
ThisIsMe
Community MemberNot much to tell - I work for money, I foster and volunteer with feline rescue, foster failed too many times. Love my husband and love this site!

ThisIsMe · commented on a post
10 days ago

One time I sent my husband to the store for chicken. Only chicken, and I needed it for a dish I was making for a party. He got excited because it was an opportunity for him to drive his antique sports car that was finally running. He was gone almost an hour, came home without the chicken.

ThisIsMe · upvoted an item
10 days ago

ThisIsMe · commented on a post
19 days ago

When I first started out in my career, the company was very small and couldn't support it's own soda machine (you had to go to the third floor of the buiding and get a drink from the lunch business there, or walk to the cafe next door. So someone in management (!) took it upon themselve to buy canned drinks every weeks, stock the fridge, and there was a tin can to drop your payment in. You could even include a note asking for a particular soda. Those were the days!!

ThisIsMe · commented on 2 posts
23 days ago

Had something similar in my life. I'm an only child, husband was one of six. My parents struggled financially and ultimately with health. We helped them with both. My husband was very close to them. One time when he wouldn't come to the hospital to sit with his own mom for a few hours becuase it wasn't really necessary, his sister wrote ME an ugly email about how he didn't know what it meant to be an advocate for someone, that he was selfish and lacked compassion. Last year at his celebration of life, I was happy to speak about his generousity of time and money, and called out the multiple people in our lives that he had gone above and beyond for - both my parents, a neighbor with no local family, another neighbor who was widowed and alone, etc. The In-laws have frequently asked for or expected money from us because we didn't have children. My husband helped my parents financially because he WANTED to...okay, now I'm just venting LOL

Reminded me of a situation early in my career. I had three young men working in a single large room. Two of them reported to me, the third was part of a diff group but his work needed to be coordinated with the other two, so effectively I managed all three. People visiting the room or sitting close by started to complain to me about the smell, which I noticed as well. But having them each visit my office individually, I was able to determine that the problem was B, not P or R. I knew I had to address it, but first I spoke with P and R, because they had never once complained about B's smell. They told me that B had recently switched to an all-natural lifestyle with chemical-free deodorant. Clearly it wasn't working for him. They begged me to let THEM address it with him because they were all friends and as his female "boss" if similar age, he would be mortified if I brought up his hygiene issues. I don't know what they said, but the smell went away soon after and never returned.

ThisIsMe · upvoted 3 items
24 days ago

I hope it's a type of metal that doesn't get super hot in the sun

ThisIsMe · commented on 9 posts
about 1 month ago

I lost my husband about 1.5 years ago, and I am so grateful that we went low-contact with most of his family ages ago. We did our own version of holidays, stopped showing up where he didn't want to be, and setting boundaries. When he died, I made all the arrangements, which made his family very angry - I didn't do anything to acknowledge the loss to his family, only to celebrate the life he had and the amazing person he had become. Since he passed, only 2 people in his very large family have reached out to check on me. His mother is hurt that I am not a comfort for her. His father was upset that I honored Mike's wishes that no one in his family come see him in the hospital, so I robbed them of saying goodbye. I will gladly carry all their anger knowing he was happier not involved with them and that I allowed him to pass exactly as he would have wanted.

We said "no kids" with the exception of two girls who were old enough to be jr bridesmaids, plus 3 younger from his immediate family. I had two guests who took issue - one who begged every day (co-worker) because it was a "great chance for other co-workers to meet her son" and because her mother had made my headpiece (?? not good reasons for an exception) and a friend of my mother's who refused to come if she couldn't bring her adult daughter (not invited) and grandchild in place of her husband, who WAS invited but didn't want to come. One high school friend just ignored the request and brought her young daughter. I told people the venue wasn't kid friendly, and that woman spent the whole reception chasing her little girl around.

ThisIsMe · upvoted 6 items
about 1 month ago

So many YTAs. The sister lied to get the job. Not worth risking the OP's reputation at work for doing a favour for a person who let her down the last time. I'll go for NTA.

ThisIsMe · commented on 6 posts
2 months ago

Similarly, I was at a charity auction and realized that some Karen was sending her son (maybe 10 or 11) over to bid just a dollar higher than me whenever she saw someone right on that sheet. That way she could keep sitting at her table chatting away. Item was still reasonably priced at that point, so I took a chance and bid a single bid for much more than it was worth - I make regular donations to this place anyway, so why not? Sure enough, as soon as I sit down little boy runs over and bids a dollar more, just as he was told. She won the item, never knew what happened until she went to the table to pay. I will never forget how happy I was that night LOL

This story was actually pretty triggering for me. No pregnancy involved, but one time years ago my husband decided I had been cheating and wanted me to prove that I had not (I had not). How would someone even do that? His "evidence" was highly circumstancial, and really just pointed to the fact we had insecurities and communication issues to deal with. But I was devestated and crying all the time, while he thought I should be responding with anger at being falsely accused. I really admire how OPs wife handled everything, and which I had been able to do that. Would have saved us a lot of heartache.

ThisIsMe · upvoted 7 items
3 months ago






