerant of Heather, almost like she was a little jealous.
Now Peg had alway had a side to her that I found unusual. She was REALLY into “alternative medicine”…but not to a crazy degree. She would go to the doctor, but she preferred Herbalists and Chiropractors to MDs. This was all fine until I heard that Heather got sick. After lots of tests it was determined that Heather had Lukemia. Peg jumped all over this and insisted that they try Micro Diets and Herbs because she was convinced the Chemo that was recommended was “p****n”. I couldn’t beleive it! I told her that she needed to do EVERYTHING the doctors recommended, the cancer was totally treatable and the prognosis was good, but it would be dangerous to not treat her right away.
Peg INSISTED that they NOT treat Heather with “Western Medicine”. I was appalled and told Harry that I thought he needed to step up and protect his daughter. He agreed, but was having trouble convincing Peg. THANK GOD the doctors had a Judge come down with some sort of legal order to get Heather her treatment. Peg was really mad at me for not supporting her. That was it! I could never be friends with someone who would gamble with a child’s life that she was in a parental position with. Harry and Peg stayed married for a few more years, but ultimately divorced. I heard that Heather was cured of Lukemia, but still stuggles with her mental health—- Poor kid. Im sure in the back of her mind, she knew that Peg was really not the caring mom she had been hoping for and that this made the loss of her real mom that more tragic.
At some point she began dating a really nice guy, Harry. They seemed really happy. He was a recent widower who’s wife had died from cancer. He had a young daughter, Heather, who was about 5 years old who was really still fresh from losing her mom. Needless to say, the kid was kind of a mess, but Peg and Harry seemed to be handling things okay. Peg had never had any kids of her own, but she was a physical therapyst who dealt with kids all day long and she really seemed ok to jump into a “sort-of” mom roll with Heather. Peg married Harry and everyone seemed pretty happy. I still saw her regularly, but I noticed she was not very tolerant of Heather, almost like she was a little jealous.
Now Peg had alway had a side to her that I found unusual. She was REALLY into “alternative medicine”…but not to a crazy degree. She would go to the doctor, but she preferred Herbalists and Chiropractors to MDs. This was all fine until I heard that Heather got sick. After lots of tests it was determined that Heather had Lukemia. Peg jumped all over this and insisted that they try Micro Diets and Herbs because she was convinced the Chemo that was recommended was “p****n”. I couldn’t beleive it! I told her that she needed to do EVERYTHING the doctors recommended, the cancer was totally treatable and the prognosis was good, but it would be dangerous to not treat her right away.
Peg INSISTED that they NOT treat Heather with “Western Medicine”. I was appalled and told Harry that I thought he needed to step up and protect his daughter. He agreed, but was having trouble convincing Peg. THANK GOD the doctors had a Judge come down with some sort of legal order to get Heather her treatment. Peg was really mad at me for not supporting her. That was it! I could never be friends with someone who would gamble with a child’s life that she was in a parental position with. Harry and Peg stayed married for a few more years, but ultimately divorced. I heard that Heather was cured of Lukemia, but still stuggles with her mental health—- Poor kid. Im sure in the back of her mind, she knew that Peg was really not the caring mom she had been hoping for and that this made the loss of her real mom that more tragic.
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36points
Defining a good friend isn’t always easy. What one person values might not matter as much to someone else. Some look for loyalty, while others prioritize fun or shared interests. Friendship isn’t one-size-fits-all; it’s deeply personal. What makes someone a good friend for you might not work for someone else. And that’s totally okay.
Some people want a friend who’s always up for an adventure: hiking, exploring, road trips. Others prefer quiet nights with someone who loves books or deep conversations. It all depends on personality, comfort, and what brings joy. But while good friends come in many forms, bad ones often share familiar traits. And sometimes, they’re hard to spot right away. Until the red flags start waving.
