Relationships are built on trust, but let’s be honest—there are always a few harmless things you might keep to yourself. Maybe it’s your secret stash of chocolate or your obsession with cheesy rom-coms. While those little quirks are usually no big deal, hiding significant truths from your partner is a whole different story.
Recently, people online have been sharing the deepest secrets they’ve kept from their significant others, and the confessions range from heartwarming to downright shocking. Keep reading to dive into these raw, emotional stories and explore the weight of honesty in love and relationships.
#21
My husband kept a 10 year affair secret from me. My only secret is that I have a Reddit account.
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49points
Lastly, if your partner constantly avoids accountability—blaming others for their mistakes or refusing to apologize—it’s a sign they might not be ready for a mature, balanced relationship.
#22
She doesn't know that I know she's been secretly keeping tabs on my Reddit account.
I know you're reading this.
I know you're reading this.
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46points
#23
Okay maybe a little darker then some but I have no one I can really tell this too...
Several years ago my husband's ex best friend sexually assaulted me. We were separated at the time and he tried to take advantage of my vulnerable state. We got back together shortly afterwards.
Same guy who assaulted me, is now in jail for being a p*do. That plus the other thing, I know my husband would k*ll him or beat him within an inch of his life at the very least. When the news broke about him being in jail he often talked about how much he wanted to kick his a*s. welp, I'm mostly over it but I'll probably take that one to my grave.
Several years ago my husband's ex best friend sexually assaulted me. We were separated at the time and he tried to take advantage of my vulnerable state. We got back together shortly afterwards.
Same guy who assaulted me, is now in jail for being a p*do. That plus the other thing, I know my husband would k*ll him or beat him within an inch of his life at the very least. When the news broke about him being in jail he often talked about how much he wanted to kick his a*s. welp, I'm mostly over it but I'll probably take that one to my grave.
46points
#24
My ex doesn't know that i missed my big career opportunity with better pay,location, and most importantly better mental health. I did that because i wanted to give her attention and support all the time. She was not doing good at that time. Well, she ended up cheating on me.
45points
Keeping dark secrets in a relationship? That’s a giant, flashing red flag. While everyone is entitled to privacy, withholding something significant can break trust and lead to resentment. Whether it’s financial troubles, past relationships, or other major issues, honesty is the foundation of a strong partnership.
#25
I (40s M) started with watching Emily In Paris without waiting for my wife (40s F).
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44points
#26
I was sexually assaulted at a nightclub 12 years ago. When it first happened I was only 18 and thought that I was somehow to blame so I didn't tell my then boyfriend (now husband) at the time. I carried so much shame about it for years. I now realise that it was not my fault and that I could tell him. But it seems a weird thing to bring up after so long. I nearly did tell him earlier this year when I had a nightmare about it though but again, just couldn't do it.
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43points
#27
I was cleaning out our office and found a random, unmarked notebook. Turns out my now husband was once lamenting the fact that an attractive, female coworker would never be into him. This was several months after we started dating, had said "I love you", and spent every weekend together. It was a punch to the gut. Said he loved me but was pining after a coworker. And apparently I'm ugly enough to be with him.
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42points
Which of these posts shocked you the most? And if you’re feeling brave—what’s the one thing you’ve hidden from your partner? Let us know in the comments!
#28
I hate to be the "not me but a friend" person, but it's appropriate. I had a friend who dated someone long-term whose father died in a freak accident when they were young. When things got more serious and they planned on getting married, my friend's future MIL confided to them that their partner's father had actually died by s****de. She asked that my friend never tell her partner, as she feared for her child's mental health if they knew. We kind of drifted apart so I have no idea how it is now, but my friend felt incredibly conflicted about this and wish she had never been told. .
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40points
#29
I never told them how much I missed a big opportunity in my career because I didn’t want them to feel guilty about needing my support.
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31points
#30
I would never share my own on here, for fear it would come out. But I did have a good friend in High School, late 80s, who’s dad had a whole nother family 2 miles away, and kept it all a secret til he was 80 something. The kids were all similar ages, how you never ran in to each other at a supermarket, baseball game, travel sporting high school event, beyond me, but he did it.
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