“They Think It’s A Cheat Code”: 30 Women Reveal Their Creepiest Experiences With ‘Nice Guys’

“I asked the question because I was quite surprised at how many men nowadays talk about how difficult women are to please, because I’ve never had any trouble having female friends or entering a relationship,” the OP told Bored Panda in a recent interview, adding that they never make any sexually charged comments at them, which might have something to do with it.

“Some of my female friends had stories about things guys did that were too ambiguous for the guy to know he was creepy,” they continued, “and I was so curious as to what men might miss that they do that turns out to be the nail in the coffin for a woman.”

The OP gave an example of a situation where a woman might see a red flag in a potential partner. “For instance, my friend got asked out on a first date—via Instagram, by a guy she had never met, who lived in her local area—to his house. To me, it was obvious that a lot of women would never agree to that, and my friend didn’t either. She also stopped talking to him, rather than suggesting some place else, because that alone said enough about his character for her.”

Relationship expert and co-founder of the personality type dating app ‘SO SYNCD’ Jessica Alderson said there might be no malicious intent behind such an invitation, but advised against accepting it nevertheless. "You just shouldn’t take that risk in terms of safety,” she told Mashable. “It’s completely acceptable to say that you would prefer to meet at a public place such as a bar or restaurant."

While discussing the netizens’ answers, the OP admitted that some made them “feel sorry for the guy for being stuck with the personality he has”. Others were difficult to read because of how often a woman’s trust has been broken or how many sexual remarks from all sorts of men they have had to endure.

“The replies, as well as my experiences with male friends, ultimately left me feeling that men had the power to influence women’s opinion of them a lot more than they thought,” the OP suggested. “I do think a lot of male conversation is about shock factor sometimes and it results in men saying appalling things to each other to get laughs.”

The OP told Bored Panda that they haven’t had a friend—male or female—who seemed like the nicest person ever, but turned out to be rather creepy. “But I do find it annoying when people make endlessly sexual remarks because it is intrusive and feels like there is a hidden motive. It’s like forcing bedroom talk on a surprised and unwilling participant,” they said.