#4
She slept with my live-in BF of five years. Worse that that she deliberately set me up. We would make a date to go out together while my BF was at work (He was a Recording Engineer, and often worked in the evening). She would start chatting up a guy at the bar, and the suddenly leave, making up some kind of excuse, and leaving me to talk to him.
What I did not know was that she would go to the Studio, where BF was working, and tell him she had “just seen me” at the Pub chatting up a guy. If he didn’t believe her she would call the bar, and have the bartender confirm her story.
It worked, she convinced him that I was running around and cheating on him. We broke up, and she started dating him, eventually they married. It lasted about 5 years, they had one child, and then they broke up!
I never talked to her again after I found out the whole story from her room mates later!
What I did not know was that she would go to the Studio, where BF was working, and tell him she had “just seen me” at the Pub chatting up a guy. If he didn’t believe her she would call the bar, and have the bartender confirm her story.
It worked, she convinced him that I was running around and cheating on him. We broke up, and she started dating him, eventually they married. It lasted about 5 years, they had one child, and then they broke up!
I never talked to her again after I found out the whole story from her room mates later!
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32points
#5
I designed and built custom web sites for several years, and a friend tried to steal my business.
She’d been helping me with sales leads. I guess she thought she could make a lot of money if she went around me. She didn’t have any of the skills necessary to do this kind of work, but she had a student lined up that she thought could do it for her. He helped her copy my web site to another account, and she started selling my designs as her own.
I found out what she was up to. She was the one who actually ended the friendship. I hoped we could fix it at first, because I was so shocked by her actions, but quickly realized it was impossible.
When someone betrays you, you’re a fool to sign up for more. It was awful.
She’d been helping me with sales leads. I guess she thought she could make a lot of money if she went around me. She didn’t have any of the skills necessary to do this kind of work, but she had a student lined up that she thought could do it for her. He helped her copy my web site to another account, and she started selling my designs as her own.
I found out what she was up to. She was the one who actually ended the friendship. I hoped we could fix it at first, because I was so shocked by her actions, but quickly realized it was impossible.
When someone betrays you, you’re a fool to sign up for more. It was awful.
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31points
#6
I looked after him after his wife had an affair and he asked me to come round and I lent an ear and did his Christmas shopping for him and was there for him. He got back with his wife and she had it in for me ever since; he couldn’t seem to get that.
When my narcissistic ex left and immediately moved in with his girlfriend, my ‘friend’ and his wife decided that they were not going to take sides; though they knew he was behaving appallingly to me.
Anyhow the final straw - having told him how much his behaviour was hurting me, my friend posted all over Facebook congratulations to my ex and partner on their engagement; my ex hadn’t even told my sons and didn’t until a week further along.
His continual insensitivity, lack of consideration and the unnecessary ‘showing off’ on Facebook proved that he was never truly my friend.
Another long relationship which proved to be completely fake.
When my narcissistic ex left and immediately moved in with his girlfriend, my ‘friend’ and his wife decided that they were not going to take sides; though they knew he was behaving appallingly to me.
Anyhow the final straw - having told him how much his behaviour was hurting me, my friend posted all over Facebook congratulations to my ex and partner on their engagement; my ex hadn’t even told my sons and didn’t until a week further along.
His continual insensitivity, lack of consideration and the unnecessary ‘showing off’ on Facebook proved that he was never truly my friend.
Another long relationship which proved to be completely fake.
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27points
These red flags scream, “This might not be a healthy friendship.” And the sooner you notice them, the better. Because emotional exhaustion is real. Especially when the bond that’s supposed to lift you up starts wearing you down.
One of the most obvious red flags in any friendship? A friend who talks behind your back. And it’s rarely just about you; they often badmouth everyone around them. If they gossip to you about others, chances are they’re gossiping about you to someone else too. This kind of behavior isn’t just shady; it can be toxic and manipulative. It creates an environment built on suspicion rather than trust. You’ll start wondering what’s being said the minute you leave the room. That lingering doubt can damage even the strongest bond.
