Discovering that one’s partner is being unfaithful can feel unthinkable, but for most folks it starts with noticing off behavior or a weird text as an instigator for further investigation. But some folks have the misfortune of getting a lot clearer of a picture in the most unexpected ways possible.
Someone asked “What’s the “craziest” way you caught an ex being unfaithful?” and people shared their tales. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to add your own stories and experiences to the comments section down below.
#1
Told him that if he ever cheated I wouldn’t tell him straight away but that I would put laxatives in his food. One night, randomly he got really sick, he sat on the edge of the bed and confessed. When he realised that I didn’t actually poison his food he was speechless, he was *sure* I had caught him.
51points
#2
I came home early unexpectedly. He was out but the bedroom was a mess and there were _stains_.
He tried to convince me that it was A POLTERGEIST.
IttyBittyPeen:
Can't blame a guy, sleeping with a ghost is a once in a lifetime opportunity
Nina_of_Nowhere:
my favourite one so far. At this point the stupidity of the lie is more a reason to leave than the cheating.
He tried to convince me that it was A POLTERGEIST.
IttyBittyPeen:
Can't blame a guy, sleeping with a ghost is a once in a lifetime opportunity
Nina_of_Nowhere:
my favourite one so far. At this point the stupidity of the lie is more a reason to leave than the cheating.
45points
#3
My boyfriend went out drinking with friends. Came home late, three sheets to the wind. He wanted Taco Bell and was going to doordash it. He was drunk enough he couldn't get into his own phone. I offered to place the door dash order from his phone. While I was holding it, he got a notification from Grindr.
I'm a woman, he was a "straight" man, or so I thought. We had been together for 7 years.
We're no longer together.
wilyquixote:
What an awful way to find out your partner is into Taco Bell.
I'm a woman, he was a "straight" man, or so I thought. We had been together for 7 years.
We're no longer together.
wilyquixote:
What an awful way to find out your partner is into Taco Bell.
44points
#4
His mom told me. at thanksgiving. in front of the entire family. she looked at me across the table and said "i'm so sorry sweetheart, you deserve to know." he choked on his mashed potatoes. best thanksgiving of my life honestly. his mom and i are still friends.
freedomflower8P:
I kept my mother in law after the divorce. I see her way more than his cheating jerk. She lived with me 3 years after the divorce. She chewed him a new one too, "just like your father" he hates his dad hahahaha....
stardustocean4:
If I ever have a son and he cheats, I’m blowing his [nonsense] up every time. He will not treat anyone like that. I watch love after lockup and so many moms just cover up their sons cheating. It’s disgusting. They say oh it’s not my business blah blah blah NAH my son isn’t going to be a disrespectful jerk to women.
freedomflower8P:
I kept my mother in law after the divorce. I see her way more than his cheating jerk. She lived with me 3 years after the divorce. She chewed him a new one too, "just like your father" he hates his dad hahahaha....
stardustocean4:
If I ever have a son and he cheats, I’m blowing his [nonsense] up every time. He will not treat anyone like that. I watch love after lockup and so many moms just cover up their sons cheating. It’s disgusting. They say oh it’s not my business blah blah blah NAH my son isn’t going to be a disrespectful jerk to women.
36points
#5
We had been burgled and I was trying to call him at work. It was a Saturday morning. I was a regular at a library about 200 yards from his work so I called the library and asked if someone would be kind enough to nip down there and pass on a message for me.
Someone called me back and said they had been to his work but there wasn't a soul there. No lights on, all doors locked, no cars in the car park. It was definitely closed.
I waited for him to get home 'from work' and asked where he'd been. He said he'd been at work. I told him what I had asked the library to do. He knew what I was getting at, he knew I'd caught him! He said he didn't have time for this nonsense because he had to go back to work, he had only called in to pick something up. I told him if he left now I wouldn't be there when he got back, and he told me he loved me but had to go. He left, so I moved out that night.
I found the truth out by accident about 2 weeks later. He wasn't just cheating on me, he was cheating WITH me. I was a sidepiece. He had never left his wife officially, his wife was pregnant with his son (we'd lived together for over a year at this point) and the girl that he said was his cousins girlfriend was also one of his bits on the side. I was absolutely crushed.
