Ok! I know this sound weird but hear me out. The whole family including my inlaws agree that my ex is a narc. He gaslight, manipulates, never take responsability and is an eternal victim of life. That guy even faked being suicidal more than once. One time he told his mother that he was borderline suicidal and that he had to take care of his curent wife who was suicidal therefore leaving him stuck to take care of their 1.5 year old baby. 2 months later he announce that his wife was expecting another baby and that it was actually planned. That does not make sence to me.
Now, 2 months ago he put on his facebook a picture of himself at the hospital. At 11:22 he announce on facebook that he was on his way to the operation room to get his appendix removed. At 1:22 he let everyone knows on facebook that he's out of surgery and a bit drowsy but otherwise feeling great. He even send some Jokes to some friends. At 10:00 he was getting out of the hospital. None of us were there including wife. At first we were all worried but the time line seems off for many of us. Two hours to get ready for surgery, getting a one hour surgery and recuperate enough to keep people in the loop about your condition. Are we being judgmental? When I was married to him he fake illness so many times that we do not know what to beleive.