Discovering that one’s partner is being unfaithful can feel unthinkable, but for most folks it starts with noticing off behavior or a weird text as an instigator for further investigation. But some folks have the misfortune of getting a lot clearer of a picture in the most unexpected ways possible.
Someone asked “What’s the “craziest” way you caught an ex being unfaithful?” and people shared their tales. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to add your own stories and experiences to the comments section down below.
#21
My ex took a trip over to Washington to go get clean off of substances, he was gone for weeks and stopped answering my phone calls.
When he finally DID decided to reply to one of my many texts, all he did was send me a picture of his girlfriend in the hospital holding his new baby, he had nothing else to say besides he was sorry, he was polyamorous, and I can join them if I was interested in continuing the relationship.
When he finally DID decided to reply to one of my many texts, all he did was send me a picture of his girlfriend in the hospital holding his new baby, he had nothing else to say besides he was sorry, he was polyamorous, and I can join them if I was interested in continuing the relationship.
13points
#22
She was working part time as a server at an Applebee's and one day she told me she was moving to another location due to her and a coworker getting into several arguments. Whatever, not a huge deal.
The night that she worked her first shift at that new location my cousin texts me and asks me to call her. She had just met my girlfriend and told me she wasn't moved due to her and someone else having disagreements, it was because she was having an affair with her manager.
I didn't know my cousin worked there so obviously my girlfriend didn't know so she decided to begin telling her new coworker all about why she moved stores, how her boyfriend didn't know, that she knew it was a mistake and she loved her boyfriend so much. One thing led to another and she asked my cousin her last name and of course, it's the same as mine. My cousin asks what her boyfriend's name is and she says it's my name and my cousin just left it at that and when she got a second she contacted me.
I waited until my soon to be ex girlfriend got out of work before I called her and asked her if she met my cousin who worked there and she immediately began denying it, that my cousin was lying and more. I just hung up on her and later that week took the stuff she had at my house over to her parent's house.
Heapifying:
I wonder about the reaction from her parents.
OP:
Since we had a few mutual friends due to us meeting at a job we worked at together (I was still there, she had left obviously), they were not happy about it. I saw her dad about three months later and he asked me how I was doing and apologized for her.
The night that she worked her first shift at that new location my cousin texts me and asks me to call her. She had just met my girlfriend and told me she wasn't moved due to her and someone else having disagreements, it was because she was having an affair with her manager.
I didn't know my cousin worked there so obviously my girlfriend didn't know so she decided to begin telling her new coworker all about why she moved stores, how her boyfriend didn't know, that she knew it was a mistake and she loved her boyfriend so much. One thing led to another and she asked my cousin her last name and of course, it's the same as mine. My cousin asks what her boyfriend's name is and she says it's my name and my cousin just left it at that and when she got a second she contacted me.
I waited until my soon to be ex girlfriend got out of work before I called her and asked her if she met my cousin who worked there and she immediately began denying it, that my cousin was lying and more. I just hung up on her and later that week took the stuff she had at my house over to her parent's house.
Heapifying:
I wonder about the reaction from her parents.
OP:
Since we had a few mutual friends due to us meeting at a job we worked at together (I was still there, she had left obviously), they were not happy about it. I saw her dad about three months later and he asked me how I was doing and apologized for her.
13points
#23
He went on a work trip and left his old phone at home, messages popped up that his female coworker was coming over to cuddle and watch a movie. I saw these while on the phone with him and heard a knock and he says "oh, thats probably Dan. I gotta go." He also cheated on me with his long time best friend's girlfriend and I found out while I was at warped tour because I was logged into his skype.
Vegetable-Okra-9987:
Did he have any red flags before all this?
OP:
Not at all. He was very sweet and loving. Like, he was so perfect and then i moved in with him and he flipped a switch.
Vegetable-Okra-9987:
Did he have any red flags before all this?
OP:
Not at all. He was very sweet and loving. Like, he was so perfect and then i moved in with him and he flipped a switch.
13points
#24
When I was a freshman in college I went out to eat with my dad and brother at applebees when they came to visit and my new bf showed up on a date with someone else at the same time I was there with my dad. My brother instantly noticed something was up with me.
