46 Entitled Friends Whose Audacity Knew No Bounds

My friend forgot my birthday this year, and it was the second time she's done this. For some context, we are in our early 20s, not married and no kids yet. I'm not a big birthday person and it wasn't a milestone year, so I asked a week before my birthday if she wanted to just grab lunch as it was a Sunday. She said she had a trip planned which was understandable. I ended up having dinner with another friend. The day rolled around and not even a 'happy birthday', but she did text me numerous times to send me pictures of her getting her nails done, her drink order, etc.

Fast forward to her birthday which is in January. She wants to go to a really fancy restaurant where prices are between $100-150 per person. And since it's a birthday, I will be required to buy a gift, too. Firstly, this took me by surprise because we never planned to celebrate together. Honestly, I'd never spend that much on one meal anyway as I just think it's kind of absurd. Especially, in this current economic climate where groceries are $$$. I also mentionedi to her a while ago that I'm on a tight budget as I'm saving towards a big purchase, alongside paying the usual bills. Not to mention, Christmas has just passed so it's been a period of spending on gifts and food.

Here's the thing, she just recently got a raise at work. So, she's been on kind of a spending spree as a reward. Am I justified in feeling a little ticked off that she just expects me to do the same and spend an absurd amount of money in celebrating her?

I was dating a flight attendant, Steve, who was based near a very touristic city. We had been meeting halfway and traveled to other places together for long weekends. He visited me on his time off as well. One time I visited him at his hometown and had a great time. I met his friends and liked them a lot and they seemed to like me as well. Like myself he lived very frugally with a goal to retire in a few years. He had a 2 bedroom condo and rented the guest room on Airbnb for extra income.

When I got back my friend Savannah calls to see how my trip went. I fill her in on how much I enjoyed his town and friends and that we became much closer during my visit. I only knew Savannah in group situations and never hung out with her long enough to get a sense of her personality. My initial thought was that she was being a supportive friend.

The next night she calls again and tells me she wants to come along with me the next time I see Steve. I tell her no, that we like our privacy. She asks about when the guest room is vacant. I tell her the only time it’s not rented out is when his kids visit.

This is when I learn she doesn’t like taking no for an answer. She calls me a third night and asks if I can ask him to ask his friends if she can stay with them. I tell I feel like that would be a major imposition and that I won’t ask him. I did a reality check with a few coworkers to see if I was off base. They suggested she was out of bounds and not to further the friendship.

She calls me a day or so after asking if she can stay at his friend’s places with a new angle. She starts by asking if Steve plans to visit me soon. I tell her yes and she says I should have a party so our friends can get to know him. I tell her that I might do that but don’t have definitive plans for the visit. She doubles down and tells me I should think more seriously about a party. I tell her I’ll think about it. Then she tells me that she wants the opportunity to ask him if she can visit him with me and ask him if he can ask his friends if she can stay with them. I felt she was suggesting that if I don’t ask him privately she will ask him publicly when it would be awkward for him to say no to her. I didn’t talk to her for a year after that. If she hadn’t been in my friend group I would have ended the ‘friendship’.

I saw an ask reddit and it reminded me of a funny story from a little while ago.

I have a friend group that consists of me and three other girls, all of them have dark hair. We were planning a little trip for my friend who we’ll call Gina’s birthday, so it was us and then three of her other friends. Two of her friends also had dark hair except for who I’ll call Sheila.

So I’m a natural blonde, and Sheila dyes her hair blonde. Sheila told Gina she didn’t want me coming on Gina’s birthday trip because “being blonde is my thing” I’m not even kidding, this girl legit actually disliked me for being blonde.

And here’s the best part, the trip was to go see a Sabrina carpenter concert lol.

Long story short, the person who was once my best friend and I had a huge falling out. Mostly over her boyfriend, who is not well liked amongst our former friend group. He is 'laid off' more often than he actually has a job, but refuses to look for a new one. He chain smokes, and is drunk before noon when left home alone. He also embarrasses her in public by talking about their s*x life.

She knows none of us can stand him, and has even made comments to the extent that his friends and family have written him off as a lost cause.

However I am the only one she told was a horrible friend/person when she was considering breaking up with him, and ALL of use told her she should. To be fair, I may have been a bit more blunt than the rest.