I walked to the house I was told he lived in and left a note on his car saying I knew what he had done...then had a sad walk home and was picked up by a taxi driver that felt sorry for me. I also found out he had been lying to me from day one. I was 17 when we got together, he said he was 26. Turned out he was 30 when we met.
Then I found out he had been defrauding my family and even 13 years after we had split up, my parents were still getting debt collection letters to their address. He forged my dad's signature on a HP car purchase, stopped paying for the car then sold it. I won't tell you everything he did but he is the sole reason why my little brothers body rotted in a morgue for 3 months after he took his own life! .
Someone called me back and said they had been to his work but there wasn't a soul there. No lights on, all doors locked, no cars in the car park. It was definitely closed.
I waited for him to get home 'from work' and asked where he'd been. He said he'd been at work. I told him what I had asked the library to do. He knew what I was getting at, he knew I'd caught him! He said he didn't have time for this nonsense because he had to go back to work, he had only called in to pick something up. I told him if he left now I wouldn't be there when he got back, and he told me he loved me but had to go. He left, so I moved out that night.
I found the truth out by accident about 2 weeks later. He wasn't just cheating on me, he was cheating WITH me. I was a sidepiece. He had never left his wife officially, his wife was pregnant with his son (we'd lived together for over a year at this point) and the girl that he said was his cousins girlfriend was also one of his bits on the side. I was absolutely crushed.
I walked to the house I was told he lived in and left a note on his car saying I knew what he had done...then had a sad walk home and was picked up by a taxi driver that felt sorry for me. I also found out he had been lying to me from day one. I was 17 when we got together, he said he was 26. Turned out he was 30 when we met.
Then I found out he had been defrauding my family and even 13 years after we had split up, my parents were still getting debt collection letters to their address. He forged my dad's signature on a HP car purchase, stopped paying for the car then sold it. I won't tell you everything he did but he is the sole reason why my little brothers body rotted in a morgue for 3 months after he took his own life! .
35points
#6
Not a crazy story, but your neighbours can get you sprung.
Friend got a text from his neighbour “you should go home” didn’t elaborate on why. Friend went home caught the wife in bed with someone else.
lilbec53:
Best neighbor ever...
bluecheetos:
I have a friend who got a random note on his car that said every day at 3:30 his wife (a teacher) was having a guy over who left before my friend got home from work
Johnyryal33:
My exes 8 yr old daughter told me.
Friend got a text from his neighbour “you should go home” didn’t elaborate on why. Friend went home caught the wife in bed with someone else.
lilbec53:
Best neighbor ever...
bluecheetos:
I have a friend who got a random note on his car that said every day at 3:30 his wife (a teacher) was having a guy over who left before my friend got home from work
Johnyryal33:
My exes 8 yr old daughter told me.
27points
#7
True story: at the dinner table my brother says "who here thinks they are dating [name of my gf] raise their hand". I raise my hand and he says "not so fast" and then shows me a recent text message where she [my gf] is saying she is dating her ex (she had told me that they had broken up).
literally the very day prior we had had a conversation about when we were going to get engaged and I had said that I needed to save up for a ring.
Version_1:
I was hoping the dinner was you and like ten people and they all raised their hands.
literally the very day prior we had had a conversation about when we were going to get engaged and I had said that I needed to save up for a ring.
Version_1:
I was hoping the dinner was you and like ten people and they all raised their hands.
26points
#8
Found out my ex was cheating on me with his coworker. So I watched her stories every day and dressed identically to her, every day. I watched him come home from work with a puzzled look on his face, every day.
DoctorsAdvocate:
This is a diabolical psychology play on your end.
DoctorsAdvocate:
This is a diabolical psychology play on your end.
26points
#9
Not my story but I heard of someone getting a notifcation that someone 140pounds stepped on their “smart scale” at 3am.
They were away on a business trip! That’s how they found out their husband was having an affair.
generic-puff:
I'm always side-eyeing those appliances that seem to come with wi-fi for no reason other than to be "new and modern", but I guess this is one of those few times where it actually did something useful LMAO
Falonefal:
Personally Ive used the scale to check for the weight of something, like my luggage before a flight, so that would be a terrible way to try and catch me cheating xd
They were away on a business trip! That’s how they found out their husband was having an affair.
generic-puff:
I'm always side-eyeing those appliances that seem to come with wi-fi for no reason other than to be "new and modern", but I guess this is one of those few times where it actually did something useful LMAO
Falonefal:
Personally Ive used the scale to check for the weight of something, like my luggage before a flight, so that would be a terrible way to try and catch me cheating xd
25points
#10
Actually on here…
I discovered for months he had been posting in a local NSFW group looking for hookups.
