When you’ve been dating someone for months, years or even decades, you become extremely in-tune with their behavior. If they’re having an off day, you’ll notice immediately. If they’re excited about something, they won’t be able to keep it a secret. And if they’re cheating on you, well, you might be able to pick up on that too.
Redditors have recently been discussing the first signs that people tend to notice when their partner is being unfaithful, so we’ve gathered their most accurate replies down below. From picking fights out of nowhere to suddenly needing to work overtime, these behaviors aren’t exactly proof, but they should raise some red flags. So be sure to upvote the things that you think everyone should be aware of in their relationships!
#22
All of the sudden they have a “new friend” they want to show you and do things with all together…..
Yes sociopaths suck.
Yes sociopaths suck.
16points
#23
More secretive. Less attention to you. Reduced interest in intimacy. Turns away when you try to kiss, or touch. Spending time texting, hiding the screen when you approach. Unaccounted for time away. Paying much more attention to their looks, and more primping, but not for time with you. If you do not share dwellings, their place is devoid of pictures of you, any indication that you exist.
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16points
#24
Change your cell phone password and no longer allow you to know it.
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16points
#25
Suddenly caring about the appearance of their teeth. Invisalign, veneers, etc. My friend is the town dentist and always knows.
15points
#26
Okay so one common thing I’ve noticed with my past experiences
Either they start love bombing and being more romantic (out of guilt)
Or they start distancing, being short fused, or start projecting.
I’m not saying all sweet ppl are cheaters I’m saying you know how your spouse usually is, even when they’re being sweet but you can tell when it’s a sweet moment out of love or guilt, you’ll just know.
Either they start love bombing and being more romantic (out of guilt)
Or they start distancing, being short fused, or start projecting.
I’m not saying all sweet ppl are cheaters I’m saying you know how your spouse usually is, even when they’re being sweet but you can tell when it’s a sweet moment out of love or guilt, you’ll just know.
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14points
#27
Seeing “new text from *ex*” show up on the dash and they flinch and try to cancel it out as fast as possible. Never believe they are “just friends only” with their ex.
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13points
#28
They stop trying. Completely. He was shut off, in his phone 24/7, worked “all this overtime” but also hid from me he had stopped paying rent entirely. Let it be a secret until he got us evicted. Gave me 3 weeks to pack up 8 years of my life with no help, no remorse, no anything, he sat there and watched me lose it, and then dropped me and my two daughters like we never mattered. Now he’s got a girlfriend 15 years younger. That doesn’t scream narcissist. Not at all. And he probably tells her I keep our daughter from him too. Knowing d**n well he hasn’t even text his own child in over a month now.
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13points
#30
When you get that gut feeling many time's I have ignored it and then been proved my initial gut feeling was spot on, trust your body.
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12points
#31
For me is was an emotional distance forming followed by a severe defensiveness when I gently probed.
For example, I suspected she had feelings for her previous BF and when I talked to her she blew up at me. She was in a competitive graduate school program and what struck me as weird is she would go back home at times that didn't match her school breaks, so she was missing easily +2 weeks or so each semester and that was keeping her back in her program. I realized she was cheating on me when I looked at the school schedule of her Ex and realized she was planning her trips home around _his_ schedule, not hers.
For example, I suspected she had feelings for her previous BF and when I talked to her she blew up at me. She was in a competitive graduate school program and what struck me as weird is she would go back home at times that didn't match her school breaks, so she was missing easily +2 weeks or so each semester and that was keeping her back in her program. I realized she was cheating on me when I looked at the school schedule of her Ex and realized she was planning her trips home around _his_ schedule, not hers.
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11points
#32
They ask you if you are cheating when you haven't even thought of it.
Projection can be hard to control for the guilty.
Projection can be hard to control for the guilty.
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11points
#34
Secretive with their phones and they have places they need to go, usually to do with work, that you can’t go to. A sudden interest in their own appearance and looking better.
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11points
#35
Mine always put his phone on do not disturb mode around me.
10points
#39
They randomly start criticizing you for everything, stuff you wouldn't even think of. It's exhausting.
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10points
#40
Turning their phone away and taking it everywhere, including in the shower….
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9points