I just got out of a relationship where I was together with a man with a on and off again relationship with a man and he had a 20 to 21-year-old son to start being extremely jealous of us dating to the point that he would barge into our room and sometimes even lay down on our bed when I was naked underneath the sheets clinching the blanket scared out of my mind not knowing why this behavior was being played out before me it made me feel very uncomfortable from day one I had conversations with the man I was dating the father of the 21-year-old son no matter what I was always put in the backseat of everything our whole life to the point that the father and son would go out two places as if they were a married couple and I was always left in the dark it was so bizarre I was off to myself all the time being alone very alone and lonely to the point of misery and deep depression I would find some solace in my work being able to visit with people and anytime I was showing any happiness then my man wouldn't be happy with me he would accuse me of sleeping around when I was always home I find it bizarre so I would stay home more so that he wouldn't think that I was cheating and the more we would be together the more his son would come barging in to our room and we could never have the door shut because they needed airflow to go through the house of course it was always something it was never any compassion for me to have any bit of privacy with what I thought was my man having a relationship with my man but 24/7 around the clock the 21-year-old growing up into an age of almost about 30 years old now still if he wasn't in our room trying to sleep in our room then he was trying to sit on our bed with us or lay on our bed with us and he would barge to the room and would barge into our room at all hours any day and night every single day he was there not a day would go by that his son wasn't there all day everyday 24/7 in our room and when he wasn't in our room with us if we went somewhere he was calling on the phone trying to make sure to consume his father's time 24/7 to the point that his dad would even answer the phone while we were having sex to see what his son wanted and he didn't want to stop having sex even though his son was on the phone I found it disgusting so of course I stopped there was times when I would beg and beg for his dad to please get his son out of in between us and of course he could never tell his son to have any boundaries with our relationship it was disgusting but he made it me believe that I was the one being out of touch with reality and that it's perfectly normal that is 30-year-old son never get his own house never live in his own house by himself without having his dad live with him and his dad tell him what to do everyday all day and be with his dad everyday all day the sad part is it wasn't because it was such a loving relationship the dad would talk about his son as if he was a neighbor being that much distant towards him however when it came to taking up our time and ruining our relationship it was all okay it was very disturbing on very many levels of course I looked it up and it seemed as though the dad was definitely a narcissist to the tea and the Sun just absolutely would make excuses on why he needed to be next to his dad on top of his dad 24/7 he's not mentally challenged that I know of the Sun that is to where there was a reason why he was doing this sort of behavior the reason why my relationship was off and on again for a span of over 10 to 12 years was because every time that's what happened I would leave pick up and start my life over again and he would come in and beg me to go back with him and this last time I made him assure me that his son wasn't going to be around for sure so we started being together moving in together making plans bigger and better than ever he bought me a ring we were to be married and we were having the happiest Days of our lives then just like that after we had been dating for a while and after he got done living with his son we got a place together and wouldn't you know it we were the happiest ever and wouldn't you know it he told me he didn't want me to leave he wanted me to always be with him he said he was the happiest that he'd ever been and of course just like clockwork 3 months in after we had worked tirelessly, of course here comes his son, with bells on it got to be so disturbing his son would be there at 5:00 in the morning and wake us up coming in our bedroom sometimes I would see him spying on us in the bedroom window I would look over and see his face pressed against the window looking in and it would freak me out scare me to where I had to tape up something on the window so he couldn't look in at me then he just made sure to have a reason to come barging in our bedroom our bedroom mind you with our bed in it it didn't matter what we could have been doing what we were doing is 30-year-old son would come barging in sit on our bed right next to me and it would freak me out so bad that this was to happen it felt like psychological warfare from 5:00 in the morning sometimes earlier than that seeing him and hearing him waking up to him coming through the door slamming the door open and shut and if he wanted to wake up his dad he wouldn't hesitate to be loud about it to make sure that I was being woke up as well the psychological warfare went on for approximately 10 months and if everybody could imagine how horrible it makes you feel when you're trying to as a woman exercise change your clothes get ready for bed be in bed want to get personal with your man anything of the sort and have in the back of your mind knowing that you have no privacy whatsoever that a kid can just come traipsing through and dominating the situation every day all day from sun up to sundown to where you don't have a relationship anymore and it obviously was pretty obvious that the Sun for some weird reason is jealous because every time we would get together he would immediately have to be there every single day all day and have to dominate everything no joke if he wasn't there in front of us he was on the phone calling every 10 minutes everyday all day I would like to ask everybody if they think that's normal if they would enjoy that happened to them and how that would make them feel I am fully disgusted we left on an extremely bad note that I'm still dealing with and after all of these years and I made it perfectly clear with his dad we made an agreement together that this was our last time we were going to give it a shot it so we're all in and we both