
Melodie
Community MemberDon't mind me

Melodie · upvoted 5 items
almost 4 years ago

Melodie · upvoted 35 items
about 4 years ago

THANK YOU! i absolutely loathe the comments saying "well it's a cultural difference so they're not AHs." um, regardless of the reason, it's still not right to raise a child & guilt-trip them into taking care of you just because you took care of them, which is what parents are REQUIRED to do if they choose to have a kid! regardless of "cultural explainations" for the behavior, it still has negative impacts on the kid so there's no excuse for that part of the culture to continue. thank you for breaking the cycle of abuse disguised as cultural differences.

I am Asian. This is a bane and a blessing of belonging to an Asian family. Yes, I do send money to my parents because we are raised as retirement funds as kids. As much as I have love for them, I do resent it because of the guilt trip and abuse of this cultural moral obligation. I vowed that with my kids I will break this cycle and I work hard not only to provide for them but also so I will have enough to support myself when I grow older and not to depend on them. I will appreciate their help but it does not always have to be monetary. Just because I have been through it does not mean they have to.

