People’s personal spaces are, well, personal—and whenever we’re invited into them, it’s kind of a big deal. Whether the host is a total stranger, our friend, or relative, we can’t just do whatever we want. But not everyone gets it.
Redditor Vegas089 asked fellow platform users to share the most disrespectful thing a guest has ever done in their home, and has received thousands of stories, each one more infuriating than the next.
From making a huge mess to breaking valuable possessions, it turns out common courtesy isn’t that common.
#1
He slapped my cat to get her off the furniture. It was his first time in my home (boyfriend of a friend) and he had to walk across the room to do it. I gave him hell and he argued that animals shouldn't be on the furniture. This was a long time ago and I have no idea where he is now. F that guy.
RevGrimm:
My SIL did that exactly ONE time when she had to stay with us for a few months. I told her the cat was allowed on the couch and recliners whether she liked it or not.
She tried to argue and I flat out told her she would be kicked out before the cat ever would. She started to open her mouth to argue and I stopped her by asking if she wanted to live in her van.
She tried acting like it was a joke the rest of the time she was there but I don't play games when it comes to my cat. That adorable little ball of fur chose me out of all the people in the world so I'm going to protect her like she's my actual child.
RevGrimm:
My SIL did that exactly ONE time when she had to stay with us for a few months. I told her the cat was allowed on the couch and recliners whether she liked it or not.
She tried to argue and I flat out told her she would be kicked out before the cat ever would. She started to open her mouth to argue and I stopped her by asking if she wanted to live in her van.
She tried acting like it was a joke the rest of the time she was there but I don't play games when it comes to my cat. That adorable little ball of fur chose me out of all the people in the world so I'm going to protect her like she's my actual child.
40points
#2
A friend of a friend made fun of my son’s stutter. I calmly told her to leave my home that instant. She was shocked. I was shaking (I hate confrontation) but I was so angry. He didn’t even notice. But I’ll be darned if anyone makes any jokes about my children.
39points
#3
One of my friends new Maltese girlfriend (first time meeting her) told my wife she could do with losing a bit of weight "I think you could do with losing 2 to 3 kg of weight you would look sooooo much better".
My wife cool as a cucumber went and got some waxing strips and handed them to her "for your top lip". I had to go outside.
HibeesBounce:
I live in Malta. Maltese people see absolutely zero problem with commenting on your physical appearance and see it as nothing but helpful.
It's a small island, thankfully
My wife cool as a cucumber went and got some waxing strips and handed them to her "for your top lip". I had to go outside.
HibeesBounce:
I live in Malta. Maltese people see absolutely zero problem with commenting on your physical appearance and see it as nothing but helpful.
It's a small island, thankfully
34points
#4
Invited the whole gaggle of in-laws to check out our new house we’d spent weeks reflooring, painting, recarpeting. I made lasagna, salad with homemade dressing, and a fabulous strawberry cake from scratch.
Husband’s 21 year old niece insisted on taking her plate to the den to watch Game of Thrones because she simply had to see it as soon as it was released. Rude, but I got a tray for her and set it up, then went to eat with everyone else.
When we finished, we all went into the den and she’d dropped a giant glop of lasagna on the floor and apparently stepped in it at some point because it was ground into the brand new carpet. She’d also dropped salad onto the couch and it left an oily stain. The worst thing though, was that instead of telling us, trying to clean it up, or literally anything a normal human would do, she just placed a paper towel over it and left it there without saying a word.
Her mom, my sister in law just kind of laughed and made a joke about how now the house had been “broken in.” There have been no family gatherings at our house with the entire group of in-laws since then.
Nicole_xx19:
This one made me mad just reading it. Lack of respect for you and your things.
Husband’s 21 year old niece insisted on taking her plate to the den to watch Game of Thrones because she simply had to see it as soon as it was released. Rude, but I got a tray for her and set it up, then went to eat with everyone else.
When we finished, we all went into the den and she’d dropped a giant glop of lasagna on the floor and apparently stepped in it at some point because it was ground into the brand new carpet. She’d also dropped salad onto the couch and it left an oily stain. The worst thing though, was that instead of telling us, trying to clean it up, or literally anything a normal human would do, she just placed a paper towel over it and left it there without saying a word.
Her mom, my sister in law just kind of laughed and made a joke about how now the house had been “broken in.” There have been no family gatherings at our house with the entire group of in-laws since then.