need to put in 100% to make sure that everything works well because we were planning our futures together getting property so that we could start our own for the first time being able to put furniture of my own and my own clothing and my own furnishings into a house that I'm living in instead of living out of a bag for over 10 years when he promised me that he was going to get me a house to live in and he never did he always said no I need to flip it and make some money and kept saying it was for us but he kept moving his son in with us so no it wasn't for us it was for him and his son because I told him I could care less where I'm at I just need a little privacy a little space I can make any shack at home but he played with my time and this last move I made it very clear that I felt like enough of my time has been wasted on this me waiting for him to get us a house because he had to call all the shots and he had to make all the moves it was his way or no way so I have to stand back and wait for him to do what he needed to and everything was always about his son he's got a whole bunch of kids and the there's only one that he cares about that he spends all of his time with and that's his son he thinks that everybody on God's green earth is worthless except for his son and everybody is a stepping stone to get what he wants and that's how everybody's treated anyway this last time I had told my man that I don't want any more my time being wasted not one more second so please don't waste my time what did they do he moved his son in and they started a business out of the place we were living and I went in the back seat again and I begged and I pleaded for him not to do that but he did it anyway I told him it would ruin our relationship and he did it anyway he said his son needed to have some place to live and he wasn't going to turn him away even though his son had a house in another state just across the border that he was living in that he bought and fixed up and sold and had to move in with us and his son lived with us for 7 months maybe 6 months and he put a camper next to where we were at in our room so he would come in to use the bathroom at all hours of the night and he would be living there so he was of course still there 24/7 now we wouldn't even have the privacy of him leaving in the middle of the night to spend the night somewhere so that we could at least be alone in bed I feel like all of my time has been wasted thrown away on that situation that I regret being in if I would have known that this is the way it was going to be I would have never wanted to meet that man I would have never went on a date with him I would have never felt sorry for him felt sorry for his son and tried to make it work a thousand times I was the one being put on the back burner and it was disgusting I sacrifice so much of my life and they could care less that they ruined my life a big chunk of it and now I am so beyond words we left on a bad note I should say I did without getting into the details because I'm still having to deal with it I would love to sue for the loss of my time for playing with me and my emotions his son at the very end when I went to his son to talk to him and say that I'm leaving I need your help can you please let your dad move in with you now that you just moved out and got a home of your own so that I can pack up and leave and I could leave civil and when I was getting ready to walk out of the room the Sun had the audacity to turn around and say my father and I discussed it and we decided you guys aren't going to be together after I just told him that I was going to leave I couldn't believe my ears those two talked about it and decided because his father wasn't even man enough to talk to me and every time I talk to him try to talk about our relationship all he could do is stare at the TV like he was melting into the recliner it was the most disturbing behavior I've ever seen he couldn't say anything when I tried to address the promises he made all of our children intermingling together our lives everything he was not even being a man and talking but he was telling his son that he couldn't take it anymore because I was talking to him and I followed him into the bathroom one time to get an answer from him because he wouldn't say anything could you imagine talking to significant other about something and getting an answer and then you turn around and walk away and you've got your answer so you know what to do but no with me I would talk and ask questions and he would just ignore me like as if I wasn't there I tried to keep my cool it was hard to keep my voice at an even level and not get mad every time but it's so frustrating when you're an adult living under these weird circumstances and having the man that you thought you were with not even talk to you about what he's doing what he's done anything it was so bizarre I have just gotten over one whole month of him not even talking to me not even saying one word then he gave me covid and I kept comforting him through all of the dark times and he appreciated it and said he didn't know what he would do without me being there to shed a little light on some of the darkness that these past 2 years were but he can't seem to stop with his son his 30-year-old son everyday and his son can't stand to be away from his dad and trust me it's not a nice normal loving relationship I would love it if it were that it's not it's something really weird and it's been described as that really weird and different by his family also so to everybody that reads this I'm sorry for jumping around but I swear I have gotten PTSD over this so everybody out there can you answer me what would you do do you find it normal there's also something that's the real big huge shocker of how our relationship ended but I don't want to say anything about it just yet because we need to go to court about it that it is truly absolutely bizarre so what do you think what would you guys do what you guys sue for money is there such a thing can you sue for somebody wasting your time when you told them not to waste your time that it was extremely precious to you and they moved in somebody then put them in your face 24/7 around the clock every day all day... Sorry if this is somewhat hard to follow I keep jumping around because I keep remembering parts so I keep going back and forth and I'm sorry for that and I did talk to text so if you don't want to publish this story on your post and I understand but I think you're going to proofread it first so let me know what you think thanks
JUL 24, 2022