It might seem that there are quite a few tips and tricks on how to flirt with someone and this way express your interest towards that person. Some might feel that this is quite a hard thing to do knowing that there is always a risk of crossing a line, creating a wrong impression, or finding out that the person is not interested in you. But sometimes people tend to miss out on someone having their eye on them. Having this in mind, one Reddit user decided to ask those who believe that they are good at flirting “what are some social cues us oblivious people should watch out for?”
The question that received almost 59K upvotes was answered by people sharing their own experiences, revealing what actions show that a person is interested in you. Which one of these signs do you believe in? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
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#1
Good at flirting also means recognizing when the other party isn't receptive.
If they're answering briskly and killing conversation, cut your losses and move on.
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#2
Everyone is giving good advice, but flirting didn't click for me until i heard it described not as a set of behaviors to look out for, but as an escalation of suggestive behaviors couched in plausible deniability.
Put practically, if someone is doing something to engage you that feels extra (lots of touching, looking at you in a way that feels a bit to long, or doing a lot of poking fun and complimenting you), then that might be flirting or it might not. That's the whole point. Plausible deniability. They can safely disengage at any time.
If you want to know if someone's flirting, you need to test it. You do that by escalating things, but just a bit, so that now you have plausible deniability (touch them back in a comfortable way, maintain eye contact, or joke-compliment them back). If they escalate back and continue to do so as you escalate in turn, that is flirting. Eventually one of you will break cover and do something with clear intent (a kiss, an approach + ask for a number, or straight up telling them what you think of them and that you're interested). Otherwise, if you escalate and they don't change their behavior or they back off, then they were probably just being friendly and you should take the hint and do the same.
Dunno if that's something obvious to people, but it was definitely not for me, and college parties would have been way less fun had i not known. Hopefully this can help someone else too :)
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#3
I read once that if someone looks at you after someone (doesn't have to be you) said something funny and everyone is laughing, they like you. From personal experience, it's true
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#4
Be wary of a one-sided conversation. If your responses are met with mostly "yeps" and "uh huh" and nothing without meat, its probably not going well.
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#5
Does their body turn toward you or away from you when you talk? Do they mirror your body language?
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#6
It’s the 2nd glance. They look once, look away & then look at you again. Not staring, not aggressive, this 2nd look denotes interest. Finally I get to use something I learned at uni
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#7
According to Sherlock: licking lips, eyes cast down towards the other persons lips, quirky smile of the lips, dilated eyes. And if the person has long hair, tucking it behind their ear or other fidgety behavior.
Please note I’m not Sherlock and I suck at flirting
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#8
When you're bad at flirting, it's not that you don't see the signals. It's that you don't interpret the signals correctly, or convince yourself that it cannot possibly mean that when you see the signal for what it is. At its root, it's a confidence issue. So it's not fixable by other people being more obvious or knowing what to look for. You gotta fix yourself.
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#9
If you're in a group of friends (new or old), find a natural opportunity to hang back. Someone who's interested in you will notice and take the opportunity to talk to you in private. Now this isn't full proof but it'll at least give you the opportunity to feel for any chemistry between you.
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#10
I've noticed that women will do a little adjustment to you, like brushing off a little piece of lint off your lapel or moving a stray hair off your face while talking to you. At least they did back in my rogue days.
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#11
Seriously tell a bad joke - look for laughter and smiles that should not be there but are. Then it’s you they are into, definitely not what you said.
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#12
When people go out of their way to do something for you or say they really like spending time with you.
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#13
Physical contact. Granted, not everyone flirts the same way but a good sign is if they touch your arm (or the like) or you find them smiling the whole time that you’re talking to them.
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#14
If they start taking clothes off it's generally a good sign.
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#15
If they look directly at you while talking to their friend it's a good sign
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#16
Does someone spend a lot of time around you?
I'm terrible at flirting but that's my method. Hang out. Be with this person. See if you vibe.
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#17
I know this sounds ridiculous, but something I used to do was force a yawn to see if anyone was looking at me because of that sympathetic response thingy. This is more of a trick than a cue to watch out for
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#18
"Good at flirting" is sort of a Schrodinger's cat. If they like you, and it works, it's flirting. If it doesn't, you're a creep and you fail. You have no control over this, and no way to prove it without trying.
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#19
If they start using words/phrases you use, it’s usually a good sign. But that’s if you’re meeting the person constantly in one way or the other (like classes etc.)
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