#7
My best friend of over 15 years. She had been in many train wreck relationships in the time I knew her. Finally she met Matt. This guy seemed wonderful made her very happy. They eventually got engaged. I started seeing her behavior change. She would say some really terrible things about other people of different races and religion. She was never like that before and she knows I don’t tolerate that at all. I asked her to keep it to herself. She started making comments about my own life too. I’m a vegan she all of a sudden thought that was stupid and “ignorant”. She would make comments about my dogs who may not be the best behaved but they were all rescued from varying bad situations and deserve to have a great life. Her dog she purchased from a breeder and would go on and on about how people who rescue are stupid because the dogs are ruined. She knows how I feel about rescue and fostering and how against breeders I am but would carry on anyway. Lots of other things too I can’t think of at the moment. Long story short this guy was changing her views and I didn’t like who she was becoming. The breaking point was an argument over her saying she isn’t wearing a mask because it doesn’t affect her and she won’t be inconvenienced protecting people she will never know. I can’t be friends with someone so selfish about so many things.
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#8
I had a wonderful friend with whom I worked. We had great times and I considered her a friend for life
When I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, she signed cards and flowers from groups of people but never did anything personal. I didn’t realize this at the time because I was trying to deal with a brain surgery and all that comes with it.
As I’m going to appointments, dealing with issues and starting proton radiation, I’m hearing from her less and less. I remember asking her if she was ok, worried something was wrong. It was then that she said that my diagnosis was a lot to handle, that she just couldn’t handle it. I wasn’t really sure what she meant at the time but that’s when all communication dropped off. Other friends were great, stopping by, coming to stay with me but she was silent.
It’s been 10 years since then and I’ve had six surpgeries, all without any support from her. She has stayed in touch with mutual friends but not me. It would be an understatement to say I’m hurt. I don’t know what would cause a friend to behave like that.
It’s been several years now and I rarely think of her, except when I see questions like this.
When I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, she signed cards and flowers from groups of people but never did anything personal. I didn’t realize this at the time because I was trying to deal with a brain surgery and all that comes with it.
As I’m going to appointments, dealing with issues and starting proton radiation, I’m hearing from her less and less. I remember asking her if she was ok, worried something was wrong. It was then that she said that my diagnosis was a lot to handle, that she just couldn’t handle it. I wasn’t really sure what she meant at the time but that’s when all communication dropped off. Other friends were great, stopping by, coming to stay with me but she was silent.
It’s been 10 years since then and I’ve had six surpgeries, all without any support from her. She has stayed in touch with mutual friends but not me. It would be an understatement to say I’m hurt. I don’t know what would cause a friend to behave like that.
It’s been several years now and I rarely think of her, except when I see questions like this.
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26points
#9
I moved to Texas in 1996, when my husband’s company was sold and moved us. He had to go back to our home state and finish closing down operations. This woman was in the exact same situation. We had bonded over the 3 month span that our husbands were away, and we were establishing our new homes.
We shared problems, including the ones she had with her elderly parents who were “back home.” Life went on this way for 17 years. Then my husband had a near fatal motorcycle wreck. One day I called her, nearly in tears. He had taken a turn for the worse, and I was called to authorize an emergency procedure. When she answered, I told her what had happened. Before I had finished telling her, she responded, “I’m busy now, call back tomorrow if you still want to talk.” then hung up on me.
That was the last time we spoke to one another. Two years later, I got a card indicating that she would like to resume meeting with me once a month or so. I never bothered to respond. We no longer had anything in common.
By the way, my husband did recover, after over a month in the ICU, and several months of therapy. He returned to his work as a electrical engineer, and retired two years after returning to work after the accident.
We shared problems, including the ones she had with her elderly parents who were “back home.” Life went on this way for 17 years. Then my husband had a near fatal motorcycle wreck. One day I called her, nearly in tears. He had taken a turn for the worse, and I was called to authorize an emergency procedure. When she answered, I told her what had happened. Before I had finished telling her, she responded, “I’m busy now, call back tomorrow if you still want to talk.” then hung up on me.
