Dad Complains 23 Y.O. Daughter Isn’t Helping Around The House, She Surprises Family By Secretly Leaving Home For Good

Some say that the concept of family ought to be considered a value, something to be cherished at all costs. And rightfully so. After all, it’s key to who we are as individuals and it’s supposed to be a sort of safety net as far as us being social beings is concerned.

But families don’t always work for everyone, especially if there is conflict and perhaps even exertion of power by parents upon kids, even if the kids are all grown up and you needn’t use extreme emotion to send a message. Or maybe you just need to listen, and not send a message.

Whatever the case, this next story shows just how bad it can get sometimes because of this.

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So, 23-year-old Reddit user u/lilacswans recently went to Reddit to get some perspective on a situation she ended up in.

In particular, she asked the Am I The A-Hole community if she was wrong to leave her family home without telling anyone in the family after a fight she had with her dad.

You see, OP is a grad student who is also juggling two jobs (technically, one part-time job and one internship, but still very valid), and she often ends up leaving home early in the morning and coming back late in the evenings. But she still makes an effort to do her part with regards to chores whenever she is at home.

One day she decided she’d empty out the dishwasher, but she needed to take a shower first. This turned out to be a grave mistake as dad had a problem with the dishwasher not being empty at this point and proceeded to make a huge fuss about it.

It was such a huge fuss, in fact, that he didn’t seem to even try to listen to OP, or even, in fact, notice that she does do her part around the house. Instead, he started putting her down, calling her useless, and even going so far as to threaten to kick her out of the house.

Since the 23-year-old’s attempts at explaining herself were in vain, especially when dad specifically told her to shut it, she decided to do the “be careful what you wish for” thing, and simply packed up and left in secret early in the morning.

The parents didn’t take this lightly, though, as they started frantically questioning why she didn’t come home and seemingly asking her to come back. But she was having none of it, and had been living in her car for a week as of the posting of the thread on Reddit.

She also proceeded to block her family, who started bugging her friends in hopes of contacting her. She did end up visiting one friend, who explained that what OP did was awful leaving and ignoring the family like that. But it was clear that OP’s mind was made up—she was threatened, she didn’t feel safe at home, so she left. If anything, she was doing her dad a favor.

But given how many people around her were seemingly against her decision, she wanted to find out if she was actually right here. The internet was, fortunately for her, of a completely different opinion, saying that she is not wrong to have done what she did.

Besides everyone pointing out that she is an adult and can make these decisions, they agreed that threats are a sure red flag that won’t end well no matter how you spin it. It’s abusive, if anything.

Others expressed their support for OP, helping her figure out what the next step ought to be, homeless shelters she should peep out and just giving general advice. Whatever the case, people thought she did the right thing by leaving a toxic environment.

Whatever the case may be, Redditors showed OP some love in the form of nearly 14,000 upvotes and a handful of Reddit awards. You can check out the post in context here, but before you do that, why not share your thoughts and opinions in the comment section below!