Nicole_xx19:
This one made me mad just reading it. Lack of respect for you and your things.
31points
#5
As a kid, i loved putting model cars together and had a good collection by the time i was 12. Many were unique, as i often used parts from various models for a build. Mom's side of the family came over for Thanksgiving, and all my younger cousins played in my room and destroyed every one. That was over 50 years ago and I'm still salty.
Plane_Law7138:
Now's the perfect time to go to their homes and destroy things they love.
Plane_Law7138:
Now's the perfect time to go to their homes and destroy things they love.
29points
#6
Put my (indoor only) cat outside on purpose because she personally believed cats were "demonic."
She ended up outside on purpose as soon as I found out. The cat--thankfully-- had the good sense to wait right by the door, and was just fine.
kalinkabeek:
I can just picture your poor bewildered cat sitting right by the door like “Ummm…excuse me?”
OP:
No, literally. Poor girl was SO confused. Even worse, she'd been abandoned outdoors before I rescued her so she had some trauma. It was a whole thing.
I'd let that "friend" stay with me to save money and she did... that? Yeah. I almost ended up on the news that night.
She ended up outside on purpose as soon as I found out. The cat--thankfully-- had the good sense to wait right by the door, and was just fine.
kalinkabeek:
I can just picture your poor bewildered cat sitting right by the door like “Ummm…excuse me?”
OP:
No, literally. Poor girl was SO confused. Even worse, she'd been abandoned outdoors before I rescued her so she had some trauma. It was a whole thing.
I'd let that "friend" stay with me to save money and she did... that? Yeah. I almost ended up on the news that night.
29points
#7
A person that was my friend for upwards of 15 years kicked my absolute angel of a dog, because they didn't like dogs. My dog didn't do anything. Didn't bark, didn't jump, literally didn't do anything except exist, the person just kicked my dog. I never spoke to them again.
28points
#8
Sister’s horrible boyfriend came over for dinner for the first time. We’re of Chinese descent. He “jokingly” asked if the dish was made of dogs and cats which caused my mom to burst into tears. My dad just told him to get the hell out.
28points
#9
Relative stayed at our house during the holidays and went through our bedroom and drawers. When my wife got home, she asked why she had so much makeup if she rarely uses it, then went on to ask if she could keep some of the items she had found.
notlastnotfirst:
Had an in-law who constantly had her hand out. While at work she routinely went through every single thing! Finally, I started leaving post-it notes asking”(Name) hey why are you looking in this drawer!!” It stopped
notlastnotfirst:
Had an in-law who constantly had her hand out. While at work she routinely went through every single thing! Finally, I started leaving post-it notes asking”(Name) hey why are you looking in this drawer!!” It stopped
26points
#10
Peed *everywhere* in our bathroom, left it, and said nothing.
Husband's friend brought his car to our house so my husband could fix something. I came home, said hello to both, and went in the house. Put away groceries and went to use the bathroom only to step in pee. It was like he dropped his pants and danced around the bathroom pissing. It was on the floor, the wall, top and bottom of the lid, top and bottom of the seat, all over the bowl both inside and out. Like, what the hell?
Asked my husband to come inside and showed him the bathroom. Told him his friend either cleaned it up immediately or I was shattering his windshield (I wasn't serious, lol). Husband dragged his friend in and asked what the hell before shoving a mop and cleaner into his hands. Watched the guy as he cleaned the bathroom before finishing his car and sending him on his way. I told my husband if he ever did work on that disgusting guys car again, he wasn't coming in the house. Husband agreed.
We didn't get an explanation, the guy said he didn't know what happened and wouldn't give any further details.
Husband's friend brought his car to our house so my husband could fix something. I came home, said hello to both, and went in the house. Put away groceries and went to use the bathroom only to step in pee. It was like he dropped his pants and danced around the bathroom pissing. It was on the floor, the wall, top and bottom of the lid, top and bottom of the seat, all over the bowl both inside and out. Like, what the hell?
Asked my husband to come inside and showed him the bathroom. Told him his friend either cleaned it up immediately or I was shattering his windshield (I wasn't serious, lol). Husband dragged his friend in and asked what the hell before shoving a mop and cleaner into his hands. Watched the guy as he cleaned the bathroom before finishing his car and sending him on his way. I told my husband if he ever did work on that disgusting guys car again, he wasn't coming in the house. Husband agreed.
