People Share 30 Deal-Breakers That Make Them Instantly Nope Out From A First Date

Back before I met my bf, I went on a tinder date with a guy who was new to where I lived at the time. During conversation I mentioned offhand that there were certain places you didn’t want to walk after dark because a lot of people got mugged in those areas. This guy started mansplaning to me how it would be fine to walk there after dark, you just need to be confident, he’s a world traveler, nobody has ever bothered him etc. I was like, no dude trust me it isn’t safe, but he just kept talking over me. He seemed to view it as a challenge. He was arrogant in general but this was what made me make an excuse and leave the date early. Like ok dude, if you’re so tough then feel free to go get mugged

When he tells you he's married, but wants something "on the side".

Being inconsiderate...went on a date recently where the guy speed walked to the cafe exit and let the door close behind him as I was just getting to the door myself. I purposely slowed down to see his reaction and there wasn't even a backwards glance or motion to re-open the door or check I was okay (to account for why I wasn't immediately behind him).

I hold the door for people all the time so I don't see this as a gender thing.

Also not apologising when you made a mistake in an effort to seem infallible or self assured or whatever.

TLDR: Lack of consideration and lack of humility.

I had a guy choke me during a bit of making out on the first date. I said I wasn't into that in public, definitely not with someone I'd just met and not while a bit buzzed. He proceeded to try/actually choke me during two follow up kisses (I was a bit drunk, if I was sober I would have ended it sooner) and then sulked and said it was just a joke when I said I was paying my half of the bill and going home alone.

So... Major deal breaker, don't choke someone you don't know.

She brings her 3 kids that she failed to tell me about.

Being late. I’m not talking a few minutes late, I’m talking a half hour late or anything later than that.

No sense of humor or one that doesn't mesh well with mine.

Constantly one-upping.

When they start clowning on your interests.

He only had a couple of lawn chairs as furniture in his living room because he’d just moved to this apartment. Later he explained that he didn’t have furniture because he had actually just got out of the State Penn.

Before I noped out of there, he explained he’d just talked to his mama about me, and knew I’d be a “real special, understanding lady.”

Turns out I’m not!