Now I have a pool, and normally we would all meet up to swim fairly regularly, but hadn't that year due to the fall out.

So, after 4 months of 0 contact, she texts me 'Let me know if you go swimming today.'

The nerve of some people.

Edit: Yes, I already realized she might be trying to reach out, but I think we can all agree that after 4 months a text that only says 'Let me know if go swimming today' and nothing else is a pretty lame attempt.

I think I just want to vent cus I feel a little Upset but anyways y’all tell me

So my friend, Mika and I have been friends, though not close friends, for about tow years. We met at the gym and really get along, however She often disappears when she’s in a new relationship and hence why we aren’t super close.

Well recently she came back into my Life and hung out. During this time she asked me to come watch her cat who is 19 years old while she is out of town and to move her car. Mind you, she lives across town and I am just a recent graduate and pretty broke as I am looking for a job. Mika, has a job and is currently living on her own in a nice apartment, though I think struggling with money to pay a high rent.

I say sure because her cat is sweet and old and I don’t want her to be alone. First she just asks about her cat and then all Of a sudden as it gets closer she then mentions she also needs to move her car during street cleaning. I get it, don’t want a ticket. Mind you, no compensation or pay, not even an offer for some gas $ to do all this and I’m like okay maybe it’s cuz she’s broke.

She tells me to make myself at home but clean up after myself- which I am very clean. But she does say do not eat any of her food I’m like okay? Lol. I only go over for a few hours each day because I’m pretty busy myself with job searching, friends and my own cat. I also have like on call jobs. She

I go over and see she has a washing machine and I’m like Oo it’s expensive to wash and my unit doesn’t have one so I have to take ir somewhere. So we FaceTime so she can see her cat and I say hey! Can I bring my laundry here? And she straight up laughs and says “girl I pay the water bill so no. That’s funny”. Tbh I didn’t think it was too much to ask,

Needless to say I probably won’t ever offer to do anything like this for her ever again. If it was me, I’d offer someone gas, or food or my laundry machine if i could, guess we’re just different.

So this happened a few years ago and I never clocked it as entitled behaviour rip. To start out, yes I know I was naive but please go easy on a lonely girl doing online university.

I had a friend in university (during COVID) and we would chat all the time and totally would not do our online tests together or anything (😉🫣). For the most part the friendship was equal with give and take until it came to when she mentioned a show she wanted to watch on Amazon prime video, I had an account and she didn’t have an account but I did, so I have her my login to use for that show. After a bit we didn’t talk as much as before since she graduated earlier than I did and we didn’t have classes together anymore. But after a few months of not talking much at all she asked if I still had my Disney plus account and said yes and she proceeded to ask for my login, which I said no, I already gave you my amazon prime video login for free. She said that didn’t have the show she wanted to watch and really wanted me Disney plus login, to which I said I wasn’t comfortable giving that out for free and even offered to split the cost of the account with her because mine was going to expire and I didn’t know if I wanted to renew it. Well anyways, she ghosted me completely after I didn’t giver my login rip.

This happened long ago, but even after 25 years I can't wrap my head around it. My husband and I were graduate students and we, like most of our friends, lived on a low budget. One of our classmates was engaged to a guy with a lot of money--think hot-shot stockbroker in the late 1990s. He was clearly training her in The Ways of the Entitled. They had a little boy together.

We didn't see them much because we couldn't afford most of the restaurants or events they suggested. My friend, however, acted like we were just avoiding her no matter how much we reminded her the costs were out of reach for us.

One Saturday evening, she called and started out with: "We haven't hung out in so long. How about you two come over and we'll get a pizza or something." I said we'd love to come. Then she said, "Great. And after you put [3 yr old] to bed, you can just watch a movie or something."

I was confused and asked why we would put her son to bed. Weren't we going to hang out? She replied, "Oh, fiancé and I are going to a party in the neighborhood. We'd invite you to come along but the hosts don't even know you and that would be awkward. But we should have time to chat before we leave."

I said I didn't want to be her free babysitter. She got annoyed and said it wasn't free because they'd get us a pizza. I said 'no thanks' and she was so shocked--"WHAT?! Now you're not coming? What are we supposed to do now?" Keep in mind it had been only about 40 seconds since I figured out she expected us to babysit.

I imagine she spent the party complaining about the friends who were supposed to watch her kid but bailed on the the last minute.