Sufficient_Dig9548:
As a dad, you should have told him what was happening. I would have walked over to the table and introduced myself as your dad just to see him melt into that greasy Applebee's booth.
OP:
My dad is pretty worthless and wouldn't have done anything. The only reason he even came to visit is because he was feeling guilty because my other brother had just passed. I can't count on him for anything ever in life.
Sufficient_Dig9548:
As a dad, you should have told him what was happening. I would have walked over to the table and introduced myself as your dad just to see him melt into that greasy Applebee's booth.
OP:
My dad is pretty worthless and wouldn't have done anything. The only reason he even came to visit is because he was feeling guilty because my other brother had just passed. I can't count on him for anything ever in life.
13points
#25
My fiancée’s side piece logged into her world of Warcraft account and was farming for her while she was at work. I’m in a different Timezone so I messaged to ask why is she online. Side piece replies that he’s her boyfriend and just farming for her. Told him I was her fiancé. That got awkward quick.
13points
#26
Went to bed as she was on the sofa doing a work call. 2am she wasn’t there. Text said ‘gone for midnight snack’. Well 4am she still wasn’t there. 6am I got the kids up, ran them to school, called in sick and followed her on find my iPhone.
Followed it to our car, with some dude sleeping in the front. She was in the back covered in puke. They’d gone for dinner and she’d gotten drunk.
Rookie error.
Followed it to our car, with some dude sleeping in the front. She was in the back covered in puke. They’d gone for dinner and she’d gotten drunk.
Rookie error.
12points
#27
Her “friend” that was driving us somewhere reached over to hold her hand, when I was in the back seat able to see.
redtruck2024:
I caught two friends this way. Went to a movie as a platonic group. We sit down, he forgot and put his hand on her thigh.
S0uvlakiSpaceStati0n:
Yeah same, my sister and I made plans to meet up with my friend at a local outdoor event. She asked if she could bring a friend, turned out to be a guy she worked with. Her boyfriend didn't join us. Her friend was being weird and touchy with her and at first I thought whatever, my friend is very popular with men and they all try to be friends with her thinking they'll get in her pants. I figure she's just used to this behavior from her male friends at this point, and I didn't really see her reciprocating or anything. The campus for this event is huge and we kept getting separated because my friend was drunk and her friend was high. Again, whatever, it's normal for groups to split up to browse at different booths at this event. Until my sister and I saw them from far away a few times, holding hands, linking arms, etc. At one point his hand was on her waist. Just so disappointing. The guy seemed like a loser too. He didn't talk to me or my sister the whole time, just mumbled little private conversations with my friend. If she was going to cheat, at least do it with someone more worth it? I didn't confront her and haven't talked to her since then. Not out of spite but just because we already weren't really close anymore for the last several years, and if she's going to be inappropriate like that in front of me without addressing the elephant in the room, I don't really know how to interact with her anymore.
redtruck2024:
I caught two friends this way. Went to a movie as a platonic group. We sit down, he forgot and put his hand on her thigh.
S0uvlakiSpaceStati0n:
Yeah same, my sister and I made plans to meet up with my friend at a local outdoor event. She asked if she could bring a friend, turned out to be a guy she worked with. Her boyfriend didn't join us. Her friend was being weird and touchy with her and at first I thought whatever, my friend is very popular with men and they all try to be friends with her thinking they'll get in her pants. I figure she's just used to this behavior from her male friends at this point, and I didn't really see her reciprocating or anything. The campus for this event is huge and we kept getting separated because my friend was drunk and her friend was high. Again, whatever, it's normal for groups to split up to browse at different booths at this event. Until my sister and I saw them from far away a few times, holding hands, linking arms, etc. At one point his hand was on her waist. Just so disappointing. The guy seemed like a loser too. He didn't talk to me or my sister the whole time, just mumbled little private conversations with my friend. If she was going to cheat, at least do it with someone more worth it? I didn't confront her and haven't talked to her since then. Not out of spite but just because we already weren't really close anymore for the last several years, and if she's going to be inappropriate like that in front of me without addressing the elephant in the room, I don't really know how to interact with her anymore.