We didn't get an explanation, the guy said he didn't know what happened and wouldn't give any further details.
24points
#11
I'm disabled and on food stamps, but used to be a chef. I finally had the energy and supplies to cook a lovely meal and invited my friends over.
She picked at her food, made a dramatic face, gave a sickly sweet "mm I'm just picky about how X is cooked". And then *threw it in the garbage*, instead of giving it to her very hungry and enthusiastic fiance. Or letting me store it. Because again, I am on food stamps. Which she knew.
Yeah I'm not friends with either of them anymore.
She picked at her food, made a dramatic face, gave a sickly sweet "mm I'm just picky about how X is cooked". And then *threw it in the garbage*, instead of giving it to her very hungry and enthusiastic fiance. Or letting me store it. Because again, I am on food stamps. Which she knew.
Yeah I'm not friends with either of them anymore.
24points
#12
SIL would bring her kids to things knowing they were sick. More than once. I started calling her Typhoid Mary because we would always wind up getting whatever her kids had.
When I confronted her after the umpteeth time about it she told me “If I stayed home every time one of my kids I’d never get to go anywhere.”
She then never got to go to our house again.
When I confronted her after the umpteeth time about it she told me “If I stayed home every time one of my kids I’d never get to go anywhere.”
She then never got to go to our house again.
23points
#13
My aunt, my mother’s twin sister - she joined us for Thanksgiving at our house. She scrapped most of the very top layer of oven-crisp cheese out of the casserole of mac n cheese, onto her plate and sat down to eat like it was all good. Teenage me had questions about the protocol for fist-fighting your own aunt.
22points
#14
I had set him up with a blanket, sheets, & a pillow on the couch because I didn't have a guest room and he said, "I wish you were more promiscuous so you'd have intercourse with me."
After he left, I found out that he had opened an unopened bottle of liquor I had brought back from Europe and drank the whole thing (it was a small bottle, but still).
Sonica-Virago:
Ugh I had an annoying guy stay over once because he missed the last train. Couldn’t have been more clear before going to my house that he was staying on the couch, nothing was going to happen and had never showed any interest in him. Proceeded to try to crawl in my bed after I fell asleep and was all miffed I wasn’t happy about that. Actually gave me the ‘You said no but your eyes said yes’ routine. Needless to say he ended up outside waiting for the first train!
After he left, I found out that he had opened an unopened bottle of liquor I had brought back from Europe and drank the whole thing (it was a small bottle, but still).
Sonica-Virago:
Ugh I had an annoying guy stay over once because he missed the last train. Couldn’t have been more clear before going to my house that he was staying on the couch, nothing was going to happen and had never showed any interest in him. Proceeded to try to crawl in my bed after I fell asleep and was all miffed I wasn’t happy about that. Actually gave me the ‘You said no but your eyes said yes’ routine. Needless to say he ended up outside waiting for the first train!
22points
#15
I lived with my sister and now-BiL when they were dating and for a year after they got married. I threw a party while they were on their honeymoon, and these friends of mine came and brought this acquaintance of mine, this dude who was known for getting drunk, starting fights and generally messing stuff up. Just an absolute unit of a dude and not the kind of guy who you would want to get mad. We’ll call him Pete.
At some point in the party, someone was sitting on an ottoman (which my sister and BIL had recently bought, along with a matching easy chair, as sort of a “we’re adults now, we’re buying nice stuff!” purchase). The ottoman wasn’t made for supporting a lot of weight, I guess, because one of the legs buckled and bent underneath it and the whole thing collapsed.
Well, Pete just happened to be sitting right there, and in his drunk mind, thinks “HA-HA, ME MAKE ALL LEGS LIKE BAD LEG!” and starts pounding on the good legs and breaking them off — once he breaks the first one off, I just snapped, “WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING, MAN?!?” and I grab the ottoman from him.
His demeanor immediately changed — his face got all red, and this vein in his forehead appeared and started pulsing. I knew I was about five minutes away from (a) getting my butt beat by this gorilla and (b) him trashing the apartment. Fortunately, one of my friends that had brought him to the party ran over and simultaneously talked him down and walked him out; incredible crisis management skills. I remember Pete being walked out of the house mumbling, “He… he YELLED at me! He yelled at me!”
Anyway, about six months later, Pete went to prison for about six years for beating someone’s skull in with a crowbar.