I have a new friend from my grad school who has been constantly mentioning how she wants us over for dinner so she can “cook for us” so she finally set a date. Her menu of food was pretty lackluster and most of us contributed to her hosting by bringing nice wine and tequila while leaving her one bottle as a hostess gift. The next day she sends us all a message asking if we can pitch in $10 each to cover some of the food cost and to cover the cost of her roommate’s tequila which we didn’t even know was opened.

I reluctantly sent her the $10 as did some of my other friends even though I had a few friends think if was absolutely ridiculous to do so they completely avoided sending her anything.

Since then I have sent her a message requesting her to let us know if she expects compensation especially if she is PURPOSEFULLY inviting us and to also let us know if we are using her roommates items which we are expected to pay for.

I got a lukewarm response from her and now I can’t help but think she is tacky and has bad etiquette.

A couple months ago, my roommate’s laptop broke right before she started a remote job. She was freaking out, so she asked to borrow mine for just a few weeks until she could afford her own. I wasn’t using it much at the time, so I said sure. Just trying to help. it’s been over two months she’s been using my laptop every day to work, make money, hold meetings, everything. I finally told her I needed it back for my own stuff. And she hits me with, You’re not even using it for work, so why can’t I keep using it? Like what the hell? She’s literally been making money off something she borrowed, and now she’s acting like I’m wrong for wanting my own stuff back. No signs of buying hers. No thank you. Just attitude. Now she’s being cold and passive aggressive like I did something to her.

I’ve had my license for a little over a year now, i got it right after i turned 16. My friend has all her drive times finished, all the practice hours and meets every requirement but WILL NOT take the test for some reason… so for the past year i’ve driven us everywhere and she never helps with gas or anything and obviously we can’t take turns driving to even it out. Whenever i mention her getting her license she gets mad, whenever i mention her helping paying for gas she gets mad. She’s my best friend so i don’t wanna stop driving us places but idk what to do because it’s expensive and annoying. Recommendations please!

I live in (drum roll for stereotypes pls) Portland Oregon

I’d come to find out that mutuals had blocked me and because nothing happened between me and these individuals I decided to ask their roomate what occurred and here’s the story

*ahem*

they blocked me because on one occasion, months ago, i had been in the same room as these individuals and a couple others. we were all in the living room. I had walked into the living room and noticed there was only a spot on a couch, next to an acquaintance i’d talked to a couple of times. I didn’t immediately sit down and instead asked “Hey can i sit there?”
i was told “No” and i was pretty shocked but i just said okay and sat on the floor instead. No pushback, i didn’t make a fuss of any sort. Just sat on the floor and talked to all these people. Conversation was sweet and nothing out of the ordinary.

Come to find out two people in that room are extremely angry that i “Didn’t respect the acquaintances boundaries” (??) and have now declared im never allowed over and i’m blocked on everything. Not being allowed over is insane because im best friends with their roomate which is why i was there in the first place. I was never ever told about this persons boundaries nor did they ever tell me about them themselves. When told “no” i sat away from this person on the hard ground while they had an entire couch to themselves. A similar incident has never happened after the fact nor was this “incident” ever brought up to me.

I came down with a fever and chest congestion — the full viral cocktail. I let my friend know a few days ahead that I wouldn’t be able to help her move anymore. She didn’t respond. The morning of her move, I woke up to five missed calls and a text that said, “If you cared about me at all, you’d be here.” Mind you, I couldn’t even walk to the kitchen without coughing my lungs out. When I called to explain again, she said I was “making excuses” and accused me of always flaking. I’ve helped her with everything in the past — birthdays, breakups, errands, drama. The one time I can’t show up, suddenly I’m a bad friend? That told me everything I needed to know.

I, 28F have been with my current boyfriend John (name changed) for the past three years. He has been my rock, and I hope to marry him.

5 years ago, I had a fling with a former college mate. Funnily, he shares the same name as my current boyfriend. We went out on two dates, but he never called me after that so I assumed it fizzled. Tbh I'm very glad now that he made no attempt to contact me after the two dates.

John the fling and I have little to no contact, however we have a few mutual friends. I recently ran into him at a wedding, and was catching up with him. He asked me if I was seeing someone, and I told him I was dating a guy with the same name as his.