It was completely random how I discovered it too. I was gonna take a nap one Sunday…but, I decided to scroll Reddit on my phone and get sleepy. I saw a post about a missing girl, and I clicked it and it actually was about a missing girl that had been discovered in my state very close to where I am. I decided to read some of the comments, and as I was scrolling down I saw a comment mentioning how that event happened locally to someone. I clicked on that profile bc how random was that?!
It was him. Nasty requests and propositions. My life changed that day, for the better honestly. It’s like the universe rudely showed me my escape to that relationship. I’m so much happier now….but let me tell you, that day and discovery rewired the person I was.
Don_Pickleball:
I saw a bit from a standup comedian recently that was talking about finding her boyfriends Tinder account on the tablet they shared. She basically found woman after woman turning him down. 100's of women did not want to have anything to do with him. She wondered if it would have been better to find out that he was cheating on her than to find out that the only person in the world who was willing to sleep with him was her.
I discovered for months he had been posting in a local NSFW group looking for hookups.
It was completely random how I discovered it too. I was gonna take a nap one Sunday…but, I decided to scroll Reddit on my phone and get sleepy. I saw a post about a missing girl, and I clicked it and it actually was about a missing girl that had been discovered in my state very close to where I am. I decided to read some of the comments, and as I was scrolling down I saw a comment mentioning how that event happened locally to someone. I clicked on that profile bc how random was that?!
It was him. Nasty requests and propositions. My life changed that day, for the better honestly. It’s like the universe rudely showed me my escape to that relationship. I’m so much happier now….but let me tell you, that day and discovery rewired the person I was.
Don_Pickleball:
I saw a bit from a standup comedian recently that was talking about finding her boyfriends Tinder account on the tablet they shared. She basically found woman after woman turning him down. 100's of women did not want to have anything to do with him. She wondered if it would have been better to find out that he was cheating on her than to find out that the only person in the world who was willing to sleep with him was her.
24points
#11
Olden days. Late 80’s no internet or social media. A girl I was dating had a father that would go hunting every weekend, I was a hunter myself and when he came home one Sunday night after being elk hunting all weekend I teased him about “not being dirty” and that “it was no wonder he never got anything, he looked like he’d just showered and shaved”. Her mom over heard me and laid a trap for him the next weekend. When he returned from his next hunting trip he complained to her that she hadn’t packed him any socks. She said “well if you’d opened your rifle case you would have found your socks, now where were you this weekend”. BUSTED. He folded in about 1 min and admitted the whole thing. His daughter was a lovely girl that was my first. He was a jerk and lost his shirt in the divorce.
24points
#12
This probably isn’t that unique but my ex was such a moron that he used our joint bank card to take his female coworker out one night & every time he used it (to the tune of A THOUSAND dollar night) I would get a notification from our bank.
23points
#13
He upgraded his iPhone and left the old one still syncing to his phone number/icloud.
Every message he received pinged up on his Home Screen on the iPhone which was in my house.
mostly_kittens:
I wonder how much work iCloud has sent divorce lawyers way
Para_Regal:
Mine was sort of similar except it was an old phone he left in a drawer in our house. We were already 95% broken up at this point, but he kept dangling the prospect of reconciling and I was too broken to fight it while dealing with a major health issue making breaking up a decade long relationship really hard to deal with. Like, I was just in survival mode at that point.
Anyway, I found his old phone and fired it up. Photos and texts of everything going back years. With one of my close friends, among others.
Snapped me awake instantly. Called him and told him what I found and he wouldn’t talk to me. Just shut down. Called my friend and told her what I found. She lost it. Broke up with both of them on the spot and moved on without looking back.
Ended up realizing I was in love with my best friend as soon as the dust settled and we’ve been ridiculously happy for the last 7 years, so all that trauma was somehow worth it just to get to where I am now.
Every message he received pinged up on his Home Screen on the iPhone which was in my house.
mostly_kittens:
I wonder how much work iCloud has sent divorce lawyers way
Para_Regal:
Mine was sort of similar except it was an old phone he left in a drawer in our house. We were already 95% broken up at this point, but he kept dangling the prospect of reconciling and I was too broken to fight it while dealing with a major health issue making breaking up a decade long relationship really hard to deal with. Like, I was just in survival mode at that point.