11points
#28
Back information: ex was a sailor who would go out of town to catch his boat.
Was booking a hotel for us to meet my family in the summer and found a hotel reservation for six months prior, booked on the day that he was going to aforementioned town for work. I asked him about it and he said he was drunk that night and had no memory of making a reservation. I remember he was very drunk that night, called me at 3am to tell me he fell asleep on the boat, etc etc etc. anyways, I go into uber and I find the receipts going straight from the train station to the hotel, and then another receipt leaving the hotel at 2:30 in the morning and going to his ship’s dock at 3am, the exact time he called me to tell me he had fallen asleep.
Best if you don’t leave a paper trail on shared accounts.
Was booking a hotel for us to meet my family in the summer and found a hotel reservation for six months prior, booked on the day that he was going to aforementioned town for work. I asked him about it and he said he was drunk that night and had no memory of making a reservation. I remember he was very drunk that night, called me at 3am to tell me he fell asleep on the boat, etc etc etc. anyways, I go into uber and I find the receipts going straight from the train station to the hotel, and then another receipt leaving the hotel at 2:30 in the morning and going to his ship’s dock at 3am, the exact time he called me to tell me he had fallen asleep.
Best if you don’t leave a paper trail on shared accounts.
11points
#29
He was adopted. Said he managed to get in contact with his half sister. They messaged all the time (she was out of state).
Turns out that was his side piece/long term fling. Found out back to back he also slept with two of my “friends”.
Anyways, he ended up getting tased by the cops and went to jail.
Turns out that was his side piece/long term fling. Found out back to back he also slept with two of my “friends”.
Anyways, he ended up getting tased by the cops and went to jail.
11points
#30
I always suspected he was cheating but couldn’t find evidence. I was at work one morning (at a call center for a utility company) and got a call through my headset. I froze when I saw his number pop up on the screen. So I go through my run down, “ thanks for calling blah blah this is …. How can I help you? A girl responds asking for an extension on her bill. She tells me her name and it was the girl I suspected he was cheating with. Weeks before my Mom told me to sit back and wait for the proof to come and stop looking for it and it definitely did. We had 3 call centers in different areas of the state and somehow she happened to come through to me. It was fate. Of course he denied it and said she was just a friend and needed to use his phone, but best friend had already told on him. Lol. He ended up having a baby with my cousin who was originally underage when she first met him. He waited until she turned 18. Now has about 12 kids with 8-9 different women. Glad I got out of there.
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11points
#31
He was in the merchant navy and was meant to be on his ship. Then a guy turned up to collect his hire car. 🙄
He was on a weekend pass with her but the hire car needed to be replaced unbeknownst to him.
She was my sister. He was my husband. We were childhood sweethearts and had 2 kids
Edit to add that this was in the 90s and my kids are parents now. My wider family didn't stand up for me so I moved away and lived a much happier life without them.
tiptoptattie:
I also had a ship-based partner who lied about his whereabouts and events. He was a serial cheater and hid it really well for a while. I started noticing he was adding certain women to Instagram (you could see the most “recently followed”) in the locations he was docked. I eventually messaged some of them, and they all admitted sleeping with him - met on various dating apps. I also started getting really horrendous infections (I was negative for STDs) which have affected me to this day years later
He was on a weekend pass with her but the hire car needed to be replaced unbeknownst to him.
She was my sister. He was my husband. We were childhood sweethearts and had 2 kids
Edit to add that this was in the 90s and my kids are parents now. My wider family didn't stand up for me so I moved away and lived a much happier life without them.
tiptoptattie:
I also had a ship-based partner who lied about his whereabouts and events. He was a serial cheater and hid it really well for a while. I started noticing he was adding certain women to Instagram (you could see the most “recently followed”) in the locations he was docked. I eventually messaged some of them, and they all admitted sleeping with him - met on various dating apps. I also started getting really horrendous infections (I was negative for STDs) which have affected me to this day years later
10points
#32
Both police.
She used her personal device (work phone as ancient) to record audio at a crime scene. Needed help syncing her phone to work laptop. All her photos immediately backed up while syncing. We both sat there in silence.