That was the last time we spoke to one another. Two years later, I got a card indicating that she would like to resume meeting with me once a month or so. I never bothered to respond. We no longer had anything in common.
By the way, my husband did recover, after over a month in the ICU, and several months of therapy. He returned to his work as a electrical engineer, and retired two years after returning to work after the accident.
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25points
Then there are those friends who never seem to show up when it matters. They cancel at the last minute, leave your messages on read, or forget plans you made weeks ago. While everyone has a busy life, there’s a big difference between being unavailable and being unreliable.
Good friends find a way to make time, even during hectic weeks. If someone always has an excuse and never follows through, you may start feeling like an afterthought. Support in friendships is shown through consistency. You deserve someone who values your time, not someone who keeps disappearing.
#10
Someone who was a new acquaintance and who I thought could become a friend stole from someone in a group of My friends — and had the audacity to smile and laugh about it to Me.
Before the smile could finish spreading across her face, I told her that she was contemptible and that under NO circumstances was she to ever communicate with Me again. Whatever it was that made her think that she could find a comrade in heinousness with ME was cause enough for Me never to want to bother with her ever again. I told her that she had 24 hours to return what she’d stolen or that I would tell everyone what she did.
I intensely dislike thieves, liars, and cheats and believe that they should be treated with corporal punished.
Of course, creeps always choose the next level of creepiness and she attempted to contact everyone in the group to tell them that I had stolen the item and threatened that if she told them, that I would say she’d done it. This backfired because My integrity precedes Me and they all knew better.
Let’s just say that things did not fare well for her. Best part is that I did not have to do anything further.
Before the smile could finish spreading across her face, I told her that she was contemptible and that under NO circumstances was she to ever communicate with Me again. Whatever it was that made her think that she could find a comrade in heinousness with ME was cause enough for Me never to want to bother with her ever again. I told her that she had 24 hours to return what she’d stolen or that I would tell everyone what she did.
I intensely dislike thieves, liars, and cheats and believe that they should be treated with corporal punished.
Of course, creeps always choose the next level of creepiness and she attempted to contact everyone in the group to tell them that I had stolen the item and threatened that if she told them, that I would say she’d done it. This backfired because My integrity precedes Me and they all knew better.
Let’s just say that things did not fare well for her. Best part is that I did not have to do anything further.
22points
#11
I was friends with a woman for 12 years. We were close enough that she said she wanted to make me the Executor of her estate. Two to three months before she went on a trip, and planned on visiting me (for a two week visit), she decided to adopt a 40 pound dog. When she asked if we were still good with her visit, I told her no. We have two cats, and they would be very uncomfortable with a dog coming into their territory. She abruptly hung up and me and a few weeks later sent me an email on exactly the date of a milestone birthday for me, and it was truly the most vile, hateful letter I have ever read. All because I said no to her. This has been nearly 4 years and looking back on it, I realize, that she really had some deep seated emotional problems.
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#12
I used to be really close with someone, but things changed when they started talking behind my back. I found out they were sharing personal stuff I had confided in them. After confronting them, instead of apologizing, they brushed it off like it was no big deal. That’s when I realized our friendship wasn't what I thought it was, and I had to step away.
20points
Another major red flag is a friend who only takes but never gives. You’re always the one listening, supporting, comforting, but when you need help, they’re nowhere to be found. Friendship isn’t a one-way street. When it becomes a constant drain with no return, that’s emotional imbalance. You should never feel like you're begging for care or attention. A good friend checks in without being asked. If you're always showing up and getting nothing back, it's time to reflect. Ask yourself: are they being a friend to you, or just using your kindness?
#13
Any unexpected/unsolicited & negative remark about anyone’s body, appearance or behavior is a red flag. Gossip and undue or unkind criticism about others hints at the kind of person I don’t want around me.
