Laura
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Laura · commented on a post
almost 3 years ago
So sorry you are going through all of this! It must be hell! I don`t know why your daugher behaves like this, but speaking from my professional experience as a teacher teenagers are testing their limits. I am not sure if you are imposing your boundaries enough. This is so far beyond anything you should have to tolerate, it should be completely out of question. So if I were you: no more explanations, no more making her feel comfortable. Also no yelling, because it is not very effective. But clear words that this is no longer acceptable and very clear boundaries. Funnily, teachers who are strict are not less liked by their students, but get more respect as long as they are also fair. Right now your daughter doesn`t respect you. Maybe think of her as a young wolf. You must make sure that you are the leader of the pack. By the way: A boarding school might be a very good idea. I worked at one and find that the clear rules established help a lot of students. Good luck!
Laura · upvoted 2 items
almost 3 years ago
OP should watch some episodes of supernanny, where there are a bit older kids. It seems like they're afraid of being firm and giving consequences in the face of this behavior. Like go to your room, immediately and every single time, if you can't behave in a socially acceptable way. And if she doesn't respect mum then dad needs to enforce it, and refuse to engage with the daughter following such incidents.
Sounds like she is acting this way because she has learned there are zero consequences, and it gives her power. When the poster loses her temper with her, she is the one apologizing, she takes away the phone as punishment, but just giver her an older model to use instead, she grounds her then gives in because she doesn't want her to miss out on a social life. The kid clearly has issues, but with no boundaries or consequence , why would she change her behaviour
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almost 3 years ago