Double Standard Or Am I Wrong

So up until last 5 years I ran a landscaping business as a side hustle to make more money for myself and to help my family. I was also working full time in a senior management role at an aerospace company. It was a lot of work each week, 80 hrs plus. Over that time I pulled in around 55k extra income for the family. Around 95% of all that money was either given or taken by my wife to help the family and to improve our quality of lives. Out of everything I earned I maybe got 5k for myself, and a lot of that was spent on the family. Now my issue is my wife is also a makes a good amount of money, she’s a independent contractor doing advertising work, but she has gone and set up a “Tax “Account” that is off limits to me and is swelling with thousand and thousands of dollars. She says it’s only for taxes, but she freely uses it for what ever she wants. My issue is that during my time doing side work I was not allowed to keep or manage my earned money, to the point she would outright take it, but she’s now has a huge free spending account. We also get a weekly allowance. I get 100$ a week and she gets 80$. I have to spend every penny on gas to get to work and I’m not allowed more, and she has no travel so she pocketing everything. It just strikes me as odd that I’m being kept at the alway broke line while she has freedom to all the family money and more.

Am I just completely in the wrong like I’m constantly being told?