*hippie*witchy*bitch*
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I'm a Hippie from Oregon who likes spiritual shit, wearing hoodies, and not giving a fuck. I love nature, but I hate hiking in it with other people, and I think the most beautiful thing is the night sky. I also like true crime, spongebob, fresh prince and eating food in general.
*hippie*witchy*bitch* · commented on 27 posts
about 5 years ago
hey asshole, maybe don't...I dunno, demean children and make them seem less important? believe it or not, but THE FEELINGS OF A CHILD ARE JUST AS VALID AS AN ADULT'S! *gasp* oh my god! so crazy!
thank you for sharing your voice and understanding how important this is. you're a good person.
*hippie*witchy*bitch* · upvoted 13 items
about 5 years ago
I also never blamed hugs for sexual assault, or am sexualising hugs AT ALL. For the thousandth time it is just teaching CONSENT or body autonomy. Also you can learn forgiveness without being forced into hugging/kissing. If a parent feels rejected coz their child doesn't want a hug then that is their problem. Whilst it would like hugs from my daughter more often, I won't let my feelings make her feel guilty. Guilt tripping someone into affection is a common tactic predators use, including abusive partners. The idea of consent is to teach and protect them in the future. Oh and my brothers and I were not close as kids, we argued all the time, hurt each other and didn't hug. but now we are adults we love hanging out together and get along exceptionally well and we hug. Also newsflash, teaching a young child about sexual abuse is too complicated for them to fully understand. So teaching them the simple "no means no" when it comes to physical touch is the foundation and you can build onto it as they get older.
Again you are not getting it. I am not talking about not to show any affection or being paranoid. This is about consent and not feeling like you have to appease others. I am from a very affectionate family but my daughter doesn't like much affection so I would never force her. I ask "do you want a hug" or "can I have a hug". Most of the time she will say no but my son on the other hand will take most affection and loves it. But I still ask him out of respect. A 2 year old does know when they are uncomfortable and will often shy or run away. It is not blaming the victim AT all, this is just teaching them that they are allowed to say no. No one has the right to touch you if it makes you uncomfortable. Even if it's a simple hug and a kiss. Not offering affection to your kids is psychologically damaging, there is evidence to support that. But again I never said to withhold affection. Offer it and if they accept then great, if It's personal choice. Not everyone likes physical touch.