I had a hard time understanding a lot of this isn’t calling out bad behavior. It isn’t being funny or clever. It’s purposefully using false statements to influence how I think about a person. It’s very common. It’s so gross how people will make stuff up about others. Do. Not. Want.
I’ve noticed people will often try to engage me in putting someone else down. I used to brush it off, thinking most were going to do it. I didn’t grasp the depth of cold-heartedness this entailed until I was middle-aged. Now I’ll walk away. There’s no room for those people anymore.
I had a hard time understanding a lot of this isn’t calling out bad behavior. It isn’t being funny or clever. It’s purposefully using false statements to influence how I think about a person. It’s very common. It’s so gross how people will make stuff up about others. Do. Not. Want.
I’ve noticed people will often try to engage me in putting someone else down. I used to brush it off, thinking most were going to do it. I didn’t grasp the depth of cold-heartedness this entailed until I was middle-aged. Now I’ll walk away. There’s no room for those people anymore.
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#14
My best friend has always acted strange around me and was constantly throwing shade at me, but I never really reacted until she embarrassed me in front of my guy friends. We were talking in our group chat and I made a typing error, which is something common for me because I write too fast. She pointed out my mistake and started analysing every single detail about it, all of this while my 3 other guy friends were watching. She then proceeded to text “well if you actually paid attention to class and studied a lot, you'd know what you typed is wrong”. Who is she to tell me if I am a good student or not and basically criticize my academic performance, especially since I am one of the best students in my class and always get h**h grades. Note that she ALWAYS talked sh*t about my abilities in school, and would make me feel bad every time I got a lower grade than her. I wouldn't mind at all if she just told me I made a mistake politely, but making it a big deal in front of others made me extremely pissed. Later on I dmed her the same way she did and said “well you also made a typing error earlier and if you paid more attention you wouldn't make it”. She told me she was joking about what she said earlier and claimed I was trying to get revenge, when I was simply defending myself. After this, I talked to my aunt about this, and I realised her only goal is to humiliate me to make her seem better, only because she has no confidence in herself. I've limited interaction with her ever since.
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18points
#15
I was uninvited to his wedding.
Long version: I received my Save The Date cards in the mail with a note saying how great it will be to get the old posse back together.
My invitation never came.
He had a mutual friend tell me that he really wanted my girlfriend and I there but the bride needed to invite some extra coworkers so he had to cut someone. I was only person from old crowd that wasn't invited.
That's what pissed me off…..He didn't have the b***s to tell me himself.
Three years later my girlfriend and I got married….He wasn't invited.
Long version: I received my Save The Date cards in the mail with a note saying how great it will be to get the old posse back together.
My invitation never came.
He had a mutual friend tell me that he really wanted my girlfriend and I there but the bride needed to invite some extra coworkers so he had to cut someone. I was only person from old crowd that wasn't invited.
That's what pissed me off…..He didn't have the b***s to tell me himself.
Three years later my girlfriend and I got married….He wasn't invited.
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18points
Dishonesty is another red flag that no real friendship can survive. It doesn’t matter whether the lies are big or small; they chip away at the foundation. A friend who isn’t truthful breaks a fundamental part of trust. When you start doubting their words, the relationship becomes shaky. It doesn’t matter how charming or fun they are if you can’t believe them. You deserve someone who respects you enough to be honest.
#16
I have had a “friend” steal $150 from me, while we were hanging out at my house. She than proceeded to blame my brother for it, after I found out it was her who took the money I ended the friendship. She is still trying to be my “friend”, but stealing and doing some other things that I don’t wish to explain, is not a good way to try and restart a friendship with someone. We are currently ‘Friendly Acquaintances’ and I have no wish to start the full friendship back up.
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#17
It was a while back. It was late in the evening around 7:45 PM. Let's name my friend X. It was the final examination of our semester and we along with a few others were having a nice chat about how we could spend our holidays together.
