100 Wild Ways People Accidentally Found Out Their Partner Was Cheating

Told me that they were friends. Then proceed to sent me a picture of him and her sleeping together.

Small changes in behavior, dress, and grooming habits... for working the closing shift at a fast food resturant. Followed her to a motel after she got out of work and confronted them. Kicked her out shortly after(I tried to make it work) and eventually filed for divorce after finding out how miserable she was without him on a solo trip out of state (I paid for to "help her find herself again") . Bad times. Basically became a solo parent while she found herself. She found herself alright. Found herself pregnant before the divorce was even final.

After a year and a half of marriage to a lovely careing partner she suddenly stopped being loving. Went to South Africa to "see her mom". Little contact, ended up staying for 6 weeks instead of 2. Came back furious at me for panicking because she never wanted to talk to me and wouldn't tell me what was going on, she announced she was going to spend six months in South Africa because we were having troubles and her mom wasn't well. Insisted that I must support her financially the whole time... We argued about this but she would not budge- I decided to wait and see before I gave her anything.

She left. I hacked into her blackberry. Found hundreds of texts emails and photos showing she had been planning this with a guy, an ex over there, for months. Also found texts and messages to and from another one of her exes arranging hookups going back over a year, including while all this went on. There was more, but I couldn't take going through more. Gave it all to a divorce lawyer. And then the mask really dropped, her real personality came out... She came back, blamed me for EVERYTHING because I was "jealous"- total projection, of course, insisting I go for counseling, saying I had crossed the line... She tried to totally break me, make me submit and let her do everything openly that she did in secret before. I threw her out, but had to call the police on her when she broke into my house.


I wasn't the best husband, but I was a good one, and I really tried to make our marriage perfect, I did so much soul searching to try to see what I had done to deserve this... But I told her to go to hell and one very expensive divorce later I was finally free.

TLDR hacked into blackberry to find I was married to a sociopath.

First time:Her friend didn't outright tell me, but hinted very strongly. At the time my (now ex) wife and I lived in a bad area so we had set up security cameras. She didn't think I had any reason to check them, or maybe just forgot they were there, either way caught on camera.

I gave her 2 months to come clean. The first I didn't say anything, and the second I did what I could to try to guilt her into telling me.

To this day, even with the evidence and the kid, conceived while we were together, she still won't admit it.

Second time (different girl): We were already having issues so she went to stay with "her friend". Gave her the benefit of the doubt, but when she came back I saw texts from the other guy.

4 and 8 years later they are both still trying to "fix things". Never gonna happen.

GF broke up with me and years later got married and we still had the same friend group so I was invited to the wedding. Her sister gave a speech and when she explained when they first started dating we were still together at that time. Years later a guy who was around the group mentioned he also slept with her drunkenly while we were together. So… a two for one. Oddly enough she’s very religious.

Noticing repeated “work emergencies” that don’t add up.

I didn't find out until after we were separated because I had 2 young children to take care of. The lady (a coworker of his) approached me in the grocery of our little town. She felt sorry for me. She said that the times he called & said he was offered 4 hours overtime, he was actually at her apartment.

Sat on the wet spot on the couch the morning after, tried claiming it was because one of the kids jumped on the couch with wet boots. That one stung a bit.

She was taking a shower, left her phone on the dining room table and saw multiple notifications from several dating apps. Felt like a gut punch. I packed and left before her shower was finished.

I didn't suspect anything at all and a girl reached out to me on Instagram and sent a Pic of him and asked, is this your boyfriend. I said yea, who are you? She sent me a picture from her date with him and was like, lol twinsies. It was more comical, I basically broke up with him via text and messaged girl, who also send a screenshot that she broke up with him like a few minutes before I did. We follow each other on insta now and occasionally like and comment on each other pictures.

Playing a level on a game on her phone she couldn't get past. A WhatsApp came in and I tried to flick it away and it opened, it was a message from another dude and above it was a selfie she had sent. I scrolled briefly and saw the photos they had been exchanging...

Another woman’s shirt was in my bed.

Seems uninterested and hiding phone.

Text from one of her friends who felt bad. After she initiated a divorce and it was finalized. I blocked everyone who I thought would reasonably know if that friend knew and left the state. Started over somewhere else.

Went for a tarot reading as a joke. She told me he was meeting up with women behind my back, messaging other girls, completely deceptive and that the relationship would end soon, after checking his phone.

I laughed and scoffed. Gut feeling told me to check his phone. Wasn’t laughing for long.

Handed me his phone so I could get some footage of his sports team playing for their team’s insta. While he was on the field a snapchat notification popped up, a girl’s name with a red heart by it. Clicked on it, read the chat. The rest is history.

Bra under his bed. said it's his mom's.

He told me he was bi when we were rolling on Molly once. In another instance he told me he cheated on an ex girlfriend and bragged that she didn’t even notice he had changed underwear for the new partner.

What do ya know? A new (to me) guy friend is hanging around and he’d go off with this guy friend for which apparently they were old pals. He came back wearing new underwear and immediately throwing them away.

I put 2 and 2 together that he was this dude behind my back. I’m guessing the “guy pal” had an underwear preference that my then partner didn’t particularly like, so he threw those underwear in the trash, in front of me.

I called him out on it. He screamed in my face as to intimidate me. He noticed I was wearing his hoodie and ripped it off me. Then grabbed a shoe to hit me with.

This was years ago. I left the next day and haven’t seen him since.

So if you notice a sudden change in underwear, that’s a **HUGE** red flag.

God this is terrifying and triggering. My ex cheated on me lots and the dummy left his phone out with text preview so when I came home from a vacation he was passed out druk with phone on table and preview message of from a woman describing the x rated things they did together while I was out of town.
Really hurt me badly and traumatized me.im in a new relationship now and hyper vigilant but it causes me so much anxiety even with a partner who hasn’t shown cheating signs. Tomorrow we are celebrating valentines together and I saw a small gift box of chocolates hidden in his fridge and im so terrified they aren’t for me.I’ll find out tomorrow but giving me so much anxiety.

By the hickey on his neck that I did not give him. He wanted to be caught at that point.