Anyway, I found his old phone and fired it up. Photos and texts of everything going back years. With one of my close friends, among others.
Snapped me awake instantly. Called him and told him what I found and he wouldn’t talk to me. Just shut down. Called my friend and told her what I found. She lost it. Broke up with both of them on the spot and moved on without looking back.
Ended up realizing I was in love with my best friend as soon as the dust settled and we’ve been ridiculously happy for the last 7 years, so all that trauma was somehow worth it just to get to where I am now.
21points
#14
She said her ex was over at her place fixing her car.
I know her ex, we were friends. I had to fix his car for him once. He doesn't know which end of a screwdriver to hold.
coolhead8112:
Probably rearranging her bumpers as well
Away-Lead-3855:
Love it when they think you’re so dense they don’t put in the effort to at least tell a researched lie. Then comes the surprised pickachu face.
is_this_funny2_u:
I called my now ex and asked where he was. He said he was fixing the alternator on his sister's friend's car. I was confused because he didn't even know how to change a tire. He couldn't even change his own oil. He would go to jiffy lube and get swindled into buying new wiper blades and air filters because his were "worn out". But now you know how to change an alternator???
I know her ex, we were friends. I had to fix his car for him once. He doesn't know which end of a screwdriver to hold.
coolhead8112:
Probably rearranging her bumpers as well
Away-Lead-3855:
Love it when they think you’re so dense they don’t put in the effort to at least tell a researched lie. Then comes the surprised pickachu face.
is_this_funny2_u:
I called my now ex and asked where he was. He said he was fixing the alternator on his sister's friend's car. I was confused because he didn't even know how to change a tire. He couldn't even change his own oil. He would go to jiffy lube and get swindled into buying new wiper blades and air filters because his were "worn out". But now you know how to change an alternator???
19points
#15
Their spotify. we had a shared road trip playlist and suddenly it kept showing songs getting added at like 2am, slow acoustic love songs and stuff i definitely didn’t add. checked the profile activity and it kept saying listening with jason. Im like who is jason? turns out that wasn’t a feature, that was my ex’s side piece.
AbbreviationsOdd7728:
Their excuse: It said „Listening with JSON“ and they were just using the Spotify API.
AbbreviationsOdd7728:
Their excuse: It said „Listening with JSON“ and they were just using the Spotify API.
15points
#16
He had her living in a tent behind our house (public park). I thought we had a hobo and I kept telling my kid not to put the ladder by the wall and to stay away. I never saw the person but even called the city. (The ladder kept moving, I thought my kid was spying on the hobo). He told me he wasn’t touching the ladder and I got suspicious. Finally. After working 12 hour days and being so tired all the time I opened my eyes. Found her bathroom stuff in a backpack in our walk in closet (I have too much stuff so hadn’t noticed) and spread out amongst empty shoe boxes stacked in the closet. Diabolical.
shamalyguy:
This is actually the worst one here, because that's probably exploiting someone who's desperate + bringing them into your personal space + putting your children at risk.
DoctorsAdvocate:
I would have trust issues for the rest of my life. Ladders and tents? Absolutely immature behavior, this reads like junior high camp. Is cheating really that appealing you would embarrass yourself like that…
shamalyguy:
This is actually the worst one here, because that's probably exploiting someone who's desperate + bringing them into your personal space + putting your children at risk.
DoctorsAdvocate:
I would have trust issues for the rest of my life. Ladders and tents? Absolutely immature behavior, this reads like junior high camp. Is cheating really that appealing you would embarrass yourself like that…
15points
#17
We were driving through town (she had just moved here) and near the train station she points at a pub. She asks me "is that place a hotel? Like, can you stay there? It's pretty close to the train station" And I'm like "yeah, it's a pub with a hotel attached" and thought nothing more of it for about a week.
Then all of a sudden the conversation just popped into my head a week later, why the hell was she asking about a hotel? And specifically mentioning the train station? I couldn't shake it even though I had never suspected her cheating.
Then one day while she's at work, I use my computer and she's logged into her emails. I had never snooped before but I just needed to know (this was years ago when emails for a good way to communicate).
There was nothing in her inbox to suggest anything, but when I clicked her sent items there were tonnes of emails from her to some guy.
