Social Media Campaign Highlights Everyday Toxic Masculinity And How Dangerous It Is

The Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum (RYLF) is a socio-civic organization from Silliman University in the Philippines, dedicated to bridging social, cultural, economic, and political divides, and creating a positive change in the community. On November 21st, the organization released a social media campaign against toxic masculinity under the hashtags #FightTheStigma and #UNMUTE.

"Both men and women suffer from toxic masculinity," the message of the campaign says. "It happens every day both online and offline."

To illustrate its point, RYLF shared a series of posters. From wearing pink to crying, the organization addressed the ways it thinks society pressures men, distorting their relationship with themselves and the world around them.

To put it simply, toxic masculinity is suppressing emotions or masking distress. It's maintaining an appearance of hardness and perceiving violence as an indicator of power. It's the result of teaching boys that they can't express emotion openly, that they have to be "tough" all the time, and that anything other than that makes them "feminine"—weak.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), these cultural lessons have been linked to "aggression and violence," leaving boys and men at "disproportionate risk for school discipline, academic challenges and health disparities," including cardiovascular problems and substance abuse.

"Men are overrepresented in prisons, are more likely than women to commit violent crimes and are at greatest risk of being a victim of violent crime," the American Psychological Association (APA) wrote.

"[This digital campaign against toxic masculinity] is the third iteration in the UNMUTE series," a RYLF spokesperson told Bored Panda. "The objective of UNMUTE is to shed light on issues that are prevalent/relevant but rarely discussed and to 'unmute' the silence [they create]. We wanted to get people to converse, to start talking about these things, and at the same time to produce facts, especially to those who are not properly informed or who don't have easy access to such information. A lot of us here in RYLF have experienced the stigma first hand, and we felt that we needed to do something about it because we believe acknowledging the problem is the first step in solving it."

The spokesperson said the campaign has been receiving mixed responses. "We have received a large number of both positive and negative feedback on the campaign. And it's par for the course. The purpose was to raise awareness and get people talking about this issue, and we can say that we have done precisely that. To inform, to educate, and to encourage people to talk about it. To Unmute the Silence."

Societal pressures, expectations from family, friends, and partners, and even expectations of religious identities can be burdensome to a man seeking out his masculine identity.

While some social, political, or religious groups may provide a set of guidelines for a healthy form of masculinity, experts say it is better for an individual to stick to their own definition, so long as it does not harm themselves or others.

A new definition of what it means to be male might includes overall human experiences, such as: openly experiencing a wide range of emotions, interdependence, vulnerability, cooperation, kindness, softness. This does not mean abandoning all traditionally masculine traits. Including some traditionally masculine characteristics, such as strength and adventure, may help some people define their own masculinity. Again, this does not mean that abandoning all traditionally masculine traits is the answer. People should define masculinity on their own terms, and including some traditionally masculine characteristics, such as strength and adventure, may help to do that.