Rosalinda Bautista

My Mom Just Doesn't Understand.

Thank you for sharing these and the advice. It's just harder to pursue my goals when she worries about my safety, I in turn get all those worries in my head that makes me feel incapable as she thought. But yeah I think I can really look at it more from the perspective of love instead of doubts because from your story, it seemed that your mom just really loves you.

My Mom Just Doesn't Understand.

In short: make some serious work into moving out so you can show your mum (and yourself) that you are perfectly capable of living alone and thrive. Make some strategies for coping with her over-worrying. But also remember that she doesn't do it to be mean. It still sucks big time, but she just hasn't realised that you are an adult. (But all parents worry about their kids all the time. Most just don't talk about it much.)

My Mom Just Doesn't Understand.

Some mothers just have a really hard time to realise when their kid has grown up. Especially for only-children. I am 40yo and my mother still sees me as an incompetent teenager. And she hates my bf because she feels he's stealing my away from her. Because I talk with him about the everyday things that I'd call and tell her about years ago. It didn't even help when I began to have children. She still texts me to tell me to drive slowly when it's freezing outside. Because you know... as a 40yo mother of 3 I cannot think myself that I should drive carefully when there's ice and snow on the roads. Lol.