Many people often treat dating like a game when they are younger, with the goal of going out with as many potential partners as possible. This idea tends to transform as folks get older because their priorities also change with time.
For a lot of folks, once they turn middle-aged, they become more secure in themselves and can figure out what kind of partner best suits them. That’s why someone asked single people over forty what the dating landscape is actually like for them, and the answers are quite shocking.
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#22
So far, I've only been encountering emotionally unavailable men. The lesson I had to learn is to release them back into the wild quickly. I haven't been able to find any secure men.
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13points
#23
I appear to be one of the very few people who had an overall positive experience with online dating. I don't know why. Just an average looking guy with no money but I had no trouble finding dates. Most turned into nothing, but some turned into flings or something more. Many of those which turned into nothing were also a good experience. Interesting conversations with people I would not have met otherwise.
13points
#24
My dating pool pretty much consists of divorced women and/or single moms. Their previous relationships have traumatized them so much that they are mostly avoidant and are too afraid to be vulnerable or trust that I'm not going to jeopardize their independence.
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12points
#25
As my dates approached 40, the urgency to close the deal and start a family got more and more intense. Everyone was on a tight schedule to declare go/no-go. After that, they suddenly went super chill, already had whatever career/house/family they wanted and just cared about good hangs.
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12points
#26
Not 40 yet but close. I was told men age better but all the women my age and older are beautiful and still look amazing and the men, not so much.
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12points
#27
Set the bar low…wait…lower…mmmm…little bit loooowwwer. There you go. Right there.
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11points
#29
There are five options. None of them good:
A) Dating divorced people and navigating a minefield of post-marriage baggage.
B) Dating people you're not really attracted to physically or emotionally and there's definitely a reason they're still single.
C) Trying to convince your ex(s) to get back together and ignore all the trauma you've caused each other.
D) Being the creepy person always hitting on people 10+ years younger than you.
E) Stay single forever.
A) Dating divorced people and navigating a minefield of post-marriage baggage.
B) Dating people you're not really attracted to physically or emotionally and there's definitely a reason they're still single.
C) Trying to convince your ex(s) to get back together and ignore all the trauma you've caused each other.
D) Being the creepy person always hitting on people 10+ years younger than you.
E) Stay single forever.
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8points
#30
My friends and I are in our 50s. The men want youth and beauty and want women in their 40s. And as they age, they won't raise those numbers much. The women want stability. The men don't have to be rich, but they need to have decent jobs. And they want height. They could be tiny themselves, but they'll pass up a great guy because he's not tall.
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7points
#31
Every single woman out there has in their head an image of the perfect guy, and I look like none of them.
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7points
#32
The what now? dating world? lol, theres no such thing - just apps, populated only with bots and the occasional scammer.
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7points
#33
Garbage.
People want you to change everything about yourself to be the one for them, but won't change a thing for you.
And I mean even little things.
People want you to change everything about yourself to be the one for them, but won't change a thing for you.
And I mean even little things.
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7points