She used her personal device (work phone as ancient) to record audio at a crime scene. Needed help syncing her phone to work laptop. All her photos immediately backed up while syncing. We both sat there in silence.
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10points
#33
Had their 'lovechild' contact our daughter via Facebook late one evening, she'd taken a photo of his car outside their house asking my daughter 'is this your dad's car, because if it is, he's my dad too'. It was his car.
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10points
#34
This was about 2006 when Lips of an Angel by Hinder came out. Era of Myspace. My boyfriend made that song his profile song and my best friend, who he cheated on me with, made "lips of an Angel" her profile name. Honestly it's hilarious to think about now.
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9points
#35
He put pics on social media on vacation with his *other* girlfriend!
He just put it right out there, as if I wouldn’t notice or care? It was crazy, cruel, you name it… So he ghosted me, put pics up with his girlfriend on their vacation, then tried telling me they were only friends. I blocked that narcissistic sociopath from all forms of communication and went no contact. What an utter jerk. Our entire relationship was a big lie.
He just put it right out there, as if I wouldn’t notice or care? It was crazy, cruel, you name it… So he ghosted me, put pics up with his girlfriend on their vacation, then tried telling me they were only friends. I blocked that narcissistic sociopath from all forms of communication and went no contact. What an utter jerk. Our entire relationship was a big lie.
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9points
#36
I had a fairly elaborate dream about her cheating on me with her ex. When I was a little short with her, she asked me what was wrong. I told her about the dream and she stood there shocked. Then she said "it happened last week...".
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#37
He made a new secret Snapchat account to message girls…except he used his phone number and I got notified that somebody on my phone contact list had made a new account and Snapchat wanted to know if I’d like to add them 🤣.
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#38
I tried to sneak my underage friend (I was legal drinking age, she was like 5 months away from legal drinking age) into a bar, we got turned away but came across a wedding party, we figured “why not” so we crashed it. Saw a guy i knew from high school there, he invited us to a “hotel party” ended up being his hotel room and there was 4 of us sitting around with no booze and nothing in common.
His friend started hitting on me and I told him I had a boyfriend. High school friend jumped in and said “you’re still dating him? I saw him like 3 nights ago with some chick”
Turns out my adult boyfriend was sleeping with a 16 year old behind my back. I ended things with him of course. This wasn’t the first time he cheated on me but it was certainly the last time. He then got his friends to follow me on social media, would walk by my work often, ask mutuals about me..lol
The craziest part is I went to a psychic a couple of weeks before this and one of the first things she said was “you need to take that necklace off, it has a very bad energy attached and I can’t concentrate” he gave me that necklace for my birthday and it was tucked into my hoodie at the time, not really visible.
His friend started hitting on me and I told him I had a boyfriend. High school friend jumped in and said “you’re still dating him? I saw him like 3 nights ago with some chick”
Turns out my adult boyfriend was sleeping with a 16 year old behind my back. I ended things with him of course. This wasn’t the first time he cheated on me but it was certainly the last time. He then got his friends to follow me on social media, would walk by my work often, ask mutuals about me..lol
The craziest part is I went to a psychic a couple of weeks before this and one of the first things she said was “you need to take that necklace off, it has a very bad energy attached and I can’t concentrate” he gave me that necklace for my birthday and it was tucked into my hoodie at the time, not really visible.
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9points
#39
Ha, I worked away, 4 days on 4 days off. When I worked I stayed in a hotel and I came home. Anyway one night I was particularly toey so I sent her a few messages and she didn’t respond, which was no real big deal as neither of us were really that into mobile phones so I tried calling, no answer. I got a bit worried cause she didn’t drive and I thought maybe she missed her bus, phone was flat, etc so I took off for home, picked up some Chinese, got in, had a shower, set the table, and waited. Tried calling a bunch of times, no answer. Ate tea, went to bed at 11, got up at 7 and still not home so I wrote a note and left it on the bed.
Lunchtime she calls me. Hey, sorry, I was really tired, I got home, watched a movie and fell asleep. I said you haven’t even been home yet have you? What do you mean? I have been home all night. Oh really because I didn’t see you there at all. What do you mean?? Well, when you get home, look at the note I left on your pillow. I’ll be down tomorrow to pack.
