While both parents play an important part in looking after their children, dads are often seen as the 'fun' parent. But why so?
"Dads are often perceived as the 'fun' parent because they tend to engage in more playful, spontaneous, and less structured activities with their kids," explains Michelle Mintz, a communication and cognition specialist at Meet Michelle Mintz.
"They’re more likely to engage in rough-and-tumble play, physical games, and playful teasing, which can be seen as more lighthearted and less rule-bound than traditional caregiving roles. This type of interaction can help children feel more relaxed and open, creating a sense of safety that fosters stronger emotional bonds."
Phyllis L. Fagell, a licensed clinical professional counselor, certified professional school counselor, and author of Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers, adds that dads are often seen as the 'fun' parent because of cultural stereotypes and moms' lack of time for fun and play.
"There's a lot at play, including cultural stereotypes that tend to get reinforced by movies, TV shows, and social media, plus societal expectations that can make it more acceptable for fathers to be more playful and looser with rules and routine. In households with a more traditional division of labor, mothers may literally have less time for play."
Being a parent who is perceived as fun not only lifts family spirits but can also significantly enhance a child's emotional and social development, says Mintz.
"Playful interactions encourage bonding, foster communication skills, and teach children how to navigate social cues. It can also provide a safe space for children to express their feelings and practice problem-solving, further strengthening their self-confidence and emotional regulation."
Fagell additionally notes, saying that "hopefully, one parent doesn't contribute all the joy—ideally, everyone should be able to model how to lighten the mood. Kids have little life experience or perspective and need to know they can bounce back from the hard stuff. A generous dose of fun and humor is essential if we want to raise optimistic, resilient kids."
However, knowing how to instill some fun in family life doesn't always come easily. In times when parents struggle to create joyful moments, experts urge them to remember that it doesn't always have to require something elaborate.
"Any parent can incorporate playfulness and joy into daily routines by turning everyday moments into mini-adventures," says Mintz. "Sing while brushing teeth, create silly stories during car rides, or have impromptu dance parties while cooking dinner. Small, consistent moments of fun not only break up the routine but also reinforce the message that family time is a time for connection and joy."
"Maybe you watch a funny movie together or have a family game night," suggests Fagell. "Or everyone can drop a sticky note into a bowl with their favorite movie or game—or their favorite way to have fun as a family. Then, everyone gets a turn to pick the activity. Much like adults, different kids enjoy different activities, so this gives everyone a voice."