We usually catch our train home. The next train would arrive at around 9:30 PM. So we had to reach home via the public bus transportation. We waited for the bus for a long time and one finally arrived. We got onto it, waved goodbye to other friends and left.
Now the ticket master asked us for our destination. We had to pay a fare of Rs. 20. And that's when I realized, someone had picked my pocket. I searched for it every where, couldn't find my wallet. My friend said that he didn't have the money to pay for my fare. Then obviously got scolded at badly by the ticket master. You know about India. He asked me to get off the bus in the next stop. I told my friend to carry on with his journey and thank goodness to the e wallet apps like PayTM, BHIM, PhonePe, Google Tez, etc. I only had to exchange the e currency at a nearby shop for cash. X asked me to give him a call as I reached home safely.
Now, I did the same, and thank goodness, the next bus arrived the time I got cash in my hands. My phone died immediately after that. I was very thankful to my phone that day. Else wouldn't reach Home at any cost.
I got onto the bus and reached my destination. I fell asleep deeply. And then suddenly, something woke me up abruptly, I'm not sure what. As I was clearing my eyes of dust, I just had a look outside the window seat. Then I saw Mr. X eating at a fast food restaurant. I was shocked. Then I asked the driver to stop immediately, and then got off. And stood far away waiting for him to finish and pay the bill. If he payed via e wallet, he was genuine, he couldn't have helped me in any way. But I saw him pull out a 100 rupee cash from his wallet and pay the bill. Reality had struck me that night. I didn't even talk to him. Just walked away home.
Now if I were at his place,
I would have stayed with my friend when the Master asked him to get off, instead of leaving him for dead in the middle of nowhere. Even if he insisted on me leaving.
Secondly, I would have payed for the fare. Even if I had to sacrifice my favorite food that night. Me and my friend were hard core foodies.
Where was all the friendship. Why did X have to fake being good friends with me?
It was like God planned ahead for me to see the reality I had to face.
We usually catch our train home. The next train would arrive at around 9:30 PM. So we had to reach home via the public bus transportation. We waited for the bus for a long time and one finally arrived. We got onto it, waved goodbye to other friends and left.
Now the ticket master asked us for our destination. We had to pay a fare of Rs. 20. And that's when I realized, someone had picked my pocket. I searched for it every where, couldn't find my wallet. My friend said that he didn't have the money to pay for my fare. Then obviously got scolded at badly by the ticket master. You know about India. He asked me to get off the bus in the next stop. I told my friend to carry on with his journey and thank goodness to the e wallet apps like PayTM, BHIM, PhonePe, Google Tez, etc. I only had to exchange the e currency at a nearby shop for cash. X asked me to give him a call as I reached home safely.
Now, I did the same, and thank goodness, the next bus arrived the time I got cash in my hands. My phone died immediately after that. I was very thankful to my phone that day. Else wouldn't reach Home at any cost.
I got onto the bus and reached my destination. I fell asleep deeply. And then suddenly, something woke me up abruptly, I'm not sure what. As I was clearing my eyes of dust, I just had a look outside the window seat. Then I saw Mr. X eating at a fast food restaurant. I was shocked. Then I asked the driver to stop immediately, and then got off. And stood far away waiting for him to finish and pay the bill. If he payed via e wallet, he was genuine, he couldn't have helped me in any way. But I saw him pull out a 100 rupee cash from his wallet and pay the bill. Reality had struck me that night. I didn't even talk to him. Just walked away home.
Now if I were at his place,
I would have stayed with my friend when the Master asked him to get off, instead of leaving him for dead in the middle of nowhere. Even if he insisted on me leaving.
Secondly, I would have payed for the fare. Even if I had to sacrifice my favorite food that night. Me and my friend were hard core foodies.
Where was all the friendship. Why did X have to fake being good friends with me?
It was like God planned ahead for me to see the reality I had to face.
