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Men who formerly identified as incels, or involuntarily celibate, have been opening up on Reddit to share what finally got them to change their ways. After being bombarded with red pill propaganda, these men managed to separate themselves from that toxic community and start showing women the respect they deserve. We hope you’ll keep an open mind as you read through these stories, pandas. And please remember that everyone is allowed to change their mind and grow.
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I was involuntarily celibate in that I wanted to have relationships, but never met anyone interested. I didn't put any effort in, so it was kinda my fault. My lifestyle just didn't lend itself to meeting people, so it was hard.
When I finally did get out there and start having relationships it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I realised that I had previously felt like an incomplete person because of my inability to connect with anyone, and that was holding me back from other things in life. Like I thought nothing else was worth pursuing because I hadn't properly entered adulthood yet. I kinda wish I'd just got on with it and persued my other interests a bit more. I don't know why I had to wait. Maybe it was depression relating to me being lonely.
Edit: thinking about it a bit more, I put off dating for a long time because I thought I had to have my life in order first, which was why I waited until I hit some other life milestones. Once I hit those, I realised I had no excuse and finally started online dating. First one ghosted me, which hit me pretty hard after doing something positive for myself. Second one we really hit it off, and that's when I turned into a different person. It's worth the effort.
When I finally did get out there and start having relationships it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I realised that I had previously felt like an incomplete person because of my inability to connect with anyone, and that was holding me back from other things in life. Like I thought nothing else was worth pursuing because I hadn't properly entered adulthood yet. I kinda wish I'd just got on with it and persued my other interests a bit more. I don't know why I had to wait. Maybe it was depression relating to me being lonely.
Edit: thinking about it a bit more, I put off dating for a long time because I thought I had to have my life in order first, which was why I waited until I hit some other life milestones. Once I hit those, I realised I had no excuse and finally started online dating. First one ghosted me, which hit me pretty hard after doing something positive for myself. Second one we really hit it off, and that's when I turned into a different person. It's worth the effort.
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