For some godforsaken reason, John the fling was highly offended by this. He said 'if you wanted to end up with a John, I was right there'. (Like people with the same name are interchangeable). I politely reminded him that he never called me back. He said that he was waiting for me to call him, and I never did, so he gave up. I could have called him, but honestly I wasn't feeling it.

He made a few unwarranted taunts over text after that, and to protect my peace I simply blocked him. No more of that in 2026.

My boyfriend simply found it amusing and while he has made a joke about it, we've both taken it in a positive spirit.

PS: not that it matters, but I should clarify that the name is an extremely common name here in India.

She is in her late 20’s, single & child free. I am in my early 30’s, married & have 1 toddler. We rarely hang out in person but we do text each other almost every single day and I would consider her a close friend, but after yet another forgotten birthday I’m starting to rethink my friendship with her.

To be clear I don’t expect anything big for my birthday from any of my friends. A text message is all I’d ask, and I don’t even ask for that. I have had several friends send belated birthday texts and apologies for forgetting because they were so busy and honestly I get that and I appreciate the honesty.

The reason why this bothers me with this friend in particular is because she expects everyone in her life to go all out for her birthday with a week long planned vacation trip, wish lists for gifts with links that she sends people, and obnoxious social media posts, and yet she can’t be bothered to send me a simply happy birthday text??

She is the type of person to throw a housewarming party every time she moves into a new apartment, which is twice per year. She also didn’t attend my baby shower because she wanted to attend her brothers football game instead, and when I bought a house she didn’t say anything to me. Be so for real right now…. I’m so over it.

My wife and I have friends (also neighbors) that have recently started to act so very entitled.

The most recent example happened yesterday. We live in a Midwest state but our little village has an amazing fresh fish shop. It’s very well known in our larger city and constantly recognized with awards. The shop is always closed on Mondays.

Well, last Monday we planned on fish for dinner. Completely forget the day of the week (I’m retired, it happens) and so I pull into the small parking lot for the fish shop. Big sign - CLOSED. Then I realize it’s a Monday. Ok, no big deal, we’ll do fish on Tuesday.

At that moment our friends walk out of the store with their package of fish. I’m confused and ask “how?” The neighbor wife tells me, “we knew they were closed on Mondays but we pulled in, walked up and saw the owner inside so we knocked and walked in.”

These people knew the business was closed, pulled into the parking lot anyway, walked up to the front door and saw the owner inside. They walked in to empty refrigerated display cases and assumed they’d be taken care of.

When I wondered aloud if the owner would do the same for me (we shop there frequently), the neighbor wife tells me, “they’re closed.”

Apparently not for the entitled people.

I(21f) live alone with my sister(15f) and she broke her arm and needs help doing certain things

The other day when I was helping my sister bathe my friend who lives right next to me shows up to return a movie she borrowed from me. I answered the door and she started asking what I was up to. When I told her that I had been helping my sister bathe since she broke her arm she flipped out. She started calling me a creep and said that I shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near my sister.

She stormed off and my sister asks if she was doing anything wrong since she heard the conversation. I assured her that she wasn’t. When I arrive at work the next day everyone was giving me dirty looks while talking to my friend(she also works there).

A friend I took and art class with for a year or two had this colourful Idea one day to write a book and for me to be the illustrator, at the time I was not really all that busy but still gave him a strong maybe. Eventually he is at a writers block and just gives up. I assume that he wasn't all that serious about it and forgot all about it.

Sixish months had passed since school ended when I get a text from him asking if I would like to illustrate for his book for free. Since then I had gotten into an online college course and a job, I am pretty swamped. Naturally I say "I don't know man, I am hella swamped and just do not have time for this." I really do not like saying no, so I was trying to let them off easy whilst not seeming completely uninterested in his project. He gives me a run down and I am just terribly uninterested I tell him It is a cool idea but again I am really busy.

The next day there is a new message, it describes the character to me, like commisioning an OC to be drawn, and the most hysterical part is he expects this character to be designed, finalised, sketched, and done in two motherloving days. Which is ofc impossible. I confirm this with him, but atlas now he just wants the heads to be drawn, still very impossible and definitely not worth the price of being completely free. I explain the situation one last time yet he holds out hope.

