50 Women Who Were Called Out Online For Their Delusional Behavior (New Pics)

The bad news is that emotional intelligence (abbreviated as EQ or EI) doesn’t come naturally to all people. The good news? Like any other skill, you can learn and develop it.

The Harvard Business Review explains that there are 4 main components of EQ. These are:

1. Self-awareness: identifying your emotions and how they affect other people
2. Self-regulation: managing your emotions and behaviors to control your disruptive impulses
3. Social awareness: being empathetic and understanding the emotions of others
4. Social skills: the ability to build and maintain healthy relationships through teamwork, inspiration, influence, conflict management, etc.

HBR notes that individuals who have high emotional intelligence understand the links between their emotions and behavior. They also handle stress well, remaining calm, cool, and collected when things get tense. Meanwhile, they’re able to effectively use diplomacy and tact to handle difficult people.

On the other side of the scale, people with low EQ:

1. Get upset very easily
2. Get overwhelmed by their emotions
3. Often feel misunderstood
4. Have problems being assertive

“We are all having emotions all the time. The question is whether you are aware of these emotions and the impact they have on your behavior—and other people,” Margaret Andrews, the instructor of Emotional Intelligence in Leadership, former associate dean at Harvard University’s Division of Continuing Education, and executive director at the MIT Sloan School of Management, told Harvard Business Review.

Andrews added that people with strong self-regulation can take a deep breath during stressful situations, remain calm, and think before speaking or acting. On the other hand, individuals with low EQ, who can’t contain their impulses and negative emotions, “often set off a chain reaction of negative emotions in others.”

Broadly speaking, ‘nice guys’ and ‘nice girls’ are incredibly insecure. So, they resort to manipulation and pretence to get what they want.

Usually, they pretend to be nice (hence the name), kind, caring, and empathetic to create the illusion that they could be great people to date. When, in reality, they don’t have confidence, emotional intelligence, or genuine respect for others’ boundaries. In short, getting into a relationship with them would be a major mistake.

It’s not always obvious that someone’s only pretending to be the caring, mature, ‘genuine’ person they appear to be. Sometimes, you don’t pick up on the (not-so) subtle red flags. Other times, you want to believe someone’s better than they really are.

Red-flag behaviors that indicate that you might be stuck in a toxic relationship include things like your partner not supporting you, hostile communication, extreme selfishness, not caring about your needs, and a constant environment of hostility, envy, and jealousy.

According to Healthline, toxic partners are very controlling, dishonest, disrespectful, and pile on physical and mental stress.

They drain you, cut you off from your other social relationships, and make you feel as though you’re walking on eggshells.

Something’s very wrong if you feel like you can’t talk about serious issues with your significant other in an open, honest, healthy way.

As per Verywell Mind, toxic significant others deplete your energy and make you feel devalued. These individuals blame you, disrespect your boundaries, and undermine your confidence.

You feel like you always have to cheer them up. Meanwhile, you’re constantly exhausted, angry, tired, and depressed. If you’re chronically unhappy after spending time with your romantic partner, you are not in a healthy relationship.