“We Have Been Together For 30 Years”: 30 Times People Realized There Was Going To Be A Second Date

I had gotten out of a pretty emotionally/mentally/controlling abusive relationship at the time. So needless to say, I had some apprehension putting myself out there, again. The thought of being vulnerable to someone again was scary.

We spent maybe 30 minutes to an hour at the restaurant. The remaining 5 hours of our date was spent talking in the car about anything and everything. By the time we both (begrudgingly) parted ways for the night, we had a breakfast date planned for the next morning, and it felt like I had known this man for years. It was the first time in a long time that I was able to fully relax around a guy, especially on a first date. So it wasn't anything specifically that was said or done, it was just the way we opened up so easily to each other, even about insecurities, past relationships, etc. He just made me feel...comfortable.

We're coming up on our one year anniversary here in a few days. The road hasn't been completely smooth, as the first healthy relationship after an abusive one can be pretty rough when you've experienced/learned nothing but toxic coping mechanisms and have to unlearn them. But man, I think this is the first time I can truly say I know what it feels like to be loved by a partner fully.

Most men hide their sad back story or any vulnerable parts of themselves, but he opened up about being orphaned and his mother's mental illness and how he manages without support and 3 hours later I didn't want to leave the table. His confidence in being honest was so hot. It didn't come across like a sob story.

He came up to me, introduced himself and told me he’d marry me one day. Apparently he’d had a premonition on the way to the pub that he would meet his wife. No idea who she was. Honestly I thought he was mental, but he was just so confident about it. Not cocky, just sure that he was right. We’ll be together for 18 years this year and he’s still my favourite person. We laugh daily and he’s my biggest cheerleader.

I am a professional historian. I mentioned Roman toilets and we had a long conversation about them, because he is a history buff too. That’s how I knew he was the one! Together for 3 years. Just got engaged two weeks ago.

It just felt right being together after about 5 minutes into the date.

It's been 13 years since that first date and the feeling still hasn't changed.

She insisted on paying for dinner, then busted out a mini travel backgammon set from her purse and asked if I knew how to play.

He gave me flowers that he picked and tied a bow around, then took my hand to lead me into the restaurant. We’ll be married 14 years in October.

1985, he liked rock music, I like country music. He borrows The Judds cassette from his brother and has it playing when we get in the car. Been married 36 years.

She yelled at some teenagers to be quiet in the movie theater. We are married now.

On my first date with my current bf I was so nervous I spent the first HOUR infodumping about the plot, extended universe, and lore of the Dune novels.

For some reason he was into it lol.