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#18
I was friends with a man and a woman for over 10-years. We were very close to begin with and shared most of our lives together. We used to do shopping, going out and going on holiday regularly. Everything started to change when we went on holiday and the lady refused to compromise on doing anything that I wanted to do. Where we went, what we had to eat, what time we go out with dictated all by her. Everything was about her. I reminded them that it was my holiday too but he just went along with what she wanted and she got her way. They spent the rest of the night arguing and I went to bed and got the train home the next morning by myself.
Whenever she was down on her luck i would be there to help her out. Lending her money if she needed it. I was born with a heart condition and had two open heart surgeries. When my health took a turn for the worst that's when when things went really wrong in the friendship. I had to have ambulances out and spend more time in hospital because of fast heart rythms. I would often be discharged later that day day and she would say say that I was exaggerating my symptoms, I was no different to an alcoholic wasting time at the hospital. She even said that she needed proof from the doctors like letters and that if I couldn't provide them then she would disbelieve me but even if I provided them she wouldn't believe it anyway. She also said she would not be my friend if it wasn't for him. I ended the friendship with her completely at that point. However he began to send me messages on her behalf saying that she did not understand what she had done .
Whenever she was down on her luck i would be there to help her out. Lending her money if she needed it. I was born with a heart condition and had two open heart surgeries. When my health took a turn for the worst that's when when things went really wrong in the friendship. I had to have ambulances out and spend more time in hospital because of fast heart rythms. I would often be discharged later that day day and she would say say that I was exaggerating my symptoms, I was no different to an alcoholic wasting time at the hospital. She even said that she needed proof from the doctors like letters and that if I couldn't provide them then she would disbelieve me but even if I provided them she wouldn't believe it anyway. She also said she would not be my friend if it wasn't for him. I ended the friendship with her completely at that point. However he began to send me messages on her behalf saying that she did not understand what she had done .
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But before labeling someone a toxic friend, take a step back. Sometimes, a person’s distance or cold behavior has less to do with you and more to do with their own struggles. They might be dealing with grief, anxiety, burnout, or personal battles they haven’t voiced. Context is crucial, especially when someone has previously shown care.
One or two off weeks shouldn't define an entire relationship. Everyone has rough patches where they don't show up as their best self. Compassion and communication go hand in hand here. Not every red flag is a dealbreaker; some are cries for help.
#19
My “friend" became my friend a few short months after my boyfriend of 5 years successfully hanged himself. This friend used to be a grievance counselor he was introduced to me through my employee. I was skeptical of his intentions, what could he possibly find interesting about me, I was a robot of a person at that time. He would stop by my busy pet grooming shop a few times a week just to check in and say hello ( earning my trust). After a month or so we became inseparable still strictly platonic. All of our mutual friends warned me to watch my back that he was a con artist which made me like him more. I didn't really realize how much money I had been “ lending" him because I really did enjoy his company. During my busy season it's normal to earn over $1000 per day. Which is a lot for one person grooming dogs on her own. I go to the bank before work to make a deposit I glance down at my balance which was around $200. My heart dropped out off My chest , I whip my car around to go inside the bank. I am looking frantic and stuttering as I explain basically wtf is this $200 balance there is no way this is correct. The banker starts listing off at least 15 checks with random amounts. I stop her to ask if she can pull up a copy of the check written. I actually pulled them up faster on my phone than she could. I said OMG it's ARI she asked what does that mean? I said my friend he has stolen a stack of business checks from my house. I said look my signature has 2 It's and 1 S my name is spelled Melissa and he signed them with his own name on the back.
Long story short I pressed charges. In total he had written $2700 In 2 weeks before I noticed and he still had over 14 checks he had written to him self but had not yet cashed. So obviously we are no longer friends which sucks bc I really liked him no matter what anyone said!
Long story short I pressed charges. In total he had written $2700 In 2 weeks before I noticed and he still had over 14 checks he had written to him self but had not yet cashed. So obviously we are no longer friends which sucks bc I really liked him no matter what anyone said!
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#20
Physically hurt me, and have some of her friends threaten to call police on me after I stood up for myself.
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