I don’t know if she cheated, I don’t care tbh. She could have said she went out with the boss and stayed at her place to get to work the next day. She could have said she stayed at her girlfriend’s place. No big deal. She could have said she went out to a night club with some mates, no worries. But she lied.
excubitor15379:
Did she try to explain or just accept she got caught and it's done?
OP:
Nope, just said ‘oh’ and that was it.
PlattyP:
What did the note say?!!
OP:
we’re talking nearly 25yrs ago, but I think basically if I can’t trust you to be honest when I’m not here how could I trust you to build a future with or something like that. Nothing too poetic, just a pissed off scrawl at 7am after not sleeping and stressing
Full-Ear87:
I feel like I would’ve been stressing about her being in the hospital or something at that point, curious that you would jump to her being sneaky or something before learning that she lied to you.
Did you have suspicions before this?
OP:
No, no suspicions but we had moved back to an area where she had a lot of friends from her party days, so not replying to messages may have not been strange, but not answering or returning multiple calls definitely was. Initially when I went home I went by her work, which was closed and came home by the route her bus would have taken in case she was at a bus stop or whatever, and she had a brother living close to her, and I was on great terms with her parents, so if she had been in hospital they would definitely had let me know as they were her emergency contacts. Plus I spoke to her every day and night, and she never mentioned any plans or anything apart from just relaxing at home to save money for when I came down so we could do stuff together, and I was doing the same while working, instead of going out drinking which was the reason for my note saying I couldn’t trust her.
Lunchtime she calls me. Hey, sorry, I was really tired, I got home, watched a movie and fell asleep. I said you haven’t even been home yet have you? What do you mean? I have been home all night. Oh really because I didn’t see you there at all. What do you mean?? Well, when you get home, look at the note I left on your pillow. I’ll be down tomorrow to pack.
I don’t know if she cheated, I don’t care tbh. She could have said she went out with the boss and stayed at her place to get to work the next day. She could have said she stayed at her girlfriend’s place. No big deal. She could have said she went out to a night club with some mates, no worries. But she lied.
excubitor15379:
Did she try to explain or just accept she got caught and it's done?
OP:
Nope, just said ‘oh’ and that was it.
PlattyP:
What did the note say?!!
OP:
we’re talking nearly 25yrs ago, but I think basically if I can’t trust you to be honest when I’m not here how could I trust you to build a future with or something like that. Nothing too poetic, just a pissed off scrawl at 7am after not sleeping and stressing
Full-Ear87:
I feel like I would’ve been stressing about her being in the hospital or something at that point, curious that you would jump to her being sneaky or something before learning that she lied to you.
Did you have suspicions before this?
OP:
No, no suspicions but we had moved back to an area where she had a lot of friends from her party days, so not replying to messages may have not been strange, but not answering or returning multiple calls definitely was. Initially when I went home I went by her work, which was closed and came home by the route her bus would have taken in case she was at a bus stop or whatever, and she had a brother living close to her, and I was on great terms with her parents, so if she had been in hospital they would definitely had let me know as they were her emergency contacts. Plus I spoke to her every day and night, and she never mentioned any plans or anything apart from just relaxing at home to save money for when I came down so we could do stuff together, and I was doing the same while working, instead of going out drinking which was the reason for my note saying I couldn’t trust her.
8points
#40
I’d had a sneaking suspicion for a while, but couldn’t specifically accuse her or him. One day I was with her dad and he accidentally called me the other guys name. Like the exact person I’d been suspecting. That’s how I discovered that for the last 6 months or so, they hadn’t been hearing about me at all, only him.
MoonLight4323:
Cool dad, BUT mind that some parents do this without thinking. My mum is a bit out of it and sometimes calls my partner my exes name (very similar names) and it's so embarassing for everyone involved.
MoonLight4323:
Cool dad, BUT mind that some parents do this without thinking. My mum is a bit out of it and sometimes calls my partner my exes name (very similar names) and it's so embarassing for everyone involved.
8points