TLDR: Friend wants me to draw for his book for free with the idealistic budget of paying me nothing and with the deadline of two days, despite being told my life is pretty busy.

Hello, I just need to vent and need some feedback about this situation.

My friend messaged me yesterday asking if I could dog sit for Saturday night and Sunday night (New Years Eve), until Monday as he goes out of town to celebrate. I told him I couldn’t because I had just watched his dog for 2.5 weeks earlier in December and didn’t want my landlord to have a problem with it but I could make just one night work. He said no worries and that he definitely needs someone to watch his dog for 2 nights. I later messaged him and said “I’m sorry I couldn’t help out. I hope you found someone to watch him. Have fun this weekend!” He replied back saying “Thanks!”

This morning, I got a text from his friend that I barely know asking what time he could drop off the dog to me. Apparently my friend had planned with him that he would watch the dog on Saturday night and I would watch Sunday night.

Anyways, I felt stressed out after calling him and not hearing from him for 4 hours and then snapped and sent a text letting my friend know that he is selfish for assuming I could just watch his dog, misleading his friend and that he’s screwing around with plans that both his friend and I had made and leaving his responsibilities with us. I decided to end the friendship because this isn’t the first time this has happened where my friend just assumes and volunteers me to help out with things without checking with me. He replied back with letting me know he found someone else to watch the dog for tonight and totally gaslit me about how I felt.

Was I wrong to snap and end the friendship? I don’t think I am because I don’t want someone like him in my life. He makes me feel like I’m being used and like I’m his assistant (not his friend). He asks me to help clean his house and a bunch of other odd jobs. I think he takes advantage of my helpful and kind personality. I snapped at him because my anger was building up for a while. We have had multiple conversations before about how I feel used.

What are your thoughts? Needless to say, he kind of ruined today for me as I spent the day in conflict with him. It just ruined my mood completely.

I (26F) work in a small office and often get stuck testing new tools my boss wants to implement in our workplace. Last week, he told me tets this AI-ish demo tool to see if it could work for our setup. I spent hours using it and it was… bad. Slow, glitchy, barely any customization, and the analytics were basically useless. I honestly can’t imagine anyone thinking it’s amazing.

My friend, also a (26F), is a freelance designer who’s recently been obsessed with productivity tools and reels about “life-changing AI.” She came across this same tool and immediately decided it could be used to transform her workflow without trying it herself. She told me she planned to use it everywhere: her portfolio, client demos, even her CV link. I suggested she test it once before fully committing, based on my experience.

And then she lost it. She accused me of being negative, of “crushing her motivation,” and said I always “bring down her ideas.” She acted like I personally attacked her career because I gave an honest opinion about a tool she hadn’t even used. She started giving me the silent treatment.

So I called her to talk and sort things out. Instead of listening, she said something really mean about a recent client project I had handled. I told her she was being unfair, but she continued to escalate, bringing more people into the argument over messages and trying to shame me in front of them. At that point, I cut the call, blocked her everywhere, and shut her off.

Now I have over 50 missed blocked calls from her.

I still want to fix this because I don’t want to lose a friendship over something like this, but it’s exhausting to deal with something like this.

So I was recently with a good friend of mine and one of her friends from college for the weekend. We went out to bars the first night and each took turns buying rounds for everybody, but the next morning we spent forever trying to figure out who owed what to who so I announced that we should handle our own drinks for the following night, which everyone agreed with. That went mostly to plan except one place towards the end of the night where we all ordered our drinks and then they (drunkenly) went to the bathroom right after ordering. When the bartender came up to me with the drinks and asked for payment, that was when I noticed they were gone, so I just put my card down for all of the drinks not thinking it would be a big deal. Well I spent the next few days reminding them over and over again that they each owed me $15 for these drinks, to which I was met with “yeah ok” but no actual money was sent. For context, these girls are freshly graduated from college paid for by their parents and have been paying rent for the first time in their lives for only a couple of months, while I have handled my own rent/bills for 5 years but currently am living nomadically in my van. So after about a week of hounding them for this money they finally tell me that they won’t be paying me back because they are “broke” and have to save up to pay bills at the end of the month. I try to remind them that all adults have bills to pay and that is not an excuse to not pay me back to which they remind me that I don’t have to pay rent unlike them. Right, because I live in a van they need that $30 wayyy more than me I guess