Turns out she met a guy in the city one night on a girls night. They had been talking about meeting up, and he asked her where a close place to the train station was.
I printed off the email and left it on the bed for her to find. When she got home, I purposefully left the room and let her read it.
Every excuse under the sun why it wasn't her fault, and that they had never actually met, but that was enough for me to kick her to the curb.
B_Addie:
Always trust your gut. Although I don’t like snooping either, you gotta trust your gut.
TheRealReapz:
Yeah I'm not a fan of snooping, but I have since come to terms with it because it was good I found out sooner rather than later. If she had nothing to hide and I was just being a jerk, I absolutely would still feel bad to this day.
Then all of a sudden the conversation just popped into my head a week later, why the hell was she asking about a hotel? And specifically mentioning the train station? I couldn't shake it even though I had never suspected her cheating.
Then one day while she's at work, I use my computer and she's logged into her emails. I had never snooped before but I just needed to know (this was years ago when emails for a good way to communicate).
There was nothing in her inbox to suggest anything, but when I clicked her sent items there were tonnes of emails from her to some guy.
Turns out she met a guy in the city one night on a girls night. They had been talking about meeting up, and he asked her where a close place to the train station was.
I printed off the email and left it on the bed for her to find. When she got home, I purposefully left the room and let her read it.
Every excuse under the sun why it wasn't her fault, and that they had never actually met, but that was enough for me to kick her to the curb.
B_Addie:
Always trust your gut. Although I don’t like snooping either, you gotta trust your gut.
TheRealReapz:
Yeah I'm not a fan of snooping, but I have since come to terms with it because it was good I found out sooner rather than later. If she had nothing to hide and I was just being a jerk, I absolutely would still feel bad to this day.
14points
#18
In the olden days, you’d get a paper phone bill with every cell phone call listed. I paid the bills.
I noticed a lot of calls from her cell to the same number, one I didn’t recognize. I dialed it and a guy I knew answered. That pretty much told me everything. From what I’ve seen and heard, people who cheat are by and large very stupid.
kbrymupp:
To be fair: it might just be the stupid ones getting caught. We don't know how many actually successfully pull it off.
Front_Target7908:
Too lazy to be loyal, too lazy to hide their disloyalty
I noticed a lot of calls from her cell to the same number, one I didn’t recognize. I dialed it and a guy I knew answered. That pretty much told me everything. From what I’ve seen and heard, people who cheat are by and large very stupid.
kbrymupp:
To be fair: it might just be the stupid ones getting caught. We don't know how many actually successfully pull it off.
Front_Target7908:
Too lazy to be loyal, too lazy to hide their disloyalty
14points
#19
My exe came home from work as I was getting ready to take the trash out. Before I tied up the bag, she pulled out a paper from her purse & stuffed it deep into the trash...
Naturally, when I walked out to place it in the dumpster, I pulled out the paper (duh). Who wouldn't?
She had written a rough-draft letter to a guy she had been sleeping with for at least the last six months, declaring how guilty she felt, etc.
Can you believe she had the nerve to get upset at ME for violating her trust by reading a letter she had thrown out?
Wow.
We had been together since high-school & this was six years later.
Naturally, when I walked out to place it in the dumpster, I pulled out the paper (duh). Who wouldn't?
She had written a rough-draft letter to a guy she had been sleeping with for at least the last six months, declaring how guilty she felt, etc.
Can you believe she had the nerve to get upset at ME for violating her trust by reading a letter she had thrown out?
Wow.
We had been together since high-school & this was six years later.
14points
#20
Her name was logged in on a game on his Playstation😂.
Kiwi1234567:
I found out via gaming too. She ended up sleeping with a mutual friend and I was looking at the gifts my friend was sending me on pokemon go and was like why are all these gifts coming from the stop outside my girlfriends house
Dr_Dust:
That happened to me! There was a PS2 snowboarding game and he left his name in the high scores. PS2 was in our apartment. Pretty sure he knew what would happen.
Kiwi1234567:
I found out via gaming too. She ended up sleeping with a mutual friend and I was looking at the gifts my friend was sending me on pokemon go and was like why are all these gifts coming from the stop outside my girlfriends house
Dr_Dust:
That happened to me! There was a PS2 snowboarding game and he left his name in the high scores. PS2 was in our apartment. Pretty sure he knew what would happen.
13points