At some point in the party, someone was sitting on an ottoman (which my sister and BIL had recently bought, along with a matching easy chair, as sort of a “we’re adults now, we’re buying nice stuff!” purchase). The ottoman wasn’t made for supporting a lot of weight, I guess, because one of the legs buckled and bent underneath it and the whole thing collapsed.
Well, Pete just happened to be sitting right there, and in his drunk mind, thinks “HA-HA, ME MAKE ALL LEGS LIKE BAD LEG!” and starts pounding on the good legs and breaking them off — once he breaks the first one off, I just snapped, “WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING, MAN?!?” and I grab the ottoman from him.
His demeanor immediately changed — his face got all red, and this vein in his forehead appeared and started pulsing. I knew I was about five minutes away from (a) getting my butt beat by this gorilla and (b) him trashing the apartment. Fortunately, one of my friends that had brought him to the party ran over and simultaneously talked him down and walked him out; incredible crisis management skills. I remember Pete being walked out of the house mumbling, “He… he YELLED at me! He yelled at me!”
Anyway, about six months later, Pete went to prison for about six years for beating someone’s skull in with a crowbar.
21points
#16
Selling my house. The new buyer asked if they could come over to take some measurements. I said fine, as long as they didn't mind stepping around some boxes that hadn't been moved out yet.
The buyer turns up with what must've been their entire family, including a young child, who to put it kindly, seemed to have some discipline issues. Whatever, it's a kid, that's why they have parents to supervise them, right?
I leave the room for a moment and come back to see one of the adults handing some stuffed toys to the kid to play with - stuffed toys that had been packed away and sealed in one of the moving boxes. They just straight up went through my things and gave them to the kid to distract them while they all gossiped about whatever.
Utterly bratty family in general. I couldn't believe it.
The buyer turns up with what must've been their entire family, including a young child, who to put it kindly, seemed to have some discipline issues. Whatever, it's a kid, that's why they have parents to supervise them, right?
I leave the room for a moment and come back to see one of the adults handing some stuffed toys to the kid to play with - stuffed toys that had been packed away and sealed in one of the moving boxes. They just straight up went through my things and gave them to the kid to distract them while they all gossiped about whatever.
Utterly bratty family in general. I couldn't believe it.
21points
#17
Had relations on my futon in the middle of my living room and then got angry that the other guest who was sleeping 3 feet away on the couch told them to cut that out.
20points
#18
Sue for slip & fall in my pristine home while no one was home.
Katiel_Silver:
Similar thing happened in my friend group a few years ago! Friend A tripped over her own feet in Friend B’s kitchen while we were having a game night. She landed hard on her dominant arm and, while she didn’t break anything, she did end up getting steroid injections in her wrist for a few months. Immediately after the accident, Friend B took her to the ER because we really thought she broke something (to clarify, Friend A asked to go, no one forced her). The rest of us coordinated taking Friend A meals for the next several days.
She then sued for medical bills and “emotional distress” and posted all over FB about how “a true friend would have offered to pay”. According to Friend B, the insurance settled the medical stuff. Friend A then had the nerve to reach out months later to see if Friend B was planning on hosting her annual Friendsgiving. Needless to say, we enjoyed the holiday without Friend A and her drama.
Katiel_Silver:
Similar thing happened in my friend group a few years ago! Friend A tripped over her own feet in Friend B’s kitchen while we were having a game night. She landed hard on her dominant arm and, while she didn’t break anything, she did end up getting steroid injections in her wrist for a few months. Immediately after the accident, Friend B took her to the ER because we really thought she broke something (to clarify, Friend A asked to go, no one forced her). The rest of us coordinated taking Friend A meals for the next several days.
She then sued for medical bills and “emotional distress” and posted all over FB about how “a true friend would have offered to pay”. According to Friend B, the insurance settled the medical stuff. Friend A then had the nerve to reach out months later to see if Friend B was planning on hosting her annual Friendsgiving. Needless to say, we enjoyed the holiday without Friend A and her drama.
19points
#19
Went through my CD collection and took the CDs he wanted. Not the covers, just the CDs so I wouldn't notice right away.
19points
#20
When one of my son's friends decided stuff in our garage was there to destroy. Not much monetary value. He flayed the box my tv went in and I was hoping to use it while moving. He used a hammer on some Hot Wheels. He got into a plastic bin of collectible China that we had been given. I wasn't broken up at all about the last one, but it's still the idea of him coming over just to wreck stuff.
19points